Mother’s Day: How to Talk to Your Deceased Mom

courtesy Ramsiel, Love&Light World

So many have asked how to connect to Mom, I am reprinting this, with a few added changes for this Mother’s Day  May 11, 2014.  If you have a challenge connecting with your own Mom, I am running a special through the end of May for a full hour via phone with your deceased for only $98.00, a 25% discount. To take advantage of this, please speak English clearly and email for an appointment.

A young woman asked me, “How do I reconnect with my mom who died?  I  want to know if she’s ok. Can you help me?”

When you are not used to connecting with the spirit world, it takes a little doing initially.  Although when someone has just passed, often people feel that person’s presence at least for a couple of days.  Since this was an email request, she didn’t say how long it’s been since Mom moved on, but here are my suggestions.

1.  The first thing to understand is that connecting with the deceased can be a wonderful experience. However, you need to be aware that there are other energies floating around out there besides your loving mom. Just like you would not walk on the wrong side of town by yourself at night, you don’t want to move into the home of the deceased unprotected either.  If you’ve ever had a nightmare, you can understand there is energy  you do not want to bump into on the astral plane.

2.  To connect with your deceased safely, it is best to create a protective shield around you.  You don’t leave your door unlocked at night. For the same reason you want to protect yourself in the astral world. To protect yourself, set your intention to connect with a specific person deliberately.

My suggestion is to set aside a quiet space where you surround yourself with any angels or guides you feel drawn to, as well as any masters such as Jesus or Mohammed or just the Divine itself.  Do this intentionally. Ask for their protection and the ability to connect. Then accept that you have connected with your mom.  What I do is say the person’s name I want to speak to out loud, three times as a way to insure that it is only mom who appears.

3. Then sit quietly. If it helps to have her picture, by all means look at her. Put out anything that reminds you of her.  Personally, I feel the person’s energy run up my right leg and sometimes up both. Just sit there. Hold the intention and expect your mom to be with you.  As you relax  you will feel her love for you.  Perhaps you will even see or hear her.  You might smell her perfume or cigarette if she smoked.  You might even feel her touch.

If you feel nothing, do not assume that she is not there. It is simply because you are wearing your 3D (third dimensional) glasses and she is in the spirit world. 3D glasses don’t work there. Connecting and recognizing the connection between the physical and spiritual world requires a slightly different focus and practice. I can help if you want.

4.  The more relaxed you can be without any expectation of something amazing happening, the easier it will all be. Just create the intention that you will feel her love and that she will feel and accept yours.  It’s that simple.

5.  One more…if Mom crossed over many years ago, it may be more difficult to feel your past connection, but not impossible. It is like everything else the Quantum Physicists talk about. It is all real but not necessarily in our world. Therefore, you may not receive what you think is an answer or even sense her. That does not mean that you have not succeeded in sending your love. She may be unaccustomed in how to return the connection.

If you need help, this is one of the things that I do and I’d be happy to assist. Personally, it took me awhile before I knew for sure I was connecting with the deceased, but now it is fairly simple.  If there is something special you want to discuss with her, just do it. Or write to her.

If you can keep the thought that this is possible, you may very well find yourself in a lovely chat with mom just in time for Mother’s Day.

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  1. emeshni
    Posted July 4, 2011 at 1:20 pm | Permalink

    My mum,Chinthamoney Naidoo, died 25 May 2011.I took care of her until the end.I love her n miss her.I just want to know if she’s ok, if she loves me.

    • Posted July 18, 2012 at 10:07 am | Permalink

      Your loving mother is not only okay, but she is right there with you. I can feel her. All you have to do is be willing to allow yourself to deliberately “see” beyond your physical five senses. You can do it. What makes it difficult is we are trained to ignore anything except the five senses.

      She is close in for you. As close as she ever was. You are not crazy. You are simply feeling her presence. If you have her picture, put it somewhere where you can see it and acknowledge her as you walk by.

      All the loving care you gave her she is giving you. Allow yourself to “pretend” that it is so, because it is.

      • sophia
        Posted March 27, 2013 at 11:29 am | Permalink

        Hi, i don’t really believe in people who communicate with the dead but i am 13 years old and i recently lost my mom. She was my best friend, the only one who could see how i was feeling without me having to explain. Now that shes gone i am so terribly lost. she died of cancer, and i feel like i can still see how she looked when she passed, i feel angry and guilty at the same time, and i am just praying that i could hear her voice one more time, i just want to have that closure, and i want answers because i have so many questions, starting with why the hell didn’t she tell me she was near her last days? I start high school next year and i all i can think about is what am i going to do when i have even more trouble? sometimes i just wish i could be up there with her!…is that crazy?!

        • Karen
          Posted March 30, 2013 at 8:01 pm | Permalink

          Anger and guilt and sadness and despair will all take turns in your head until you find some peace with losing your Mom. It really takes a while to accept that this has really happened. She may not have known that she was in her final days. So, try not to be angry about that. But, if you are angry that she died and left you, you are not alone. Many people feel both sadness and anger toward our loved ones when we lose them especially losing a parent or a spouse. You just don’t know how you will be able to go on without them in your life. But, you will….. It will take time to learn how to live without her. However, she will always be with you…

          • Thaya
            Posted April 20, 2013 at 5:18 am | Permalink

            Hi, my mom died 5 years ago on this day and on the night she died i was 7 years old(im 12 now) i felt someone messing with my hair like she used to and when i moved to another country in i was (8 turning 9) i felt like someone was playing with my hair again .last year i was cleaning the floor when i smelt her favourite perfum i immediately felt calm i think its her help i want to know if she is fine (she had breast cancer for 8 years )

          • Posted April 10, 2014 at 4:23 pm | Permalink

            HI Thaya,

            How special you are that you are open to your mom’s subtle touch. When you feel or smell her, know that it is not in your mind. She is with you. Loving you as always. Watching over you as always.

            Your mom is just fine. She loves you with her whole heart and wants you to know that she will always be with you as long as you need her.

            My own mom died when I was an adult and after 30 years, she is often so clearly in my dreams that I wake up knowing we were doing things together. What? I can’t tell you. I just know I awake happy, knowing we were together.

            When it is your time to cross over, you will see her with open arms awaiting your return to your real home.

          • lisa
            Posted December 22, 2014 at 6:34 am | Permalink

            i lost my mom before thanksgiving of this year last month the most devastaing thning i ever threw i though i couldn,t go on with my life she was my everything my mom rasied us two girls with no father she did rasise us very good and i can,t get over her death she had brain brain that started spreading she was soo strong and we just came back from florida and came back to new jersey and this tradegy hit me befores the holiday,s you do go on but but you never forget who she was to you my mom was the best thing that ever happen to me soo shocking it almost felt like life didn,t matter to me anymore without her soo sad loosing her..I hope she,s in much better place now she didn,t want to leave me but she wasn,t strong enoungh to sustain that pain soo sorry she,s gone…

        • Joanna
          Posted May 6, 2013 at 5:34 pm | Permalink

          Hi, I know exactly what you’re going through, and I am in my 30’s. My mother just passed on Valentine’s Day of cancer as well. I feel like a lost little girl. She will always be my best friend and soul mate. Feelings of guilt, anger, etc. are all normal, so try to be strong and keep remembering that your mom does not want you to suffer, but to be happy again, because she loves you and wants you to go on with your life. It’s true, your mom may not have know that she was so close to dying because she wanted to keep fighting and stay with you; my mom did not expect to leave us yet, she wanted to stay with me so badly. She did not let go of hope until the last minute. Only did she know she would die a couple of weeks prior to it, and she made peace. As far as connecting with her, well I am frustrated because my grief is getting in the way. Relax, and you will feel her with you. I feel my mom a lot, as well as have had some signs. Once I heal a bit more and just calm my emotions, I know she will communicate more. Hang in there!

        • Posted June 24, 2013 at 4:16 pm | Permalink

          Hi Sophia,

          Sorry for this long delay in answering, but I’m techno-phobic and couldn’t figure out how to open all these comments. There are still plenty I have missed.

          My suggestion, Sophia, is to see if you can get some counseling through a kind family member, a church if you belong, maybe the school psychologist, or even online where other teenagers write in.

          What I can assure you is that your mom misses and loves you. She wants you to know that there is nothing to feel guilty about, nothing to be worried about, as long as you take care of yourself. Since she is not with you in the physical, only in the spirit world, which in her case means as often as you want, she is hoping that you trust someone to talk about your misery.

          You are not crazy. Also, it is normal to be angry, guilty AND so loving that it’s painful. Imagine that your mom and you have a great relationship and can talk daily. As if things were normal and you could return from school and talk to her while she fixed dinner. Set aside time before bed where you recount the day to her. Like you might if she were alive. She is alive, but you can’t see you. She is with you but you can’t feel her. All it takes if practice. It took me years but it was worth it.

          with love, Emmy

        • Osman
          Posted October 1, 2014 at 8:48 am | Permalink

          Dear Sophia,

          If one could find words to change how you feel, it would be the greatest gift to share with our living friends who have lost someone. I too lost my mother, and I am much older than you. The only words I can share in hopes that it finds you feeling somewhat better are these: time helps you feel better, but never really takes away the sense of loss and pain. You have that sense of loss and pain BECAUSE of how much you loved your mother. Knowing that does not make it easier. Time will diminish the pain. All I can say is hand in there. It’s been 2.5 years since my mom passed, and I cried like a baby just yesterday over her, and I am a 48 year-old man. Know that you will have good days and bad days. Make it through the bad days and fully enjoy the good days. “On earth as it is in heaven.” Your mom can tell that you are having a bad day (in terms of feeling sad, depressed, and lonely, and finds a way to comfort you from where she is). So, she may be experiencing a bad day where she is (“on earth as it is in heaven”) and would try to cheer you up by sending a sign. Your mom would not want you to feel down and sad, so she will find some way to cheer you up, and way you understand. God bless you.

    • Osman
      Posted October 1, 2014 at 8:40 am | Permalink

      Without a doubt on this earth, she loves you.

  2. Robert Rubin
    Posted August 1, 2011 at 3:17 am | Permalink

    My dearest Mommie died when she was only 63 years old. She had a difficult life, and I was only 28 when she passed away.

    Since then, many years since, she has appeared to me during difficult times in my own life, and now I know how much I love her. She was so kind and beautiful.

    I remember once years ago I was in such despair. I went into a KFC just to sit and cry. And then I saw her sitting across the table from me, maybe not really there, but certainly I felt her love and presence. She smiled at me and I could even smell her perfume. I felt safe again.

    Since then I have felt her loving presence many more times.

    God bless you, my dearest Mommie. I will love you forever. Forgive me for taking you so much for granted when you were in this world.

    There is nothing in this world like a mother’s love for her children, for it transcends even death.

    • Posted August 1, 2011 at 2:41 pm | Permalink

      Thank you for taking the time to post. If we are lucky enough to have a loving Mother or Dad, we are blessed indeed with someone to lean back on, someone to understand us or at least try to, and someone who will model behavior we hope to find in our adult life in another. Without that, we are left with this feeling of floating alone in the sea of life. The answer is always the same. To love with an open heart while learning to stay clear of those with pincers, big teeth or poisonous tentacles.

      By the way, you are right. Love transcends death. In fact I believe now after playing around in the world of the non-dead, that it is in our dead spirit life that we are modeled how to live in our physical body life.

      • Posted March 22, 2012 at 7:58 pm | Permalink

        On Sunday I was invited to antetd the special Mass and celebrations for six Missionary Priests and Brothers who have dedicated their lives to serving the poor particularly in Africa. They were all celebrating either their 25th or 50th anniversaries in their Mother House in Paris.It was very humbling to be there to share in the joy. The Priest next to me at table regaled me with stories of the Congo and of eating elephant and monkey which happily were not on the menu at the celebratory meal!I have found talking to the Missionary priests who have experienced so much hardship among people who have so little materially makes our own petty problems seem insignificant. A most uplifting day.

    • Posted April 30, 2014 at 3:14 am | Permalink


    • Tiffany
      Posted July 16, 2014 at 11:14 pm | Permalink

      Sometimes I’m angry at my mom for “leaving” me. I’m the only girl and the oldest. My 27th birthday is on Monday and losing my mom on Feb. 28, 2013 has done nothing but make me miss her to the point of not even wanting to look at a picture or hear her voice in a video sometimes. It’s hard not having her to talk to. I grew up in a Christian home and I know my mom would t approve of me doing anything like this, teaching out I to the world of the deceased but I miss her beyond words and I just want to make sure she still loves me and has not forgotten.

    • Osman
      Posted October 1, 2014 at 8:56 am | Permalink


      May peace be with you. I long for peacefulness, but it is difficult given the weight of grief which burdens my heavy heart. I wish to feel and experience something like you described. I believe the intenseness of love must transcend our physical reality, as the power of love cannot been seen, captured, or held prisoner by any physical means. As such, it must transcend through the vale of the living and the passed. God bless you for sharing. You are so right about taking moms for granted. So many years I lived my life away from my mom that I now look back with mournful regret, thinking that those moments in my past, when I was “living my life,” could have been spent hanging out with her (just doing nothing if that were the case). Now, I would do just about anything to sit with her, hold her hand, and hug her. I just want to hear those sweet words from her, “I love you, son.” I imagine you do too.

