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Courtesy Ramsiel, Love&Light World
Dear Angels,
“I have been trying to conceive for 10 years now. It is causing major problems in our marriage. Just wanted to ask if a pregnancy is in the future.” Connie, Johannesburg, So.Africa
Dear Connie,
The tension that has built up for you over not getting pregnant is not only suppressing your happiness but also ruining your marriage. You don’t feel complete without having children.
Your husband is equally miserable. Perhaps he feels it is his “fault” that you are not pregnant. Or maybe he thinks that others will think of him as less of a man. When our vulnerability surfaces is the time to notice we need to take a different tact. It is an opportunity to heal our heart. Your husband feels unhappy and insecure because not only don’t the two of you have the baby you want, but now your relationship is not working either. He has lost his sense of you two as a partnership, where you love and support each other. His hopes are crushed, perhaps not so much with the idea of not having a baby to share but with the idea that you two no longer share the love and closeness that you once did.
What can bring you the possibility of a child, aside from the obvious answer of adopting a child who needs love even more than you two do, is for you to go within. For you to be silent. To meditate. Or do yoga. Or a practice where you release the accumulated tension of your mind’s stress from non-stop “trying.” See if you can put your mind on hold and just be. Enjoy your life together and apart.
In our limited view of life, we all feel like if we can just get a grip, if we can just get control, if All That Is would just do what we want, then life would be fine. Unfortunately, the Universe doesn’t work like this. Your resistance to what appears to be happening is creating a block to conception.
If you are able to stop searching continually for the right time for conception, and if you are able to surrender, literally, the idea of getting pregnant, so that you are no longer obsessed, there appears to be every reason for baby success. Look to see if you are having sex with your man because you want a baby. What happened to I love you for you? Once you release your will to the Divine, then just the right thing will happen, maybe even a baby. Try the novel idea of having sex just because…it’s raining, you’re sexy, I miss you.
It depends on both of you letting go, trusting that if a baby is to arrive, it will not happen when you are so busy looking that you forget the reason you came together in the beginning. You initially loved each other. You shared hopes and dreams. Now you have an opportunity to support each other with that same loving trust. Master this and you will be on your way to true success in life.