Often I check on Google Alerts to see if anyone is reading my drivel. I’ve noticed there are weekly articles on the fear of death. The dead and I have made friends in the last eleven years. These topics no longer frighten me. In 1999 the dead showed up in the middle of the night with a burst of blinding light right before the “turn of the century,” 2000 A.D.
Now I’ve had a solid ten plus years of the dead and me learning to talk to each other. The dead seem to trust me more now that I am not so terrified of connecting. They show up without the early-on labor pains of 2000 – 2004. Now I feel safe and comfortable in their presence. I know that the very alive dead are often delighted to reunite with us. There are things and incidences left unspoken, that initially at least, they would like to be able to rectify.
What I’ve learned is in the timelessness of the afterlife, most of the very alive dead finally let go. No longer does it matter to them whether you have a new lover. Or if you are thirty pounds overweight and your hips fill the chair. They don’t care. It’s not a concern. The dead live in the spirit world where bodies no longer matter. Life is simpler minus the body and all the care it requires, all the pain it brings, along with all the hopes and dashed hopes that are carried because of our focus on the physical.
What matters in the afterlife is your level of consciousness. With a high level, you are able to create a positive difference in many areas both on earth as well as in your dead life. With a low level, you will most likely coast until it is time to side down the birth chute and give it all another try.
Often those I read for in my practice express concern over the wishes of their deceased. “What about my brother selling the house and running with the money?” “Where did Grandma hide all that money she stashed?” “Is Dad upset because Mom remarried? By the way, that guy is not anywhere near as nice as you Dad.”
Perhaps immediately after death Dad might be concerned. It’s my experience that there are some spirits who still hold on like they did in life. Eventually, even these spirits let go. The memory fades. They’re content and most often nonplussed by the vagaries of our alive life from the view of the spirit world. Think of what happens to you when you go on a fabulous vacation. As you traverse at breakneck speed downhill on your new skis, are you feeling depressed because you aren’t sitting at your computer in your windowless cubicle? I hope not!
Should you be interested in connecting with your own deceased, I have some tips for you.
1. Before you are ready to fall asleep, settle into a quiet space. Breathe consciously but remain awake. Invoke the picture in your mind’s eye of Dad or Grandma, or whomever. Make your wishes known and open your heart so that you are offering a loving invitation. If your intention is to tell Dad “a thing or two,” he probably won’t show up.
2. This second step is most important. Drop a bubble of white light around you. Put yourself in the middle of a golden white sphere of light. Moving into the astral plane when you sleep can get you in trouble, so be careful to protect yourself with the light so you don’t attract negative energies.
3. Again, focus on the person in spirit form you are missing and allow yourself to fall asleep loving them as best you can. If you like, you may say their name out loud three times, knowing that most likely, they will show up.
4. Sleep knowing that even if you don’t remember the first couple of times you attempt this, eventually you will succeed. It took me a couple of years to completely forgive my mother. One day I realized that it was over. I loved her and she loved me, as much as we were able at the time. She did the best she could as did I. Now Mom and I often enjoy each others company at night. F.y.i., she’s been dead thirty years and it took me 25 to get to this place of unconditional love.
5. It’s a good idea to keep a pen and paper by your bed. Try not to be discouraged if you don’t remember in the morning. Keep at it, and if like me, there is a lack of forgiveness in the way, it is never too late to ask to be forgiven and to forgive. It paves the way to good health, higher consciousness and joy.