  3. Heidi Fiaher Balla
    Posted December 8, 2011 at 5:50 pm | Permalink

    My Mommma died 11-1-11, I wake up at night screaming for her. I find that I have no way of connecting with her. I hope she remembers how her grandson, CUrt was there for her. How I climbed fences to get Poppa awake because he turned his hearing aides off just to sleep. I want to know she didn’t die alone or cold. They told me she wasn’t alone…but I want her to know I tried and I am so alone, I just want to feel her again and know she is happy…I miss her so much, and others just go on as if I should just go on…

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 4:37 pm | Permalink

      Hi Heidi,
      Losing a parent, especially when you are young, is impossibly difficult.
      What you can’t see while in the body is that once you leave your body behind, you see everything. Your Momma knows that her grandson was with her. She knows that you climbed the fence to wake up Poppa. She experiences your love still.

      What you can’t feel is that she is still with you. Love doesn’t die. The next time you feel alone, deliberately speak to her. Ask her to be with you and she will be there.

      Don’t feel like she abandoned you because you aren’t aware of her presence. It is rather that in the physical, we are attuned to physical energy. Solid. In the spiritual, which is where she is now, no longer does she have a physical body. It’s more cloud-like. If you saw her, like I saw my mom, I reached up to put my arms around her and my hands came together without my mother in between, at least to my eyes and arms. She was still there. I just could not feel her in my physical world.

  4. amma
    Posted March 6, 2012 at 2:12 pm | Permalink

    My mom passesd 2011 last april. She was only 58. I miss her with all of my heart, especially today. i dream of her sometimes, its like she visits me once a month because i can feel when she is around. Since she died my instincts have become sharpend to bad omens, i cn sense when someone is about to die, i get really sad or depressed. i write to my mom and she always finds a way of snswering me or warning me. i know that i am devinely blessed and protected bt i just miss hr so so much

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 4:40 pm | Permalink

      HI Amma,

      You and your mom have a lovely relationship. It’s wonderful that you have been able to allow yourself to feel her energy. If you want to make her happy, you can allow yourself to take the love the two of you have together still, and replicate that with another person. You will magnify the love that you both deserve.

  5. Posted March 9, 2012 at 9:37 pm | Permalink

    i lost my mom on 5-5-11….i luvd her soo mch…i nevr made frnds bcoz she was my best frnd…i cant live widout her.,evry min,evry sec i miss her.,i want her back,..i want 2 knw z she alrite?

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 4:42 pm | Permalink

      Hi Oupma,

      If you really want to honor your mom, to show her how much you love her, and I know you do, please take the love you have for her and expand it. Allow yourself to love others with her heart AND yours. Imagine the enormity of love that as partners, you two will be able to create. You can change your world and all who are lucky enough to befriend you.

  6. deepa chopra
    Posted April 24, 2012 at 6:26 am | Permalink

    My Mother passed away 0n 18 th feb 2012 .I love her a lot and want to speak to her and feel her .I miss her and and want to connect pls tell me the way .I saw her once in my dream ,saying that she is fine was it my imagination or it was real ? I need my mothers guidancer ,there are so many things I want to ask .Please suggest

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 4:49 pm | Permalink

      Hi Deepa,
      I admire you for acknowledging you saw your deceased mother. Yes, it was her. Remember that she is not in the physical. Therefore, she appeared in a dream because that is what you could handle. If you saw her walking around you might be pretty darned shocked and not know what to do.

      Go ahead and formulate your question that you want answered by your loving mom. Do it before sleep. Put yourself in a bubble of Light because all the energy in the spiritual world is not loving and kind like your mom.

      Then go to sleep asking your question of her. Just hold it in your mind. Ask to awaken with the answer.

      It may take more than a few nights because you are both learning new behavior. She has to learn how to “break through” the barriers to the physical world in a way you can appreciate and understand. It is not easy but it will get easier since you are already in contact.

  7. Katey
    Posted May 16, 2012 at 11:25 am | Permalink

    I lost my Mom 10/24/11 and my sister in law I’m only 24 my Mom was only 52 and my sister inlaw was only 32 I’m too young to not have a Mom i don’t have a dad either i miss my Mom sooooooo much i wish i could hear her voice and feel her presents and see her. Its been 6 months and 2 weeks and 2 days :'(

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 4:54 pm | Permalink

      HI Katey,
      I understand the feeling. “Just show me you’re ok Mom,” I used to say. But that was way before I do what I do now.

      Read some of the comments before yours and you’ll see that most of us struggle with the same thing. It took me 30 years to connect with my mom, although she appeared to me one day when I was a lot younger and taking a nap. My resistance was down. I was relaxed and there she was.

      Connecting with the deceased is easy and then again,not so. We are used to physical signs. The dead communicate in a non-physical way most often, although if you read some of the comments above this one, you’ll see people do get different signs. I have smelled people’s cigarette smoke. That one’s not so great.

  8. Priya
    Posted June 19, 2012 at 10:56 pm | Permalink

    My mom passed away, while I was in the USA. I had seen her last 2 years back when I visited India. She was perfectly fine. The day she died in India, someone rang bell on my door when I opened no one was there. And after some time we received a call saying she is no more. She was perfectly alright. This was her first and massive heart attack. I was all shattered since I had not seen her for these many years. Though I went immediately , it was all weird for me. I could not believe that is her body. I was not in my senses to accept that this is the last time I am getting to see her. I was not aware about what was happening. And now feel it so badly, I want to see her. I want to feel ,hug and touch my mother and cry. I want to feel her love. But after that day I have this feeling that mom is here in my house. When I am leaving the house I feel like I am leaving my mom alone. how do I talk and hear her.. please someone answer me.. please .. I am all shattered.. i want to hold her just ones and cry and tell her how much i love her and how much i need her…please

    • Posted June 20, 2012 at 1:29 pm | Permalink

      Hi Priya,
      I don’t know where these comments were, but they showed up today, quite a while after Mother’s Day.
      You and your mother have a tight connection even though you moved away. I love that your bell rang
      for you to know that she was checking out. In my opinion, a quick exit is much better than a long,
      drawn out period of dying. Mom has moved on into the Light. She is happy to connect with you whenever
      you choose.

      Simply surround yourself in a bubble of Light before you go to sleep and call her in. She will come
      to meet you. It all just takes practice because we have a tendency to not pay attention to non-physical

      • Priya
        Posted April 11, 2014 at 11:57 am | Permalink

        Hi Emmy,

        My mom’s name is Aparna Ramnathkar. She died on 28th April 2012. Can you please check if she is doing ok, is she around me and if she has any concerns ? I would want my mom to come to me as my baby. Will it be possible ? I also want to know, if she misses me. I am taking care of all the responsibilities she had given me. I want to know, if I am missing on anything she wanted me to. Please I just want to know this. I love my mom a lot. I miss her and feel her presence. Thanks in advance.

        • Priya
          Posted April 26, 2014 at 8:32 am | Permalink

          Hi Emmy,

          Thanks for connecting with the loved ones. I am anxiously waiting for you to let me know about my above concerns. Could you please ? Please.. It is a kind request . Thanks in advance !

        • Priya
          Posted June 25, 2014 at 10:30 am | Permalink

          My mom’s name is Aparna Ramnathkar. She died on 28th April 2012. Can you please check if she is doing ok, is she around me and if she has any concerns ? I would want my mom to come to me as my baby. Will it be possible ? I also want to know, if she misses me. I am taking care of all the responsibilities she had given me. I want to know, if I am missing on anything she wanted me to. Please I just want to know this. I love my mom a lot. I miss her and feel her presence. Thanks in advance.

          Can someone please answer this to me ? Please . It is a kind request.

  9. Posted July 5, 2012 at 3:22 pm | Permalink

    My apologies to all of you who have taken the time to post here about your beloved mother. My computer wasn’t working properly, or most likely, it is my fault. Either way I didn’t see these comments.

    For all of you, I want you to know that when you think you feel her, you do. When your mother is as loving as what you have all described, she is most likely with you. Love crosses the boundary between the world of the living and the world of the “dead.” In fact, no one is really dead. Your body withers and dies. Your spirit continues to grow and expand. You continue to build on all the good work you began in this life. And you continue to love those you have left behind, especially your dear children.

    When you feel your mom, know that it is because she is with you. Even if you think you might have made it all up, know that you have not. She is as real as always, just not in a physical body. She will communicate with you telepathically and gently. Often she will be apologetic and express a wish for forgiveness.

    You can help her heal her own spirit by being open to connecting with her in love. If her energy did not feel safe while she was in a body, perhaps you won’t want to connect with her now. It is completely up to you.

    My love to you all, Emmy

  10. Tshidi
    Posted July 18, 2012 at 6:59 am | Permalink

    My mom passed away on the 27/05/2012. she was only 55 and i am 33. I dreamt about her three times since her death but she was not talking, I only saw action of her being healed and out of hospital. I want to ask her so many things and for her to guide me and I cant seem to communicate with her. The other time i dreamt I was speaking with her over the phone but her replies to my questions were not clear.

    Please someone guide me on how do I communicate with her. I miss her deeply.

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 4:59 pm | Permalink

      Hi Tshidi,

      Keep an open mind, which you already have. What if you have been communicating with her and you just don’t realize it. Many times the “dead” tell me they have been doing their best to connect with us but we are often insistent on a physical sign. Not so easy, although I know someone whose heavy bureau was moved a couple of inches
      when no one was in the room that he could see at least. Things do happen.

      Although you are not understanding your mom’s communication, you are at least knowing she is with you. Keep connecting and one day you may be surprised. It took 30 years from the first time I saw my mom after she died until she would talk to me face to face.

      It is not an easy feat from their side to ours to be able to connect with you in a way you can understand. Imagine you speak one language and the deceased speak another. They can be as frustrated as you.

  11. Susan
    Posted July 20, 2012 at 1:20 pm | Permalink

    Mother died in April 2012 and I miss her so….I need to know for sure she is ok….I miss her so.

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 5:04 pm | Permalink

      Hi Susan,

      I think your mom is one of those who is hesitant to try to talk with you. She wants to but doesn’t understand, any more than you do.

      What I do feel is that she wants to be with you so that you know it for certain but she is unaware of what to do. You’ll see when you cross over it is not that easy. Imagine talking in English here and then you have to speak Japanese. It can be done, but it is not so easy. Some people have an aptitude, and some just don’t.

      Personally, I would love to be a terrific painter, but honestly, I don’t know how. For the dead, it’s the same thing. We all have different attributes. If your mom was somewhat physic in life, or you were, it might be a little easier.

  12. Nakul
    Posted July 24, 2012 at 4:28 am | Permalink

    My Mom passed away on 18-07-12 due to blood cancer. She died in Mumbai and we had a day in hand as she was to be bought to my home town. I was trying to communicate with her through ouija board, in case i can find a way to get her back but nobody in family allowed me to do that. I am terribly scared and dont know what to do…. She was our lifeline without her we feel so handicap… Please Please Please guide me how do i communicate with her….???

    • Posted July 26, 2012 at 6:08 pm | Permalink

      HI Nakul

      I posted an answer for you for Monday, 07.30.12.Hopefully it will help. In the meantime, just pray for her, and stay away from the Ouija board.

  13. Posted July 24, 2012 at 11:44 am | Permalink

    Hi there, my mom died about 6 years ago and every dream I have about here is very weird. When she’s in my dreams I know she’s supposed to be dead but its as if she faked her whole death and came back and started a new life. She doesn’t tell me where she’s living or where she’s going. She doesn’t want me in her life. She always has a boyfriend and she gets mad if I wanna go visit with her. In my latest dream I was smoking marijuana with here. It was weird. I want to have contact with her.

    • Posted July 26, 2012 at 6:09 pm | Permalink

      Hi Danielle,
      I posted an answer for you that is up on my site under Alive After Life now. I’ll be interested to hear what you think.

  14. Devangi
    Posted August 1, 2012 at 5:20 am | Permalink

    my mom was everything for me since i have lost her, i have forget to live the life…….really miss u a lot mom…..wherever u r stay happy……

    • Posted August 3, 2012 at 9:39 am | Permalink

      HI Devangi,
      What you can’t see is that the woman you knew as your mom is still with you. She will be as long as you need her. And when it is your time to pass on, she will be there for you as always when you can once again be the friends that you have always been.

      It is your job in earth to take what she has shared with you and share it with others. Then she will recognize that she did the job she came in to do. You will help her heal her own heart.

  15. Sham Naarai
    Posted August 17, 2012 at 9:11 am | Permalink

    I lost my father while I was only 1year old.
    Now I am 56.
    I have never dreamt about him.
    I have his picture always around.
    Is it because I was too young that I do not dream about him?
    Then, is it because we are used to the presence of someone that we dream about the person after his/her death?
    I tried all the methods possible to contact him.
    I even hired aTantrik (occultist) to bring him from his cremation place to my room.
    I still do not have any sign of his presence.
    Is it all a myth or imaginary thing?
    I have to many doubts.
    Why is it that people who are murdered cannot avenge themselves or bring their killers to justice?
    Is it all fake and false?
    I am devastated by lack of hope.

