The Afterlife: A Medium’s Ideas and 5 Steps to Connect

Courtesy Ramsiel, Love&Light World

Often I check on Google Alerts to see if anyone is reading my drivel.  I’ve noticed there are weekly articles on the fear of death.  The dead and I have made friends in the last eleven years.  These topics no longer frighten me. In 1999 the dead showed up in the middle of the night with a burst of blinding light right before the “turn of the century,”  2000 A.D.

Now I’ve had a solid ten plus years of the dead and me learning to talk to each other.  The dead seem to trust me more now that I am not so terrified of connecting. They show up without the early-on labor pains of 2000 – 2004.  Now I feel  safe and comfortable in their presence.  I know that the very alive dead are often delighted to reunite with us.  There are things and incidences left unspoken, that initially at least, they would like to be able to rectify.

What I’ve learned is in the timelessness of the afterlife, most of the very alive dead finally let go.  No longer does it matter to them whether you have a new lover. Or if you are thirty pounds overweight and your hips fill the chair. They don’t care. It’s not a concern.  The dead live in the spirit world where bodies no longer matter. Life is simpler minus the body and all the care it requires, all the pain it brings, along with all the hopes and dashed hopes that are carried because of our focus on the physical.

What matters in the afterlife is your level of consciousness.  With a high level, you are able to create a positive difference in many areas both on earth as well as in your dead life. With a low level, you will most likely coast until it is time to side down the birth chute and give it all another try.

Often those I read for in my practice express concern over the wishes of their deceased.  “What about my brother selling the house and running with the money?” “Where did Grandma hide all that money she stashed?” “Is Dad upset because Mom remarried? By the way, that guy is not anywhere near as nice as you Dad.”

Perhaps immediately after death Dad might be concerned. It’s my experience that there are some spirits who still hold on like they did in life. Eventually, even these spirits let go. The memory fades. They’re content and most often nonplussed by the vagaries of our alive life from the view of the spirit world.  Think of what happens to you when you go on a fabulous vacation. As you traverse at breakneck speed downhill on your new skis, are you feeling depressed because you aren’t sitting at your computer in your windowless cubicle? I hope not!

Should you be interested in connecting with your own deceased, I have some tips for you.

1.  Before you are ready to fall asleep, settle into a quiet space.  Breathe consciously but remain awake. Invoke the picture in your mind’s eye of Dad or Grandma, or whomever.  Make your wishes known and open your heart so that you are offering a loving invitation. If your intention is to tell Dad “a thing or two,” he probably won’t show up.

2.  This second step is most important. Drop a bubble of white light around you. Put yourself in the middle of a golden white sphere of light.  Moving into the astral plane when you sleep can get you in trouble, so be careful to protect yourself with the light so you don’t attract negative energies.

3.  Again, focus on the person in spirit form you are missing and allow yourself to fall asleep loving them as best you can. If you like, you may say their name out loud three times, knowing that most likely, they will show up.

4.  Sleep knowing that even if you don’t remember the first couple of times you attempt this, eventually you will succeed.  It took me a couple of years to completely forgive my mother. One day I realized that it was over. I loved her and she loved me, as much as we were able at the time.  She did the best she could as did I. Now Mom and I often enjoy each others company at night. F.y.i., she’s been dead thirty years and it took me 25 to get to this place of unconditional love.

5.  It’s a good idea to keep a pen and paper by your bed. Try not to be discouraged if you don’t remember in the morning. Keep at it, and if like me, there is a lack of forgiveness in the way, it is never too late to ask to be forgiven and to forgive. It paves the way to good health, higher consciousness and joy.



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  1. Anna
    Posted January 11, 2012 at 11:48 am | Permalink

    Hi Emmy. I recently had a chanelled session, and my dad and uncle came to me. It was extreemly moving to know for sure they are still there supporting me. Now I want to talk to them more. The question I have is, do I need to ask them if they are available when I want to talk? I’m guessing they are not there watching me every second of the day.
    Love Anna

    • Posted January 31, 2012 at 2:52 pm | Permalink

      HI Anna,
      Sorry I didn’t see this before. There seemed to be no notification for me. Today I was checking for spammers, which occurs once in awhile, and bumped into your comment.