    • Posted August 17, 2012 at 11:18 am | Permalink

      Hi Sham,
      Thank you for your thoughtful sharing. I am too busy today to give this the full attention it deserves. I need to be still and ask for guidance while I move into the space of “the answers” in order to give you what you need
      I will post something, probably on Alive After Life (my other blog) next week. I’ll let you know when I publish.

  16. priya
    Posted August 20, 2012 at 3:37 am | Permalink

    i’m 23 n i lost my mom recently she was of 48yrs . And she died of heart disease i am missing her badly. is she well wherever now she is now? whether she is wtih me or not? plz help me

    • Posted August 22, 2012 at 10:54 am | Permalink

      Hi Priya,
      I’m so sorry that you lost your mom. It is always a blow. However, this blog is not to connect you with your deceased. I’m happy to do this for you, but I do charge for sessions and it’s reasonable enough.
      If you are interested, please email me at two times that work for you and where you are in the world as well as your phone number and we’ll try to figure out a time together. Depending where you are in the world, I can call you if you are in the U.S. or we can Skype. For pricing, please check on

  17. vijji
    Posted August 29, 2012 at 10:12 pm | Permalink

    I lost my mom on Nov14,2011 in an accident.Im in Hyderabad doing my job,I didnt visit my family who are residing in my native place for long time.The next Monday is my engagement,and the before monday my mom died,very suddenly,I felt very very bad…I missed her a lot…I want to talk to her atleast once ,She came in my dreams many tyms & to my sister also,She said she is ok,She comes to my dream whenever i cry for her but for past 1month ,I could not see her…Im missing her badly,Does my mom realy came to my dreams previously or its just my imagination????I want to talk to her badly.My sister played spirit game ,She talked in that…Is that really my mom???Please clarify me????

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 5:11 pm | Permalink

      Hi Vijji,
      Two things: The first is that is your mom who has come to you in your dreams. Why your dreams? Because in everyday life you head is to busy to bother with subtle energy. You have to make time to be still, to be peaceful, to receive.

      As for playing spirit games, be careful. If you are talking about a Ouija board, be extra careful. Think of walking down a street on the wrong part of town at night, alone. Most probably it’s not safe, even if you are a big muscled guy. That’s what the Ouija board is like. Any disconnected energy from the “wrong side of the tracks” can jump in and you don’t know who it is. You can end up with a nasty entity around you who is determined to run your life, and not got the better.

  18. eddie chmielowicz
    Posted September 12, 2012 at 4:00 pm | Permalink

    I just want to know where my mom is now. She passed away May 5 2012 from cancer. I want to be able to talk to her and ask her things. I feel so empty sometimes and it would help me considerably if I just knew where she was and if I could talk to her.

  19. Posted September 13, 2012 at 10:03 am | Permalink

    HI Eddie,

    I think your mom is just fine. If you want to connect with her personally, I suggest a session either in person or by phone. Then we can focus on your concerns.

    • eddie chmielowicz
      Posted November 2, 2012 at 4:39 pm | Permalink

      How do I get something like that set up? My dad hates this kind of stuff. He doesn’t believe that you can contac the deceased in ay way. But I want to and he doesn’t have to be involved.

  20. jayamala
    Posted September 21, 2012 at 11:23 am | Permalink

    my mother passed away 21.7.2012 but i want to know where is my mother now my father is depressed thinking about her always can we view her or atleast in dream daily please tell some solution for us it is impossible to forget her and we just dont want to forget her please

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 5:19 pm | Permalink

      Hi Jayamala,

      Just because you can’t see her or feel her, doesn’t mean she is not around. On the other hand if she was like you and your dad, then it is possible she doesn’t know how to connect with you any more than you two do.

      My suggestion is to try writing to her. Before you do however, please protect yourself. I like to call in my angels and God Himself to make sure I am safe. I can’t stress the safety issue often enough.

      If you choose to write to her, get a clean spiral or book and write, “Dear Mom,” or whatever you called her. Doing this before sleep is best. Then write what you want to know. Make it simple. Ask questions initially like, “Are you ok? Are you happy? Are you with Uncle…?”

      Sign you unsent letter with love and your name.

      Without putting your pen down, begin again. Write “Dear Jayamala,” or whatever your mom called you. Just write what you hear. You will be sure you made it up, but you aren’t.

      Continue to practice and you will have a conversation going. Just be certain to protect yourself before and close after with thanks to both her and whomever you call in for protection.

  21. alex reid
    Posted September 22, 2012 at 4:42 am | Permalink

    my mum passed away march 2nd 2011. she died in the middle of the night due to a heart attack. i think. it doesnt help that we had a fight that night before we went to bed, and i didnt say goodnight i love you. i now have no family except my nan. who i barely see. and i live with a friend from school
    i miss her every single day. just wish that its all a dream. ive been so lonley without her. i just want to know if shes okay. and if she forgives me for the fights.
    all i want is a sign to know shes still here with me. i freak out when i think that shes faded away, which she probably has.. because its been so long. i just want to feel her love again. smell her perfume, get a motherly hug. thats all i want.please help. is there anyway i can get a sign? safely?

  22. Posted September 24, 2012 at 3:36 pm | Permalink

    I am sorry that I am unable to answer each of you individually. Please try to understand that your deceased are still with you if you allow them. When your loved one dies, they communicate telepathically. You are trained in our third dimensional way of time and space, of acknowledging the physical as real and nothing else.

    Please check my blog, also on my site. I will post guidance there for you shortly

  23. kris
    Posted September 25, 2012 at 12:09 pm | Permalink

    My mom passed away almost 3 years ago and i struggle everyday. My mom came out in a picture with me n may 2010 n i want to know if shes around me n if she was with me when my daughter was born. My daughter is named after her
    My son says he sees her why cant I?? How can i see my mom??

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 5:26 pm | Permalink

      HI Kris,

      Your mom was definitely with you when your daughter was born. She’s still with you. Once again, as I’ve said in all the comments before, the dead are with us unless we don’t want them to be.

      The challenge is we can’t see them in the physical.So how do we connect? With practice.

      Why can your son see your mom and you can’t? Because he doesn’t have as many blocks to his intuitive hits as you do.

      Practice talking to her, especially before sleep. It’s an art. Just the way you may sing beautifully and all I can do is squawk, this is the same thing. Some of us are better at it than others. I am getting better and sometimes it scares even me when someone walks through my bedroom in the middle of the night. It happens though.

      My suggestion is to keep practicing. Notice subtle changes. And maybe even read some of my hints in the other comments before you.

  24. Sandra Vasquez
    Posted September 27, 2012 at 6:50 pm | Permalink

    My mother passed away 11 years ago. She had an accident at work. I wanted to know things about her? How can I connect with her in spirit? I rarely dream about her.

  25. Sachin Samant
    Posted November 2, 2012 at 4:07 am | Permalink

    Hi, I lost my mother on August 30,2012 at 2.58pm. She was in proper senses when she died n I was accompanying her in hospital for almost 46 days , even at her last breathe. I found her nervous n angry on her death , hence I was and even today feel guilty n sad bcoz I couln’t save her. I want to know, how is she now n is she angry with me. I miss her a lot.

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 5:38 pm | Permalink

      HI Sachin,

      You did everything you could to help your mom pass over gently but she was not willing to let go. She was nervous because she did not allow herself to be comforted. She was angry because she couldn’t control her life or her death. There is nothing you could have done that you didn’t already do.

      Your mom didn’t want to leave behind her hard-won physical objects. She was only opening to who she really was and the possibilities. Perhaps she was angry because she saw that she missed out on important things for her happiness, when if she had lived longer, she might have enjoyed the accoutrements of life at its best.

  26. Nancy
    Posted November 13, 2012 at 8:32 pm | Permalink

    I have a lot of guilt over my mother – we had a love/hate relationship – I took care of her when she was living with me – she was depressed and did not want to live anymore – she hated old people and did not want to get old – she broke her neck and picked up infections in the hospital – she went into hospice and it was my decision to take out her feeding tube – she was 86 years old – I miss her so bad – we were very close even though we had problems – she was a good Mom and did everything for me – I miss her so bad – oh to just see or talk to her again – it has been 3 years and I still cry for her every day. My 10 yr. old son sometimes says she talks to him but I never hear anything or get any signs that she hears me.

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 5:45 pm | Permalink

      Hi Nancy,

      You did everything you possible could to help your mom pass over as easily as possible. However, she was completely resistant, even angry. That is not your fault or your job to handle.

      Most likely you don’t see her because she was not the warm, fuzzy person who would mess with this kind of thing. Your son can see her because he’s still young and doesn’t have the same blocks to viewing the “walking dead” as we do. Children often see things in the non-physical world that adults have been trained to think don’t exist, so we don’t see them.

      My suggestion is to trust that your son sees mom and that she is okay. I think she has not moved into the light and is still hanging on because she has lots of unresolved issues.

      All you can do is forgive her and know that as always, she is in control. And, she’s okay.

  27. Tremayne
    Posted December 13, 2012 at 7:44 am | Permalink

    my mom past away on December 1,2012
    My mom past away from a bad asthma attack, i love my mom so much, i was able to talk with my mom about anything and she never judged me and always was at my side.
    my brother had a amazing dream about her, in his dream she was trying on the shoes that she would be wearing in her casket in which my brother had no idea of, she told him to tell my aunti that she likes them and they fits well,,prior to that my brother had no clue of the shoes and was able to describe them to my auntie,,my sister felt a pressence climb into her bed and rub the side of her face, now me i heard my mom call my name twice in a concerning voice but i made no contact, but honestly im scared, everyone say its only mom but im terrified, i wonder is that the reason why i really had very little contact but i truely want to have contact with mom though. Please help me, i am so scared to go to sleep and it been alittle over a week.

    • Posted January 5, 2013 at 6:31 pm | Permalink

      Hi Tremayne,

      I am sorry it took me so long to respond. I was deleting spams on my site’s comments and only now saw yours. Try not to worry about your mom. She is so close to you all that she is able to manifest herself enough for you to actually feel her. If that is frightening, then set the rules you want her to follow. Tell her in no uncertain terms that you would like to connect with her, but please do climb into my bed or touch me. It frightens me. Most likely she is doing her best to get your attention.

      Here’s how you can protect yourself. Before you fall asleep, deliberately put yourself in a bubble of light, the Light of the Divine. Then set the rules. Mom, I love you. I miss you so much, but I am frightened by this. If you want to know she is around, then give her a way to let you know. Sit in meditation or prayer with her for 10 min. Try every day , perhaps before sleep. Talk to her as if she is with you because she is.

      Once you take back control, you will feel more secure. It’s important for you to understand that no one dies. We just let go of our bodies. We continue. Your mom is as alive as when she was in her “mom” body. Now she is in spirit form. That is the only difference.

      Obviously you have a special mom who loves you all intensely. Allow her to come to you but set up your own rules of when she can come and what is comfortable for you.

      • tremayne
        Posted January 5, 2013 at 6:48 pm | Permalink

        Oh my god thank you so much….im not as scared as much but cant sleep in the house. I miss my mom soo much she was my best friend . I just need her to contact me…but once again thank u soo there a way u can contact me ..what is ur fee..please email me thank you.

  28. PANKAJ
    Posted January 1, 2013 at 9:09 pm | Permalink

    i lost my mom on 11.12.12. she was just 41 yrs and died due to kidney infection.pls guide me the way to be with her forever.

  29. nandia
    Posted January 7, 2013 at 9:26 pm | Permalink

    people all over the world always wish they could speak with their late ones when they die.When my husband died i search on how i could talk to my late husband,i found only one man luckily on the internet,because somebody testify on how he has helped her to communicate with her late mother.The woman dropped Doctor Jefferson email address on the site,so i contacted him.As God will have it i equally talk to my late husband,it was so real.I will equally drop his email address on this site

  30. Joy Vinod
    Posted January 18, 2013 at 12:08 pm | Permalink

    Hi everybody,
    My mom died when i was around 14 years old.Now i am around 24,suddenly she came upon my aunt body and started to speak with me.She said that she was really sad because she left me when i was small.I consoled her that i am fine.She warned me that something bad is going to happen in my life but she will take care,I was so happy that she came and talk to me.
    Mom is the only relationship which cares her children after death also.I love you ma.

    • Posted January 25, 2013 at 4:47 pm | Permalink

      And obviously your mom loves you too. How reassuring is that? Thanks for the Post.

  31. holyspiritum
    Posted January 23, 2013 at 1:18 am | Permalink

    i am only 17 and i loss my mum at 15/01/ workin with my dad (during school holiays) when he received a call from a friend.She told my dad that my mum gotta problem during her daily physical excercise.(atheletism).When i was young,I was doin atheletic and she followed me.about 6 years later i start to get bored with this sport so i shift to basketball an she continue for 2 more years.If i wasnt bored with it i should be with her at that moment :'(

  32. vinod
    Posted January 30, 2013 at 8:56 am | Permalink

    I lost my mom on 13-01-13.she fight with MDS(Bone merrow failour) two and half years. i was with her 24*7 from two and half years.she was very optimistic and do not wants to die.
    But what we can do? me and my father was with her till her last breathe.
    me and my father completely broken.we can’t think life without her.We want to say her…mom we love you ,we are very lonely without you,we want to say sorry for could not save you.Mom you are ok in god’s kingdom?,do you wants any thing or wants to tell any thing?Or you got salvation or reincarnation?
    Mom i love you so much, your “vinu” is very alone without you….

  33. ali
    Posted February 12, 2013 at 3:05 pm | Permalink

    I lost my Mom she was my best friend six years ago. I miss her. We believed in after life and I wait everyday to hear from her and because of that I have lost my love for everything else. I want to see or hear her just so I know she is with me and is happy for me to be happy. I have 3 children and I know they miss her too. How do I move on?

  34. Posted February 13, 2013 at 1:10 am | Permalink

    My mother died on 7th Jan ’13. We are three sisters and are missing her a lot. We want her back, we want her to talk with us. It is very very difficult for all three of us to live without her. We are living with out any enthusiasm left in life. We just want her back. We want her to talk to us, to guide us, to scold us, to hug us, we want to share our day to day experiences with her. Maaaaaaaa pls wapis aa jao. Yeh jeewan suna suna hai tum aao to kuch baat bane. Ma tumhare bina hamari har kushi adhuri hai. Ma thore dino main tum Nani ban jaogi, pls yeh kushi share karne ke liye aa jao Plssssssssssss. Nanhe ki shadi bhi karni hai. Pls ma apni aur hamari kushio ko aeise adhura chod ke mat jao. Aur agar tum hamare aas paas to ho pls iska ehsaas karao. Hum teeno is time life main bina kisi tarang ke bas jee rahe hai, tumhare bina hamara dil bilkul nahi lagta. Please aa jao. Ma tum to har kaam ko mumkin bana deti ho to fir kaise bhi karke wapis aa jao. Pls Mummy agar tum hame dekh sakti ho, sun sakti ho to pls kuch aeisa karo ki hum teeno tumhe dek sake, baat kar sake aur apna jeewan jee sake. Mummy hum teeno tumse bahut bahut bahut………… sara pyar karte hai. Tumhara Kaka Boiya.

  35. Posted February 17, 2013 at 6:02 pm | Permalink

    I watched my mother die, when I was 3 years old. She was holding me, when the first bullet hit her, she droped me. The second bullet hit her, it was in the face. My dad had mudered her, and then commented suicide. My brother, and I saw the whole thing. She deid on Feburary 18, 2004. It will be nine years ago, tommorow, and I wish I could connect with her. I wish she would send me a sign. Any suggestions?

  36. Natasha Veda Guerra
    Posted February 26, 2013 at 6:22 pm | Permalink

    My Ex boyfriend’s mother died on mother’s day last year of stage four overian cancer, her name is Sylvia Zamora. My ex boyfriend and I went through many stuggles when she got sick, I was always comforting him and making sure they were both okay. after she died he dumped me saying “he can do this to me or to him, he doesn have the strength ” . right before she died I brought her flowers (she loved them) and asked me about my ballet .. it was the best time I had with both of them. when she died the doctors tols us it was from a blood clot that severed her left heart chamber. I want to know if she’s okay, if she can see how much I loved her son .. if she felt like I helped enough, this still eats at me . thank you

    • Posted March 5, 2013 at 1:09 pm | Permalink

      Once again, I don’t have time to post on all of these comments. If you live in the States,
      Europe or Canada and speak English, I would be happy to arrange a time with you when you can ask your questions and we can connect with your mom.

      As for your lovely post Natasha,
      you had a touching relationship with Sylvia. She could see who you really are. She is in the Light and knew all along that you loved her son but that he didn’t have it in him to return the love you so deserved.

      She is still with you if you choose. There is nothing for her to forgive about you, she says. You were a comforting presence in a difficult time. You did more than enough, just by loving her son when he didn’t have it in him to return what you deserved.

  37. Daisy
    Posted March 6, 2013 at 6:53 am | Permalink


    Today,I woke up to my mom calling my name and telling my not to go back to sleep. I have had the experience before of hearing voices, but this time it was different. I was not scared but apprehensive because,I had just had surgery and was in my house alone. I searched the house and found no one. I’m having health problems, but don’t think this is why I was contacted (if that is what happened). I was the last person to see my mom alive. Is she trying to talk to me? I miss her so much, she was my mom and best friends. Any idea?
    Thanks, D

  38. Agnes
    Posted March 6, 2013 at 6:20 pm | Permalink

    Mom, I love you more than anything… I wish I would have talked to you the way I felt… I am sorry, I just did not want to hurt you. But now it hurts me. I would give anything for another hour together! Nobody will ever love me the way you did! And I think I loved you more than anyone I ever knew! Imadlak!

  39. Karen
    Posted March 10, 2013 at 12:33 pm | Permalink

    It is Mother’s Day here in the UK today.

    Mum, I still miss you so much. Not a day passes when I don’t think of you and wish that I could go back to those days when you were still alive. I always thought that somehow, because we were so close, you would find a way of contacting me, but if you have, I haven’t realised it. I long to know that you are safe and in God’s hands with Dad.

    My mum’s name was Mary – does she still know how much I love and miss her? Does she still love me? Will I see her again?

  40. kristy woodard
    Posted March 12, 2013 at 8:47 pm | Permalink

    I never grew up having that perfect relationship with my mother.I mean,we GOT ALONE GREAT,but I just WISH it would’ve been more.Everyday I wake up,I WISH that she would come back.Promising myself that I would make things BETTER for us.I grew up living with my Grandma since birth,SO that mother daughter bond was something that I WISHED to have with her.The day that she died was like a week away from her birthday.My sisters and I planned to do all different types of things with her to make the bond with our mom better. THEN we got a call to rush to the hospital,but bout time I got there it was TOO LATE.SHE WAS ALREADY GONE.It took me a LONG time to believe it.I BEAT myself everyday dropping tears that wouldn’t go away.Feeling AS IF,it was my fault.Its been about 4 YEARS later and I still can’t believe it.Everytime a person speak on a topic about parents and their dead love ones,I WOULD CRY,cause you only get ONE mother,and I lost mine.She’s ALWAYS in my heart and on my mind…And I will FOREVER and ALWAYS LOVE her!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!(TEARS)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  41. Bernadette
    Posted March 21, 2013 at 7:02 pm | Permalink

    Dear Emmy,

    I truly believe that we can connect to our loved ones that have passed. I have tried to connect to my mother who passed when I was 4 years old. I do not remember what she looked like, how she smelled, or the sound of her voice. I long to know her. I am told she loved me because she always wanted a little girl, and she prayed to St. Bernadette, and I was born, but she died before she could see me grow up. My question is, how do I connect to a person I do not know.

    If you have time to give me your opinion, I would appreciate it. Thank you. Bernadette

  42. Stan
    Posted March 26, 2013 at 10:34 pm | Permalink

    My mom died on December 7, 2007. She was only 63 years old when she died from a brain aneurysm. It makes me so sad that I don’t remember the sound of her voice. I don’t ever member her face without a picture. I would give anything to talk to her again. I feel lost without her. She was my inspiration.

    After she died my sisters would have dreams about her. They would have dreams of my mom telling them everything is going to be ok and that she is in a better place. I never had those dreams. Am I not connected to the spiritual word? Why don’t I have these dreams?

  43. Stan
    Posted March 26, 2013 at 10:35 pm | Permalink

    My mom died on December 7, 2007. She was only 63 years old when she died from a brain aneurysm. It makes me so sad that I don’t remember the sound of her voice. I don’t ever member her face without a picture. I would give anything to talk to her again. I feel lost without her. She was my inspiration

    After she died my sisters would have dreams about her. They would have dreams of my mom telling them everything is going to be ok and that she is in a better place. I never had those dreams. Am I not connected to the spiritual word? Why don’t I have these dreams?

  44. Ankur Johar
    Posted March 30, 2013 at 1:15 pm | Permalink


    I love my mom and she left me on 09-03-2013. I took her to the best hospital in delhi for treatment and she was recovering for which i was happy and was very much positive. Since she was in heart command center was showing positive sign in health, i discussed with doctor and decided to move her to normal ward and called my brother to help me. In meantime i took permisson from my mother to go and meet my gf in chd. but on the way to chd my brother called me and asked me to comeback as my mother is not well and doctors are not saying much. It took me a while to return to delhi and to the hosiptal, my mother condition detroiated and she was not able to speak and i was helpless and unaware that she is slowly moving away from me. I saw her collapsing on bed and then getting cardiac arrest and moving on ventillator for breathing. Doctors told me she is out of danger but due to anestheisa she is not position to speak and next day early morning i was called to inform she is no more. My whole world shattered she was like my GF i was so close to her then to anybody else in this world. I cant forgive myself for leaving her in between of her treatment and going away when she needed me the most. She only used to tell me what problem she is having and i used to talk with doctor for the treatment but for this particular day i was not present and she left me forever. I want to talk with her, i want to pamper her play with her make her happy there were so many plans she made with me in hosiptal. I want to fulfil alll of them but she is not there. Please ask her to talk with me atleast once i want to listen her voice… I am going crazzy day by day. I am missing her badly. Please help me in connecting with her. She was my darling mom /

    I used to record her phone call but after her demise those recording have also stopped working dont why. Why god is punishing me. I want to listen her voice . I want to be with her forever.

    I am the most unluckiest guy in this world, never got a chance to get love of my mother and when took her to hosital for best treatment she left me forever. I am with pain please help me.

  45. Kacey
    Posted May 7, 2013 at 5:15 am | Permalink

    My mom passed away on December 2, 2012 at the age of 53. They say she died from cardio myopathy, meaning her heart was too weak to pump the blood…but something doesn’t feel right. My brother and step father were there with her and it took then FOREVER to call for help. I have dreams of her asking for help. I just want to know she’s okay. I pray she did not suffer. How do I communicate with her?

  46. Kathrin W
    Posted May 12, 2013 at 2:06 pm | Permalink

    My mom dies giving birth to me, and she is my higher power I pray to her almost every night and throughout the day. But, their are sometimes, when I just wish their is more than just talking to her. I want to know if she is even around me?! Because it is Mother’s Day, that is why I am feeling more skeptical. But, she dies giving birth to me and that is a huge sacrifice that was made for me. She died January 20, 1996. And I would be so grateful for you to help me and see if my mom is with me.

    • Kathrin W
      Posted June 24, 2013 at 10:31 pm | Permalink

      Could you please respond to me, it would mean a lot.

  47. Katy
    Posted May 13, 2013 at 8:52 am | Permalink

    Hi. I lost my mom August 12 2005, I didn’t get to spend any time with my mother. All of my relatives tell me that she loved me so much.. But I never experienced a mother’s love. I want to contact her really bad. I tried talking to her but it never worked so please help me. I have been really lonely and I want to talk her badly because I can’t move on without talking to her. She cared about me so much and I feel like I don’t know anything about her. Please help me and tell me how to talk to her.

  48. laurel moxley
    Posted May 14, 2013 at 11:07 pm | Permalink

    Hi my mom passed away unexpectedly 7 months ago (10/11/2012) we were soo close we talked about any and everything she passed out the blue she wasn’t sick or anything we would talk about the paranormal often and she knew/knows I’m into that type of thing even though I’ve never had an experience I’m just wondering why she hasn’t given me any signs or visited me yet so know she’s ok since I never got to say goodbye I have dreams every once and awhile at first they were always me running away from her but the last couple I’ve had were me coming into a room and she’s there smiling and laughing like everythings normal when I no its not real in the dream part of me thinks its just my subconcious having a dream and part of me thinks that could be her visiting me I just wish I had something more to where I no for sure it was her.

  49. Roseline
    Posted May 29, 2013 at 3:36 am | Permalink

    After the death of my cousin I saw his spirit very clearly. I feel his presence around me, I see him in my dreams, he is always with me.This became possible because i contacted Who help me out to communicate with my him after his death,now i feel like he is not dead.I really appreciate his effort.

  50. Posted May 31, 2013 at 11:26 pm | Permalink

    My mother died in 10 April 2012 and till 4-5 months of her departure, amazing things had happened . As whispering in the ear, voice from my kitchen to ask some water. Even in dreams she always appear but now does not say anything and keep quite. But in the last two dreams when i went through my home and reached there at around 10pm after having dinner i laid down for five minutes and suddenly i dreamt and saw she was sitting on my left and laughing a lot on seeing my 5yr old son who was sitting on my write. But this took only 30 or 45 seconds as seems to me that she wants to realize me that she is there with us and happy to see me and my family there.

    in the last dream she appeared in the morning around 3-4 am she hugged me she was wearing cardigan which i felt when she hugged me i felt very nice and healed and she said (“THIK HUN MAIN”) i am ok. and as i was trying to say more some thing happened and she gone.

    can you try to talk to her and ask her sorry on my behalf whichever i did for her good or bad in her whole life please. As i did my best but in some aspects i was not fulfilled her desires towards her. Please say sorry to her and apologize…

    Vikram Singh (Anu)

    • Posted June 8, 2013 at 5:52 pm | Permalink

      Hi Vikram,

      You are fortunate to have such “real” experiences with your mom. Most of us are not open enough to experience these special moments with our deceased. Your mom is very loving and is so real for you because you welcome her and you have created an opening for her to appear. She is telling me that she adores you! She is filled with nothing but love for you.