      I’m so glad you were able to feel your dad and uncle. In the afterlife, or spirit world, there is no time. Therefore, you just put in your order and maintain your focus, once you’ve protected yourself in the Light.

      It feels to me as if the “dead” are always with us. For people you were close to in life, they tend to have an antenna out your way, especially if you are asking for them or something that they would naturally help you with if they were in a body.

      If you just want to chat, it is wise to go through your angels or guides of light as usual. That way you don’t pick up any “riffraff” along the way.

      One more thing Anna. Your connection may take many tries. I tried to connect many times with my mom before she would connect with me in a way I could recognize her.

  2. Anna
    Posted February 6, 2012 at 10:30 am | Permalink

    Hi Emmy,
    Thanks for your reply.
    I’ve been busy moving and have also met a lovely man, so haven’t made that space to try to talk with my dad, but I am now wearing his watch, and everytime I wind it up, I think of him, and invite him to be close to me. It feels good to do that.
    Love Anna x

  3. Posted February 7, 2012 at 10:23 am | Permalink

    Whoo. I can feel this. He is right with you, still supporting you, still acting as your protector, still loving you and encouraging you to think highly of yourself and act accordingly.

  4. Anna
    Posted February 10, 2012 at 3:11 pm | Permalink

    And I love him so much, knowing he is with me, encouraging and supporting me is so wonderful.
    Thanks Emmy

  5. Raymond
    Posted November 11, 2012 at 11:16 am | Permalink

    Hi Emmy
    Both my parents have died and the more recent one that passed away was my best friend. I have connected with my friend on several occasions, and once I needed to give a message to our other friend, and the other occassion I needed to let her mother know that things are ok. My question is howcome is it so easy for me to connect with my best friend and not with my parents.
    Thanks Ray

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  7. Ashley
    Posted May 6, 2013 at 11:17 am | Permalink

    Hello,my name is Ashley my brother passed away on December,6,2012. I have been trying pretty much since that day to connect with him on the other side,I need to know if he is at peace and I also need answers as to why he did what he did. My whole family has not been the same since that night it happened,I have tried what you suggested above but I can’t seem to get anything. Is there anything else you could suggest I try to connect with my brother?. He was my best friend and most trusted confidant,I thank you for your time.

  8. Noreen
    Posted May 30, 2014 at 1:31 pm | Permalink

    This may seem silly, but I need to gear from my dog. I feel like her death was horrible and I should have found some way to save her, but I did not. I miss her and I need to know if she forgives me. I feel horrible and so sad and mad at myself. She died two days ago.

  9. Noreen
    Posted May 30, 2014 at 1:31 pm | Permalink

    This may seem silly, but I need to hear from my dog. I feel like her death was horrible and I should have found some way to save her, but I did not. I miss her and I need to know if she forgives me. I feel horrible and so sad and mad at myself. She died two days ago.

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  11. Rencia
    Posted July 12, 2014 at 7:59 am | Permalink

    Hi I need some help and advice I have a relitive that can’t go to rest its been 5years and last week people I don’t know or new anything about my relitive told me they saw him and desribed him to me.

  12. David
    Posted July 29, 2014 at 7:18 am | Permalink

    Good day I lost my son Recently to suicide and I’ve been researching about the afterlife . I would like to contact my son to see how he’s doing and why did he do it and did he love his family ? He leaves back 3 brothers his father and mother .. And had a girlfriend . Thank you

  13. Destiny
    Posted September 13, 2014 at 8:01 pm | Permalink

    Hi my name is Destiny Reynolds I’m 15 and I want to communicate with my dad he has been dead for almost 3 years I just miss him soo much can you please tell me how I can talk to him or an you please help me.?

  14. Brett Morris
    Posted January 1, 2015 at 2:41 am | Permalink

    My mother died in 2012. I was told that her brother was coming to get her. Her brother Jay died in 1979. I had not thought of him for 20 years. It was a direct tap to my consciousness I perceived light, love and that she(my mom) would be taken care of. I am happy to have had connectivity but I think it is very rare. The universe is love.

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    My Angels started whispering in my ear in 1998 that I was supposed to talk with the dead. “Are you kidding?” was my reaction. No one was more resistant than me. I flat out refused. It wasn’t until the dead appeared at the foot of my bed in the middle of the night that I realized that what I thought of as my choice of talking to the dead or not, was not mine to make.

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