      You may well remember things you did “wrong.” She knows that these experiences do not matter. She is simply here to love you as well as your whole family. You will recognize her when you cross over. She will be grinning with open arms.

  51. Posted June 4, 2013 at 6:11 pm | Permalink

    My mother died when I was 3 years old. She died right in front of me. My father killed her and then himself. I miss her and I want to get to know her. I am scared that I will connect with my father instaed and I don’t want to. I want to know my mom better. I love and miss her a lot.

  52. lillian
    Posted June 5, 2013 at 11:30 am | Permalink

    hi my mom die she was 84 am 50 she was my best friend I miss her so much i cry all day for her i want to see her can you help me … thank you …

    • Posted June 8, 2013 at 5:27 pm | Permalink

      Thank you for your comment Lillian. I am sorry that you are grieving so for your mom. You will reconnect with her when it is your time to pass one. She will be there with open arms for you, probably looking a lot better than when you saw her last. It is your opportunity and lesson to learn to live a fulfilling life without her physical presence. What you can do, if you choose, is put yourself in a bubble of light before you fall asleep and deliberately as to connect with her. I think she is already there for you. Also, Lillian, know that by holding on so tightly to her, you are blocking her movement forward in her life as well as your own.

  53. Posted June 15, 2013 at 12:09 pm | Permalink

    My Beloved Mom passed away 9-12-2012, I miss her so much, I would just love to be able to connect with her some way and I do feel and know that she’s in a better place, but throu my selfishness I would still love to keep her near,,If its any way that I could connect with her please let me know . Thank You.

    • Posted June 24, 2013 at 3:48 pm | Permalink

      HI Rose,
      Sorry for the long delay in responding. It’s easier to talk with your mom than me and I’m only here in San Diego!

      My suggestion for connecting with your mom are answered in the emails I responded to above. For me personally, it all took practice and more practice. It’s not that they are not here. It’s rather that we are looking for a physical reaction and they are in a non-physical world.

      Continue to practice connecting, especially right before sleep, being careful to protect yourself first the energy of God and whatever else you believe in.

      with love, Emmy

  54. Anu
    Posted June 17, 2013 at 3:12 am | Permalink


    My mom passed away a few months ago, but it seems like it was yesterday. Sometimes it feels like it’s not even real. I was there when she passed away and I felt her presence, or this tingling feeling, at times after she passed but know I don’t feel it anymore. I’ve tried to talk to her but I’m usually stopped by fear. Fear pops into my head and it just goes downhill from there, but I really want to talk to my mom. I just want to hear her and know that she is okay. That she loves me and that she knows that I love her. I just recently turned 17 so I’m not sure if I’m just too young to talk to her, but please let me know if you have any advice and if this is normal. Thank you.

    • Posted June 24, 2013 at 3:44 pm | Permalink

      Hi Anu,
      When people first cross over, it is common to feel or hear or even see them. After awhile, they begin to move into their own lives. You can still connect. My suggestion is that you set up a time, perhaps for 5 minutes before sleep. Then connect with God and I like the Angels, but whatever works for you. You MUST be protected. Deliberately before sleep then surround yourself in a bubble of Light and pray yourself to sleep, asking for your mom.

      You may know that you have connected in the morning or not. It took years for me to know for sure that my mom was with me and for me to see her. Even if you don’t feel her, just know that she is there. She’ll understand the transmission of love.

      As for normal, everything is normal. There is nothing to fear. Just be certain to protect yourself in the Light. Call in the beings of Light that you identity with and know that you are safe. Your mom already knows that you love her. She wants you to know that she loves you as well.

      With love, Emmy

  55. Anita
    Posted June 19, 2013 at 4:45 am | Permalink


    I lost my mother on this 4th of June. She was suffering from cancer. I haven’t given her real happiness in life but the only thing that I did was I tried my level best and took great care of her myself when she was daignosed with the disease.

    But today I can’t imagine my life without her. My sister and father look in better shape than I am and I can’t stop crying. I practically just dont do anything throughout the day and just want to sit or lie down in one position. I want to be with her desperately. I can’t be in life without her.

    My family, my husband around me doesn’t understand me and my feelings. I was closest to my mother and my mother used to feel her life is in me. I want to be with her. I just want to be with her. Is there a way I can talk to her.

    The steps that u have given in this post will this help me. Thank you.

    • Posted June 24, 2013 at 3:37 pm | Permalink

      Hi Anita,

      Your mom is still with you and will be as long as you need her. She has just passed so your grief is perfectly natural and perhaps necessary for all the times you didn’t feel close to her. You’re making up for what you think is your misbehavior, when in fact it wasn’t. It was just you being you. You growing up. You trying out life.

      When you say your mother “used to feel her life is in me,” it says to me that she lived through you. She didn’t feel her worth without you. We mothers can over-attach to our kids which isn’t healthy either.

      My suggestion is if you continue not to function normally, that you find yourself some grief counseling. Depending on what is available to you financially, I would suggest your insurance coverage, your church if you have one, online for local groups in your area or even by phone, and perhaps even where they seem to have groups for everything.

      We are each responsible for our own life, no matter what we think, your mom included. You did what you could to smooth her passage and perhaps that is enough.

      Otherwise, try the steps I suggested in the post. Talking with the deceased is not like talking with your girlfriend on the phone, at least not at first. Initially, you can be unaware of the connection. My suggestion is that you set aside 20 min a day where you connect with your Angels, or God Himself and then ask to connect. The response may be very subtle and it can take a long time before you know for sure that you have connected. Keep it up thought and you will.

      with love, Emmy

  56. walter
    Posted June 21, 2013 at 5:50 am | Permalink

    I found out my biological father passed away last year and it had been almost 2 years. Finding this out from a half brother on my moms side I contacted my half brother from

    my fathers side.Finding this out my wife mde a way for me toreconnect with my birth mother
    and I traveled to texas to spend two weeks with her and my mamaw.This year she passed away 4 days after mothers day 2013.If it would have been one more day it would have been a year to the day I had arrived there to see her again for the first tim. e. My mother had a troubled life through the middle but turned her life around the last time I saw her I was 7 years old in Texas dept. of social services so getting there we were both excited, I got to spend three weeks with her and she adored me and the same for me.I spent my whole life regretting being taken away from her and my dad and wanted to find her. I found her 4 years ago and only got to spend 3 weeks with her but it was the best 3 weeks of my life.We had always stayed in contact

    • Posted June 24, 2013 at 3:14 pm | Permalink

      How nice for you Walter, that after all these years you got to be with your mother. I’m sure it made it easier for her to pass on as well, knowing you were okay after so long. You seem to be a very caring guy. with love, Emmy

  57. walter
    Posted June 24, 2013 at 7:43 pm | Permalink

    I had to tell my mother goodbye over the phone and it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do.I was under the impression that they had taken her off of life support and didnt know if she was there or not because her heart had stopped but she didnt pass on till 4:15 am the next morning. I sent my older brother a text saying she was in a better place and she was not in any pain, In that moment I felt a sense of warmth and true happiness and I believe my mom came to me. I told my mom I was sorry I couldnt be there with her and I loved her but since I have been back from her memorial service I have been very sad and lost how can I connect with my mom again I would like to see her and talk? I have always been able to predict things through dreams before they happened and been able to read a persons soul so to speak by seeing a person, in other words when I can deyermin their intentions. So in some ways I have some special senses, how can I contact my mom how can I open up those senses to allow this. I MISS MY MOM and those 3 weeks were not enough!

    • Posted June 27, 2013 at 7:27 pm | Permalink

      Hi Walter,
      You are already connecting with your mom. She knows you love her just as she loves you. Love continues because it is the connector of all life,in or out of a body.

      What holds us back from knowing is we are so used to looking for physical signs that we miss the subtlety of life. This is true for many things that are available for us that we barely notice. For me it reminds me of friends whom I liked but didn’t know well. When they move away or pass on, one day I feel their energy, or I see the two of us doing something from the past, or I hear their favorite song and it brings them right back into my today experience. I believe the dead are like this.

      What I want to share with you is I believe nothing dies. Zip. We are all energy. You can’t get rid of energy. It only morphs. It changes shape and then we don’t recognize it. Connecting with the deceased is easy once you get past your linear-mind barrier. It is simply old programming which used to be needed to keep us in place. It is no longer needed. You have a higher consciousness today than you did 500 years ago.

      Just play with your mom when you sense her. Talk to her. Imagine her cooking your favorite meal. Her hand stroking your head and you’ll feel her energy. It takes practice, but it’s worth the trouble. You will no longer miss those who have passed on because you’ll know you’ve been with them.

  58. Amma
    Posted June 25, 2013 at 12:54 am | Permalink

    My mom passed 2011 last April. She was only 58. I miss her with all of my heart. I dream of her sometimes, its like she visits me once a month because i can feel when she is around. Since she died my instincts have become sharpened to bad omens, i can sense when someone is about to die, i get really sad or depressed. i write to my mom and she always finds a way of answering me or warning me. i know that i am divinely blessed and protected but i just miss her so so much. I always wonder if she still remembers us and if she is okay. The thing that makes me most sad is that she was suffering in silence when she was alive. She never thought she could talk to us, i am sure she felt so alone. She was a self sacrificing mother and I will always love her.

    • Posted June 25, 2013 at 9:47 pm | Permalink

      Hi Amma,
      Your mom chose to suffer in silence. It was how she was trained and what she did. You can be assured now that she is safe and no longer suffering.
      She also knows how much you love her as she loves you. Love continues.

      The challenge is to hold the love for your mom and at the same time let her go. You are already working together as a team, which you may find
      useful in life. You may be called on to help others pass on.

      with love,Emmy

  59. Anita
    Posted June 25, 2013 at 9:04 am | Permalink

    Thanks Emmy.

    You are right. She lived through me and was over attached to me. But it’s very very very hard to believe that she is physically not with me and that she will never be. Even when she was unwell & my doctor had left us with no further treatment i used to think that it will pass and she will get well. I used to think it can never be my mom.
    I still remember her small small things and get lost in my thoughts. I still remember things she liked to do & wanted to do & still remember calling her for guidance and query in life and things.
    I read somewhere that you should not try and reach the one who has gone and let their soul stay in peace cause if you try and talk to them then their soul will be troubled. If that is the case, I don’t want to be selfish and talk to her, though that’s the only thing my selfish and disturbed mind wants to do. I am sure she is happy wherever she is cause she was a great human being.
    So I am confused now. If I am disturbing her soul then i do not want to do this or else that’s the first thing I want to do.
    Please help.

    • Posted June 25, 2013 at 9:43 pm | Permalink

      Hi Anita,
      Personally, I don’t believe that it is not okay to talk with your deceased. What I notice for me is that sometimes I know for certain that whomever I want to connect with is there. Other times I am not so sure. Also, some times their energy appears immediately (I get shivers up my legs. Sometimes all over,) and sometimes their energy comes in slowly, as if they are far away.

      What I do notice is that if someone has died within a year or so, they seem to drop in fairly easily. If the deceased didn’t believe that you went anywhere, like my Dad, they wouldn’t expect to reconnect. It took me years to connect with Dad . He was an atheist, so stopping by to connect would not have been in his repertoire of things to do.I always knew he loved me though.

      I think being “dead” is like being alive. You have a control. If I don’t want to talk to you, I won’t. Many times the dead, who were not always nice people in a body, withdraw when someone wants to connect. They pull back somehow. For me, these are the people who tend to be in ghost form instead of spirit form. Ghosts, who are much more frequent than I ever imagined, seem to retain their personalities, including if they were pretty annoying in life. Those in spirit form are the opposite, like your mom.She will just be her sweet self. You are not disturbing her but rather encouraging her to keep your connection close.

      In death as in life, my belief is that we are each responsible for our behavior. You cannot disturb another soul unless they allow it.

      with love, Emmy

  60. DeeDee
    Posted April 9, 2014 at 7:34 am | Permalink

    I would like 2 know if she’s happy!! Thank you for your time

  61. Cate frasi
    Posted April 9, 2014 at 2:55 pm | Permalink

    I lost my mum on 4 th sept 2008 and I have never accepted it. She lost all her abilities to communicate with us. I was with her at the end and was beside myself . I constantly wish to dream about her but it never happens. She was so lovely and I took her for granted x

  62. Demetrius
    Posted April 15, 2014 at 7:07 am | Permalink

    My Mom Amanda M. Jones-Hall had emergency open heart surgery, and made her transition on January 17th, 2014. The low oxygen and blood too her brain left her in a coma states. Dr’s stated there was no sign of a normal life. My mother always said she didn’t want too live like that. So as a family request that she be taking off life support. Is she happy that we were attentive to her request???? I also donated her corneas and skin for research is she pleased????? Finally, is she happy!! I want her too know I Love her and miss her so much. All I do is cry, if I know these things have pleased her I would be so very happy.

    • Posted April 24, 2014 at 5:50 pm | Permalink

      Hi Demetrius
      Your mom is fine. She is in the beginning stages of acceptance of her life as well as her death. She is definitely grateful that you honored her request and still fairly close in to watch over you. Nothing would make her happier than to be nose to nose with you, but she has also been shown that she will reconnect with you one day when it is your transition time. She is showing me that being pleased with you is a normal thing for her and you. She loves you!

  63. neve
    Posted April 17, 2014 at 11:21 am | Permalink

    my mom commited suicide on june 21th 2010 when i was 18. no one knows the reason and i wanna know why. we have always not got well together but now i feel like she is guiding me and am agreeing and realizing to the things i argued with her before …. i feel terrible as she chose to leave me ..was i a terrible daughter? its been 4 years and i cry thinking about her every night am an only child and my dad is having a pretty hard time as doing many things that my mom will be proud of if she was she watching over me ? does she love me ? am confused with a lots of things in life and there is no one here to guide me… am lost please help me

    • Posted April 24, 2014 at 5:44 pm | Permalink

      Neve, I am hearing your mom’s suicide had nothing to do with you. She was very depressed and could see no way out of her living situation. She feels a similar sadness to you, but at the time of her death, she was not strong enough to stand tall in her self-defeating beliefs.

      Just know that your mom loves you and always did. When it is time for you to cross over, she will be there to greet you in a way you will know it is her.

  64. Check Shyong Quek
    Posted April 23, 2014 at 12:30 am | Permalink

    I would really like to know if anyone out there has had the same experience as I did. I am a Christian and did not know and would not have believed this 40 day-visitation of the soul until my mum passed away in December last year. The first week or during the 9 days after her passing, there were signs that she came to visit me by unmistakable smells and fragrance. The first one was the unmistakable smell of my mother with her skin moisturizer; the second one was the same smell plus fragrance of a flower which I did not really know what kind of flower it was. The third time which lasted the longest, about 6 to 8 seconds was totally the fragrance of the flower which was a strong fragrance. The next day I went to my friend’s house and his friend who was staying with him got to know about this and went to my friend’s garden and brought back some flowers which is JASMINE and it was exactly 100% the fragrance I experienced the night before. After that, I am a total believer in this 40 day-visitation. My church actually forbids us to believe in all this and told us that the soul sleeps after death until resurrection day but now I Know this is not true – the soul does visit their loved-ones and give signs to try to comfort them. I am comforted by the signs but I am still in great agony because the loss is real in a physical sense where I could not see her physically anymore and I do not have the chance anymore to care for her, cook for her, wash her laundry, buy her favourite foods, etc.. And now that she is gone, I only realized that it was a privilege and enjoyment to serve her while she was alive because we enjoyed talking to each other very much and she was always there for me no matter what! And I will always remember that My Mother is the only person in the world that truly loves me unconditionally. Lastly, I will appreciate it very much if you could tell me whether my mother is still with me and watching over me. Thank you.

    • Posted April 24, 2014 at 5:40 pm | Permalink

      Dear Check,
      Similar experiences similar to yours with your deceased mom happen often. Your mom wanted to show you that she is still with you and will continue until you no longer need her.

      The opportunity now is for you to take the baseline of love that the two of you shared and create it wherever your life takes you. How fortunate you are that you have a mom who loves you so much.

  65. Po Lin
    Posted April 26, 2014 at 8:18 am | Permalink

    Hi, my mom passed on 20 over years ago. We have never had a good relationship. She just didn’t like me that much. Would love to know why? The whole time I have always dream of her when she is not doing too well in the other world (that is the message I get from the dream). I have always wanted her to like me and I miss her even till today sometimes. Is she alright? Has she gone to another world?

  66. Sam
    Posted April 30, 2014 at 5:42 pm | Permalink

    My mom’s name is Radha Devi. She passed away when I was 7 now I am 16 and I want to talk to her and get to know her. How? My dad tells me she loved me so much and I miss her in my life please help me contact her?

  67. char
    Posted May 1, 2014 at 2:07 pm | Permalink

    hello i.lost my mum 16 years ago i can feel her around me dont no if its just in my head in mconfused

  68. anupama
    Posted May 4, 2014 at 12:35 pm | Permalink

    I am really in a bad state. My mumma passed away on 17 th april at 3:30 pm due to cardiac complications after angioplasty. We were expecting her full recovery but were left with empty hands. On the 3rd day of her passing, with relatives out of my bedroom and only me and my 2 toddlers asleep , i was woken up around 7 to 8 times by a big crashing sound. I was tired but every time i was woken up between 1 to 5 am. After 1 day my father noticed bruising on my left arm with a thumb and finger imprint. It actually made me believe that she ws trying to contact me. My mumma’s name is radha goel. I really feel her around me but i want some sort of contact. Please help me and please tell me that she is okay. Plaese i beg you please . She is 62 years old and i am 32. Please help me.

    • Check Shyong Quek
      Posted May 4, 2014 at 10:10 pm | Permalink

      Dear Anupama,

      I am very sorry to hear about your mother’s passing and that she was only 62. My deepest condolence to you and I am sure the bruising was caused by your mother trying to get your attention. But I am also sure very soon you will be able to communicate with each other probably in dreams.My mother also passed away quite recently in December last year. And I know I myself will one day see my mother face-to-face in that Eternal World. Yes! I believe our Soul is eternal just as LOVE is.

      • anupama
        Posted May 5, 2014 at 2:16 am | Permalink

        Dear check,
        Is there any other way i can contact her or i can know that she is doing ok and she is with me. I am a hindu, and in our religion , spirits are supposed to pass over to the other world for eternal peace, But i dont believe in that. All i want is her to be my mother in every birth and for her to be with me. I just want to feel her. Pleease help me.

      • anupama
        Posted May 5, 2014 at 2:22 am | Permalink

        Dear check,
        Is there any other way i can contact her or i can know that she is doing ok and she is with me. I am a hindu, and in our religion , spirits are supposed to pass over to the other world for eternal peace, But i dont believe in that. All i want is her to be my mother in every birth and for her to be with me. I just want to feel her. Pleease help me. I feel as if i am losing my mental balance sometimes, i have to restrain myself for the aake of my father and my two daughters. My older daughter who is 2 1/2 year old told me that she saw her ‘ammu’ sitti on the floor in our living room and she looked extremely happy . I keep on asking her and she repeats everything exaxtly as before, so i know she is not bluffing. But i really want to see her myse

        • Check Shyong Quek
          Posted May 7, 2014 at 12:13 am | Permalink

          Dear anupama, Yes! your daughter definitely is seeing her grandmum. Most children especially those 5 yr-old and below are able to see souls. My nephew was one of them and he is now about 39 yr-old and is a scientist at Manchester University. He is still able to see souls but not as easily and often as before but he has promised me that he will come to my house (Malaysia) in September when he is on holidays (from England) to see whether his grandmum/my mother is still around in my house. But he said he has to prepare himself by raising his energy through meditation before that. Work pressure and family commitments are sapping a lot of energy from him and such a task requires a relaxed mind and lots of energy. So, some forms of meditation could enable you to see souls but I would want to advise you to be very careful in doing such.

  69. Stefanie
    Posted May 6, 2014 at 7:49 am | Permalink

    Hi my mom passed away last January 26, 2013. I was really devastated especially because she was really okay and healthy. She died because of cerebral aneurysm. I wasn’t given a chance to talk to her in her last day bec she was in coma. I never told her how much I love and appreciate her. I always regret how i always talk back when she was still alive. I never felt any of her presence since then. I just see her in my dreams saying that she will move to another house. And in other dreams I see that she’s alive and recovered. I just want to know if she knows how much I love and miss her. And I also want to know if she already forgave me for everything. I hope she’s doing okay. I just want to see her again. I miss her a lot.

    • Check Shyong Quek
      Posted May 7, 2014 at 12:20 am | Permalink

      Yes! me too! I also regret! I guess we always think that our mothers are immortal and we have all the time in the world! But one thing for sure, she definitely knows you love her and has already forgiven you! I also wish to see my mother again and hopefully, she, as an apparition, might appear to me and tell me that she’s doing great!

  70. martina
    Posted May 14, 2014 at 9:41 am | Permalink

    I lost ma mum..on july 28 2012…it gas been really hard for me to move on…the day she passed on…I was telling ma friends about her…I dint realise it until she died that I had been talking about her the night she died….ryt…now am begging for her voice….or prescence just to reassure me that everything is going to be okay…she was 48 when she passed on….I dearly miss her…a day doesnt pass by wen I havent thought about her…I just want to let her know that I love her so much……she died of an accident that was very severe she died on spot……

  71. Anita
    Posted May 16, 2014 at 11:42 am | Permalink


    My mother, Sudha, passed away about a year ago. Without doubt, her absence is making me mentally suffer a lot.

    Few days back, i dreamt about her. I always feel i want to see her more and more. I dreamt that she is hugging me and is very close to me. She was happy. The rest of the day i was remembering her and missed her too much. That night i slept crying coz i missed her and wanted to be with her. I kept calling her name hoping she will come to me face to face. I kept space next to me for her to lie down. Then i hoped that my calling her should not make her suffer (coz she suffered before she passed). I was thinking that if i call her, does that mean that i will bring her with her suffering?

    When i slept i dreamt that she was in pain. She was suffering! I was with her trying to take care of her. But she was suffering. I woke up in the middle of the night post this dream with a bad leg pain. Couldnt sleep soundly after this and had a bad day too. After this i never dreamt abt her and tried not to call her too. I believe that me calling her is bringing her with her suffering, coz she suffered before she left.

    Can you please tell me what these dreams mean? Should i stop calling her? Please just tell me the truth. I am ready to listen whatever it is, bad or good.

  72. Bradley Long
    Posted May 22, 2014 at 6:43 am | Permalink

    Hi Emmy. My mom passed unexpectedly in April. My heart hurts and so does my family. I occasionally smell roses and at times cigarette smoke. I want her to know I love her. I want greatly to kiss her cheek. But really want to know if she is ok. Thanks snd God bless you.

    • Check Shyong Quek
      Posted May 26, 2014 at 8:33 pm | Permalink

      Hi Bradley! Are you sure it’s roses and not some other flowers like JASMINE? Probably it is JASMINE but since it is not found in the USA, the closest to it would be roses! But anyway, I would like to express my deepest condolences to you and your family. I know exactly how you feel. I found out that praying to God and Jesus all the time and thanking God that He has brought my mother to a much better eternal place definitely helps eventhough the grief is still there. I will forever miss my mother but I know one day, we will definitely meet again in Heaven. Same for you and your mother and your mother definitely knows you love her very much!

      • Bradley Long
        Posted May 30, 2014 at 10:47 am | Permalink

        It may be Jasmine. It is fresh fragrant and floral. I had a dream about her the other day. In it she spike to me and told me the doctors couldnt fix her. Also she told me that she has free range. She was wearing the dres she was buried in. I don’t remember my dreams but this was as vivid as waking hours. She told me to tell everyone she loves them. I feel as if she contacted me in my dreams. It was comforting. Take care and God Bless you!

        • Check Shyong Quek
          Posted May 31, 2014 at 9:05 pm | Permalink

          Wow! that’s really wonderful! Yes! it is a true visitation by your mum as it was a comforting one. I also had one where it was as vivid as you said where I could actually feel my hands holding onto my mother’s wrist because I did not want to let her go. And incredibly, when I woke up from this, I realized the dream visitation actually lasted more than 2 hours! In the dream, it seemed to be about half an hour, max! Time really flies when you are together with your loved ones. Oh yes! when your mother said she has free range, does that mean she can anytime come and go, to visit you, as she wishes. Thank you and may God Bless you, too!

          • Bradley Long
            Posted June 2, 2014 at 7:51 pm | Permalink

            I think she is able to walk freely now with no pain. But she is still with us. My baby talks to nanna all the time. I encourage it. He laughs and says hi nanna randomly. It is quite amazing. I really miss her and look for signs of her everywhere. If you truly open your heart you very often find her. I have greatly enjoyed speaking with you as a fellow believer in life after death. Take care! God bless you always!

          • Check Shyong Quek
            Posted June 2, 2014 at 10:32 pm | Permalink

            Hi Bradley! Very glad to hear from you again and so happy for you and your family that your son is able to see her and talk to her. It is very true that most children below the age of 5 are able to see souls spontaneously. As for us, we mostly have to depend on fragrances, etc.but with God, anything is possible and that He may grant us the permission to see our mothers during our waking hours and talk to them personally one day! I guess we have to pray diligently for it to happen. But again, I am so happy for you that your son is able to see her and talk to her, and laughs with her! Maybe you could ask your son to relay to your mother what you want to say to her. Thank you and God Bless!

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  74. Nicole
    Posted May 31, 2014 at 9:04 pm | Permalink

    Hello, my name is Nicole and I am 16. My mom died September 8, 2013. She died of brain cancer and previously had lung cancer. She was sick for 3 years and we knew a year before she died that it was near. With this knowledge I told her daily that I loved her and that it was okay for her to pass away. I told her all the time that it would be the same. That I would still talk to her, I would sing to her, I would write to her, etc. I made her promise me that she would talk back. But I’ve never felt her .. Never seen her.. Only a couple random dreams.

    • Check Shyong Quek
      Posted May 31, 2014 at 9:27 pm | Permalink

      Dear Nicole. I know exactly how you feel. ADCs may come in different forms. Have you ever heard your mother calling you since her passing? My mother had called me 5 times already since her passing in December last year and I only had one true dream visitation from her since. Oh yes! have you experienced any flower fragrances like Jasmine which would also indicate that your mother has come to visit you? I had also experienced such during the first two weeks after my mother’s passing. But anyway, your mother will definitely come to comfort you or already has been doing that without your realizing it. Lastly, I pray that God will bless all of us so that our mothers will always communicate with us and that we will be aware of it.

  75. Vanessa Franklin
    Posted June 4, 2014 at 2:48 pm | Permalink

    My mother named me after her except I have a middle name”marie” and she doesn’t. She died in 2010 January 22. I miss her sooooooo much it hurts so bad.

  76. Micah
    Posted June 4, 2014 at 10:14 pm | Permalink

    I lost my mother on Valentines Day of this year, and to make matters worse, it was 4 days after her 48th birthday. I just turned 21 on the 24 of May. I miss her so much, I’m crying right now as I type this. I remember a few days after losing her I heard a knock on the door and I opened it and no one was there. It happened again a few days later and even my cousin heard it, but no one there. I wondered was that her. I just want to see my mom one last time to be sure she’s alright.

    • Check Shyong Quek
      Posted June 19, 2014 at 12:18 am | Permalink

      Dear Micah, I am very sorry for your loss and I am pretty sure that was your mum knocking at your door. I believe she will try to contact you again, most likely in your dreams, to tell you that she’s doing OK! May God give you peace and solace and hope to hear from you again if you have any more ADCs!

  77. Sonu
    Posted June 20, 2014 at 8:11 pm | Permalink

    Hello, my name is Sonu and my mom died 2 days after my son 3 birthday whom she loved the most on 11 jan2014. The sad part she sick and I arrived late to USA. The day I arrived the same night she passed away. I only saw her for few hours and I was going a bad phase too. Right now I am in India I still think of her. I get sometime dream of her. Once she is telling me one Muslim is doing bad for you. Few days I see her dead body in circle with torn clothes along with 2 unknown dead people and recently another dream someone knocks my door with papers from dead that tell me your mom is getting better. Please tell me my mom is okay. Is she remembering me and my sons. Was anyone behind her death. I want to see her.

  78. Rachu
    Posted June 23, 2014 at 11:04 am | Permalink

    My mom passed away on Aug 13th, 2012 (Mandakini Rathod) She was diagnosed with Liver cirrhosis for past 5 years. I had promised her I will take care of my younger brother & dad, but it seems I am not able to draw a plan or be of any help to them. I see my mom in my dreams but unable to remember what she is telling me.

    I want to tell her that I feel your support and energy, I love you & miss you each day. I want to know if she is okay?

    I am breaking down mom please help me to balance.

  79. psn2223
    Posted June 24, 2014 at 6:49 pm | Permalink

    My mom Rema passed away on oct 9,2013after fighting colon cancer for 2 years from 2010. She never wanted to die and we wanted her to be with us. I hoped for a miracle till the last day of her life. She was my best friend. I live in USA and I used to talk to her every morning for hours. Now I miss all that. We take so many things for granted in life, now I wish I had my mom who lives me unconditionally with me! I know it’s impossible but it’s a big void that I feel . She was my inspiration. She was only 58 when she died. I always wished I could see her smart and healthy like she used to be before the disease. She was a firm believer in god and now that broke all our faith. I want to know if she’s ok and also if she’s still with me . I want her to know that I love her and have always loved her the most. My son misses his grandma. She was his beloved grandma, she loved him the most! Amma we love you and miss you. I have not seen dad happy after you left. I try to stay happy but I never feel really happy at heart coz I am always reminded within myself that you are not around:( love you Amma. I want you to be with me always!

  80. portia
    Posted June 28, 2014 at 7:09 pm | Permalink

    Hi. My mom daphne passed away on the 5th oct 2007. I miss her so much. I wish she was here by myside. She was a loving and caring mother. With all the problems I am facing I wish to hear her voice telling me It wil be okm

  81. Patty
    Posted July 1, 2014 at 8:28 pm | Permalink

    I lost my mom on May 19, 2014. We lived together for 4 years. I was her caregiver, but did not spend enough time with her, she even asked me why I don’t and I told her that I had to work. I wish now that I sat down with her more often and held her more. I would kiss her goodnight everynight. I I do work from home so I would be close to her. She was my best friend. I love her so much and am so alone now that she is gone. I had to move from where we lived last weekend because I felt spirits all around. Two days before her last breath, my dogs started howling, which they never did before. My mom kept saying that there was a man fighting with her every night. The morning on the day she died, she ate breakfast with the aide, whie I worked. She told the aide that she just wanted to curl up on the couch because it was warm. The aide tried to keep her active. At about 4:30 I heard the aide say to her, we’ve got to go to the bathroom, you haven’t gone since this morning. I came out of my home office and said “Mom you have to go to the bathroom.” She said in a very clear voice “don’t talk to me.” I changed my tone and said, “Please.” She said something was holding her legs, but we did get her into the bathroom, which she was afraid to go to for a long time. She sat down on the toilet and I went back into my office. The aide said, “come in, your mom doesn’t look good.” I went in and my mom was dying. I screamed don’t leave me, please it’s not time yet, my mother opened her eyes and mouth three times to fight dying, I held her and she died. I would love to contact her. I’ve heard her voice twice when I awakened in the morning and answered her. I tried to light candles, look at her picture and touch my keepsake urn, while I talk to her. At one point, I just closed my eyes one day and a strange looking “man/woman tall, with blond hair” starting coming towards me. I opened my eyes and she was gone. Someone told me to tell my mother not to send any spirits to see if I’m OK. I did ask my mother not to send anyone, but for her to visit me. I still have not been able to contact her.My ears ring a lot (no medical problems). I read she’s trying to contact me. I was wondering if you could help me. I want to apologize for the bad times when I did not understand what was happening and tell her I love and miss her, wish she was in a much better place, and just feel her spirit. Thank you.

    • Check Shyong Quek
      Posted July 1, 2014 at 9:43 pm | Permalink

      Hi Patty. Very sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel as I am going through the same. I also heard my mother called me ( 5 times) in the morning since her passing which woke me up. The ringing in your ears is definitely your mother trying to talk to you. I also want to apologize to my mother for any wrongs that I might have done towards her. I guess we always think our mothers are immortal and that we have all the time in the world until it’s too late! I’ll pray for you that you will get clear ADCs from your mum and also hope you will pray that I’ll get ADCs from my mum too! We all need to support each other during this most difficult period in our lives. Take care and God Bless!

      • Patty
        Posted September 14, 2014 at 7:56 pm | Permalink

        My mother has come to me in my dreams twice. I begged her to just let me know if she is OK. The first time she came, I remember that there was a conversation, I know it was her voice and her face and body was a blur, but I could recognize her. I know she was happy because she disappeared and I woke up calling, “Mom, mom” and I felt so good. The second time was about 1 week ago. I told her I was having problems with my right eye and she appeared for a momemt in my dreams. I know it was her both times. I’m not a dreamer or if I am, I never remember them. I still miss her more than ever and still feel so alone. In 5 days it will be 4 months since she died. I still go to the bookstore and try to find books for her to read, I walk by outdoor cafes and become so sad because that was one of our favorite things to do. I’m fairly down today and my ears are ringing loud. I am actually frightened because she was my only family. My 2 pooches and I are the family now and we miss her her so much. .

        • Check Shyong Quek
          Posted November 6, 2014 at 6:43 am | Permalink

          Dear Patty, so glad to know that your mum has come to visit twice already and yes! you would know if the visitations are real because you will vividly remember the details unlike normal dreams. Maybe you should pick up a game or sports like tennis to bring back some fun into your life and lead an active and healthy lifestyle. And may God continually bless you with visitations from your mum and I know exactly the good comforting feeling that comes right after that!

  82. meaghan
    Posted July 1, 2014 at 11:19 pm | Permalink

    i lost my mom 7 years ago. im still bitter and sad about it. she died when i was 19 years old. ive repeatedly tried to connect with her, ive tried everything under the sun. nothing ever happens, I never feel a thing. But i stopped trying because i have done something most people would consider unforgivable. She probably wants nothing to do with me now. I married her boyfriend of 10 years, they wanted to get married but just never got around to it. He is 20 years older than me, ive known him since i was 12. We NEVER thought of each other romantically while she was alive, we hardly had any kind of relationship. After she died i tried to keep in touch to make sure he would be okay. He has no family around to comfort him. so i would come and visit him with my fiance at that time. this story is way too long so this is the short version. we stayed in touch and had a very platonic relationship for a couple years. then he started changing towards me. then 3 years later i left my cheating fiance and moved in with him as i had no where else to go. 8 months later we started dating. 1 year later we married, and shortly after, we had a baby together. i did not marry him because of my ex or because i grew comfortable as some would say. and he did not marry me because i resemble my mom. we truly and honestly love eachother. and we loved her more than words can express. we talk about her all the time. i do not regret my decision to marry him. but it has left me not knowing how to feel. does she hate me? dos she hate our daughter? am i allowed to wish she was here? to wish she could meet my little girl? No one can relate to me, i feel completely alone. i feel like i stole the life she wanted, her life was so hard. i feel so guilty, but at the same time ive never been happier. i love my life now, but where does that leave her? she deserved to be happy. she deserved a good life more than i do. i wish i just knew how she felt, even if she hates me now, i will always and forever love her. i hope she an forgive me. i hope god can forgive me. ive never told anyone this. we keep the past a secret. and now ive just shared it online lol. even though i know the comments of how im a traitorous whore are coming, it feels good to get it off my chest.

  83. tammyjones
    Posted July 9, 2014 at 12:01 am | Permalink

    Is my mother going to make sure i get her personal items? I think so!

  84. Samantha
    Posted July 12, 2014 at 12:12 pm | Permalink

    I just wanna talk to my mom I’m 15 and she died when I was three I wanna make sure she’s okay and I don’t know how I can talk to her without taking a huge risk with unwanted spirits I’m begging you to give me any advice on this.

  85. Darrell Wayne Jenkin
    Posted July 16, 2014 at 10:27 am | Permalink

    I believe everything you spoke up because I myself have talked to my mother after she has passed away from the other side.
    she came to me from the other side

    my question is how do I find my angels because I know there’s an afterlife being born again means dying in this life how do i channel without going to where you spoke of where I don’t want to be I wish to learn how to channel to help other the name that its called is the knowing and very few have been chosen and I’m one of the chosen my mother and my brother came to me from the other side my brother came with my mother to clarify and verify of my mother’s death you are on a higher plane of the knowing I’m not wanting to channel the third dimension I want to go to the other side where my mind will be safe with my loved ones you being one of the knowing will understand what I’m saying can you please help me I await your answer pS I need to know how to get in touch with my angels so my mind will be safe and my reality is sane so I can help others and teach what I speak and speak with truth of the knowing thank you 145 West ninth Pittsburg California 94565 Darrell Wayne Jenkins. I walk in God’s light as one of the chosen for the knowing and you are the teacher of the knowing Joe’s in by God to serve Him under his umbrella of life GOD…… bless you and all who are of the knowing

  86. Casey yau
    Posted July 20, 2014 at 9:06 pm | Permalink

    My mom was 56 years old when she passed away. I have the best mother in the world. Even when my mother was under immense debilitating pain, and died from lung cancer on Feb, 2014. She is my everything, I lived with her all my life. I have been crying non stop since she passed away. Please tell me how she is, does she still love me? I’ve been praying everyday even though I am not really religious that my only wish is to be reunited with her and I don’t care if I have to die right away if that’s what it takes. Will she wait for me?

    • Check Shyong Quek
      Posted July 20, 2014 at 11:12 pm | Permalink

      Dear Casey, firstly, very sorry for your loss and secondly, I truly understand how you feel because I am having the same feeling as you do. I’ve also been praying everyday to be reunited with my mother and I also don’t care if I have to die right away if that’s what it takes. On the other hand, our mothers would want us to be happy and they would watch over us all the time. And rest assured that your mother will be there to welcome you together with Jesus when your time comes.

  87. Dixie
    Posted July 23, 2014 at 3:35 pm | Permalink

    Hello Emmy,

    My mom Sue passed away in July of this year. Please let me know how she’s doing. I didn’t get to hug her or speak with her before she passes away. I miss her so much that my heart hurts. How is it still beating when she’s no longer here?

    Thank you so much!


  88. Posted July 28, 2014 at 2:34 pm | Permalink

    My mom died because of hypertension and I didn’t have hug her or talk to her the day before she died. At some point, I felt guilt, sadness, terrible and don’t know how to live again. And this day right this time maybe 4:00am I dreamed of her crying and I hug her with all my heart. Then she said to me “Maybe god has better plans for her” and then in a bit of a second, I WOKE UP! I just want to talk to her in my dreams and I’m so very tired the time I wake up. Feel free to contact me on my facebook account Nel Marbeda

  89. Stephanie
    Posted July 28, 2014 at 10:02 pm | Permalink

    Hi, my mother died three years ago in august. She was the only person I felt that truly understood me and the only person who had my back 100 percent. Since she passed I’ve felt alone, even though I have a lot of special people around me. I always feel like I’m disappointing her and she were here she would be upset with me because I never try hard enough. I just want her to be proud of me and I hope she’s watching over me.

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  91. Posted August 6, 2014 at 10:44 pm | Permalink

    Hi.ilost my mom when i was 25.she died of an unknown disease.her death was actually a very horrible nightmare for me.since then i could not turn back to reality.she is my cute angel and for now i use to live with her in my imaginary world.when at times i come back to reality i feel very linely again and miss her very badly.for now i just feel can i get to c her once or able to listen her at dear mom if u are near me i jus want to tell u that i love u alot n miss u badly.dnt ever never try to forget ur dear child n wait for me in heaven till we unite together ameen…….

  92. Cathy
    Posted August 7, 2014 at 2:05 pm | Permalink

    My mother died from cancer this past April. When she was alive, we did everything together. She was my best friend. Now she is gone forever and I’m never going to see her again. I’m sad all the time. I don’t know how I’m possibly going to go on living without her. I’m not sure I even believe in life after death at all. It would mean a great deal to me if you could get a message to me from her that might let me know that she is still around and out there and not really gone forever, but simply changed and in a different form.

    • lisa roncevic
      Posted December 13, 2014 at 10:24 am | Permalink

      I lost my mom just last month it was soo devastating to loose everything she was everything to me it was hard fir me to go and it still i didn,t even know she developed brain cancer that was never treated delayed all her oppointments until she got worse it was horrible to see her go. Into a stroke and then a coma the most horrifying time of my life..

  93. Jam
    Posted August 10, 2014 at 2:44 am | Permalink

    My mom passed away last June. She had cancer but I believe she passed away because of the complications of chemo. We found out about her cancer last May and over a month after, she was taken away from us. I did not expect her to go that quick. I kept praying for one more year but I wasn’t given that time. My mom passed away while I was working overtime in the office. It was her check-up the next day so I decided to finish the work I was supposed to turn in the next day so I can accompany her to her doctor. I thought she was getting better because she was already discharged from the hospital and was already feeling better. Everything happened so quickly that during the final weeks of her life, I was pre-occupied with trying to get her the things she needed doing errands and all I did not get the chance to talk to her sincerely to encourage her and to remind her of how much I loved her.
    My mom and I were very close. She was practically the only family I had. We had a huge fight last March but we made up before she got sick. But I am very much guilty because I said hurtful things to her. I am even more guilty because the one time I chose to stay at work to finish something, she passed away. We weren’t able to say our goodbyes. I miss my mom so bad and I wish I could have had more time with her. Right now, all I want is for her to know how much I love her and how sorry I am for all the pain I have caused her.

  94. susmita
    Posted September 4, 2014 at 6:36 am | Permalink

    my mummy died on 19 th aug, i feel dead without her
    kindly ask her how she is? if she wants to tell me any7thing
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  95. Stefanie Lim Sula
    Posted September 4, 2014 at 10:38 pm | Permalink

    Hi my mom died January 26,2013 it was all very sudden and unexpected. She died of cerebral vascular accident. (Stroke) she was comatose for 24 hours. I was not able to tell her how sorry I am and how much I love her. I wish I told her that I appreciate and love her so much. I wished she knew how thankful I am that she was my mom. I just want to know how she’s doing right now. I haven’t felt her presence from the day she died until now. I feel that she has forgotten me already. My mom’s name is Rosaline yap lim.

  96. Posted September 13, 2014 at 12:14 pm | Permalink

    Hi my name is jodie green my mum passed away 10 years ago i love and miss her very much i just want to know if she is ok and i want her to know how much i miss her

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  99. vasavi
    Posted September 30, 2014 at 2:49 am | Permalink

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  100. vasavi
    Posted September 30, 2014 at 2:50 am | Permalink

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  101. Megan
    Posted September 30, 2014 at 8:07 am | Permalink

    Hi. This is a bit weird to me, but my mom passed away May 3, 2013. Before she passed away, she promised she would come visit me in my dreams, & she has quite a few times. But only once every two months. In my last dream she said, “I have to go now, but I will be back. I love you!” & I said “No, dont go because every time you say you’ll be back, you dont come back for a month or two!” She simply said, “My time is different than yours. I will be back, & we will be together when you pass away” I said “Thats a long time away, or is it soon?: & she said “soon”.. i know these arent just “dreams” bc she promised me that she would come visit me in my dreams bc her mom did the same when she passed away, but the last dream I had where she told me we will be reunited soon scared me, even though she told me not to be scared. I just miss her a lot, & I feel like i cant continue going on some days. Is there a way you could try to communicate with her?

    • Check Shyong Quek
      Posted October 2, 2014 at 1:46 am | Permalink

      Dear Megan,

      For them in Heaven, soon means decades, at least 30 years!

  102. Posted October 7, 2014 at 2:24 pm | Permalink

    My mom died 2/25/04 how do I know if she’s been following me? I miss her so much I know it’s been 10 yrs but the hurt never goes away! I don’t wanna seem selfish by missing her but I was the closest to her out of 3 kids I’m also the baby. There was something she needed me to do I’m hoping when I did it that it was what she wanted. I’m hoping that’s what they meant at her funeral in 2004 how do I know if I’m right? Can you tell my mom I love her still love her and that will never change! And please ask her when will I feel her around again? When I think I feel her it really helps and I feel so happy. Since she died were not the same. I cry all the time, I’m exstreamly defensive, and always nervous I’m assuming it’s because my mom dying really broke my heart she was my bestfriend! Please tell her what we last talked about on the phone hours before she died I meant. I’m not mad at her. I fully understand that conversation .also why was she haunting me in my dreams? I used to have dreams she was dying in my arms, I call 911 for help them help comes and she jumps up mad at me and says I’m fine! I wake up crying!

  103. Posted October 13, 2014 at 7:54 am | Permalink

    I have been talking and asking my Guardian Angel for help when I have needed help with something. I am always amazed when I have received that help. Although I know my Angel hears and helps me I would like to hold a conversation. I can feel my Angel and I have told others to talk to their Angel, people are so sceptical they won’t accept it. I suppose it is too big a leap for most people but they are missing so much. It is true as you say ‘let go of preconceptions’ it requires a very different way of thinking and looking, its not hard just very different.

  104. Margie
    Posted October 14, 2014 at 2:47 am | Permalink

    My mom passed away Sept.30, 2014. We had borrowed the money from my spouses parents because family called and said mom passed out on the floor. She was placed in the hospital in Canada and while we were there transferred to a nursing facility. It was a wonderful place and she seemed to be adjusting. She was lonely and my brother was the closest to her. He has always been a snot and said he had a life. We visited her one last time before heading back to Texas on Sept. 26. 2014. I felt she had had a stroke but others were saying no she has dementia. She didn’t. I know it because she would talk to me asking me how I was doing and mentioning past health issues. Mom was all there..she had difficulty talking. Sept. 30 2014 my brother called and told me heartlessly, ” Margaret, your mother died.” If I had been standing next to him I would have throttled him. Your mother…she was his mother to the arrogant spoiled brat. Mom worked 3 jobs to put his worthless behind through college. Mom did that for him because he was the only son out of five children. She loved us all unconditionally. My eldest sister passed in 2008. Mom never got over losing her. Tonight, I sat on the sofa and cried. I feel guilt stricken. Mom died in the hands of strangers. She had only been there a week. The 4 children she had left were not with her when she passed. I have lived with my 2nd husband here for 15 years and we would go back to Canada every other year. I have always felt I should have been there looking after her. Mom would only say honey I will be fine. The guilt is still there though and as my penance it will live with me till it is my turn to go. Mom had a pillow and it was my deceased sisters, then hers. I requested the pillow and they could not find it. It angered me. I lashed at at my 2nd eldest sister…told her I hated her because she always talked bad if my oldest sister and at times mom. She told me they found the pillow and she was sending it. I did not apologize to her because they put me through hell while I was visiting with mom and after we got back home. I have no one left who talks to me of my siblings. I cry over mom because in the past we cried together on the phone over some emotional things and we would talk for hours. I miss her so very badly. I kiss moms picture at night before bed and tell her I miss her and I am so sorry I was not there for her when she passed and asked her to forgive me. It is difficult being here in the USA while children and grandkids are in Canada. I am missing their lives as well. I always ask my husband to please move home with me but he refuses to give up his birth place or move away from his family for awhile. I hope mom is at peace and someday she will hear me request her forgiveness. Thank you for your time.

    • Check Shyong Quek
      Posted October 14, 2014 at 11:19 pm | Permalink

      Very sorry for your loss and I know how you feel that your mom had died in the arms of strangers but this is no fault of yours because you did not know when she would pass away and honestly, we, as children who love our mothers, always think and hope that our mothers are immortal.

  105. bella
    Posted November 1, 2014 at 5:38 pm | Permalink

    My mum died when i was 16 of cancer, she died 3 months after being diagnosed. i was only 16 at the time and i am 22 now. I miss her so much and need to know if she is okay, i need closure even if that sounds selfish. Sometimes i think she visits me in dreams, but i am never sure if it is actually her or if it is just a dream. She always seems in a hurry to speak to me but i always have a very hazy memory of what she actually says, what can i do to help her talk to me if she is trying?

    • Check Shyong Quek
      Posted November 2, 2014 at 12:06 am | Permalink

      Dear Bella, if it is a true visitation, you would know because it will be very vivid like real life, everything will be sequential and not haphazard and communication will be telepathic and without having to move our lips.

  106. Mariam A A
    Posted November 6, 2014 at 4:33 am | Permalink

    My name is Mariam, and am 28years old, my mum died of diabetic and hypertension on her birthday 15th of October 2014,am so sad because my mum had always wanted to see me married and also she never waited to eat the fruit of her hard labor , I will miss my mum everyday of my day, I want to know if she is feeding fine and if she is VERY OK wherever she is, although am sacred of ghost, but I will want to communicate with her in my dream, can u help me please?
    please her name is Theresa, help me tell her I LOVE HER and I will FOREVER MISS HER

  107. Faiza Khan
    Posted November 8, 2014 at 4:30 pm | Permalink

    My mom died on Oct 5,2014. Since I live in USA, I was not able to to meet her since May 2009.
    I feel so guilty for not visiting her and could not be with her when she was in the hospital dying. I love her so much and miss her. I just want to communicate with her. Listen to her voice just once. I am so sad. Want to make sure if she is Ok and safe.

  108. Christine
    Posted December 18, 2014 at 6:35 pm | Permalink

    I just lost my Mum on the 13th December 2014. I spent 5 nights with her holding her hand. She passed away around 4,45 am. I fell asleep briefly when I suddenly jumped up and noticed she had gone, now I am not sure if she knew I was with her and did I let go of her hand or not. I just don ‘t know , so full of guilt that I might not of been Holding her like I promiced, one of my brother stayed with her for a few months as she was very frail, we all thought how lovely it was of him to care for her . When checking on her bank account I saw he had been helping himself to her money. So have grief for losing my mum and total hate for my brother , I am not sure I’if could ever come to terms with this at all,

  109. Anand
    Posted December 22, 2014 at 6:16 am | Permalink


    I lost my mom on 11 December. Her name is SyamKaur. She love me the most, I love her the most I realized when she is not with me now. No one is that much matter for me as she. Could you please help me connecting with my mom…Please….

  110. Reshma
    Posted January 7, 2015 at 9:09 pm | Permalink

    My mom passed away on August 29th, 2014 her name s Hamthu Nisha nd my granny died on March 30th 2007 all of a sudden, she never fell ill. My mom had breast cancer. I want to know whether they are ok nd fine. They are gmy best friend. I always wanted to b with me. I’m heart broken now. Feel alone. As my mom was working I grew up with my granny so I never differentiated them I call both of them as mom. My dad told he heard my mom’s voice few times after 1 month of her death. I want to know whether my mom s angry on me, I can’t hear her or feel.
    I want them to know that I miss her so much and every minute is like a hell to me. My mom was n great pain of cancer, I want to know whether that’s still paining for her.
    If so I pray to god that to give that pain to me and release her of it.

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