Mother’s Day: How to Talk to Your Deceased Mom

courtesy Ramsiel, Love&Light World

A young woman asked me today, “How do I reconnect with my mom who died?  I  want to know if she’s ok. Can you help me?”

When you are not used to connecting with the spirit world, it takes a little doing initially.  Although when someone has just passed, often people feel that person’s presence at least for a couple of days.  Since this was an email request, she didn’t say how long it’s been since she moved on, but here are my suggestions.

1.  The first thing to understand is that connecting with the deceased can be a wonderful experience. However, you need to be aware that there are other energies floating around out there besides your loving mom. Just like you would not walk on the wrong side of town by yourself at night, you don’t want to move into the home of the deceased unprotected either.  If you’ve ever had a nightmare, you can understand there is energy  you do not want to bump into on the astral plane.

2.  To connect with your deceased safely, it is best to create a protective shield around you.  You don’t leave your door unlocked at night. For the same reason you want to protect yourself in the astral world. To protect yourself, set your intention to connect with a specific person deliberately.

My suggestion is to set aside a quiet space where you surround yourself with any angels or guides you feel drawn to, as well as any masters such as Jesus or Mohammed or just the Divine itself.  Do this intentionally. Ask for their protection and the ability to connect. Then accept that you have connected with your mom.  What I do is say the person’s name I want to speak to out loud, three times as a way to insure that it is only mom who appears.

3. Then sit quietly. If it helps to have her picture, by all means hold that or look at her. Put out anything that reminds you of her.  Personally, I feel the person’s energy run up my right leg and sometimes up both. Just sit there. Hold the intention and expect your mom to be with you.  As you relax  you will feel her love for you.  Perhaps you will even see or hear her.  You might smell her perfume or cigarette if she smoked.  You might even feel her touch.

If you feel nothing, do not assume that she is not there. It is simply that you are wearing your 3D glasses and she is in the spirit world. 3D glasses don’t work there. Connecting and recognizing that connection requires a slightly different focus and practice.

4.  The more relaxed you can be without any expectation of something amazing happening, the easier it will all be. Just create the intention that you will feel her love and that she will feel and accept yours.  It’s that simple.

If you need help, this is one of the things that I do and I’d be happy to assist.  F.y.i., it took me awhile before I knew for sure I was connecting with the deceased, but now it is fairly simple.  If there is something special you want to discuss with her, just do it. Or write to her.

If you can keep the thought that this is not possible out of your mental picture, you may very well find yourself in a lovely chat with mom just in time for Mother’s Day.

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  1. emeshni
    Posted July 4, 2011 at 1:20 pm | Permalink

    My mum,Chinthamoney Naidoo, died 25 May 2011.I took care of her until the end.I love her n miss her.I just want to know if she’s ok, if she loves me.

    • Posted July 18, 2012 at 10:07 am | Permalink

      Your loving mother is not only okay, but she is right there with you. I can feel her. All you have to do is be willing to allow yourself to deliberately “see” beyond your physical five senses. You can do it. What makes it difficult is we are trained to ignore anything except the five senses.

      She is close in for you. As close as she ever was. You are not crazy. You are simply feeling her presence. If you have her picture, put it somewhere where you can see it and acknowledge her as you walk by.

      All the loving care you gave her she is giving you. Allow yourself to “pretend” that it is so, because it is.

      • sophia
        Posted March 27, 2013 at 11:29 am | Permalink

        Hi, i don’t really believe in people who communicate with the dead but i am 13 years old and i recently lost my mom. She was my best friend, the only one who could see how i was feeling without me having to explain. Now that shes gone i am so terribly lost. she died of cancer, and i feel like i can still see how she looked when she passed, i feel angry and guilty at the same time, and i am just praying that i could hear her voice one more time, i just want to have that closure, and i want answers because i have so many questions, starting with why the hell didn’t she tell me she was near her last days? I start high school next year and i all i can think about is what am i going to do when i have even more trouble? sometimes i just wish i could be up there with her!…is that crazy?!

        • Karen
          Posted March 30, 2013 at 8:01 pm | Permalink

          Anger and guilt and sadness and despair will all take turns in your head until you find some peace with losing your Mom. It really takes a while to accept that this has really happened. She may not have known that she was in her final days. So, try not to be angry about that. But, if you are angry that she died and left you, you are not alone. Many people feel both sadness and anger toward our loved ones when we lose them especially losing a parent or a spouse. You just don’t know how you will be able to go on without them in your life. But, you will….. It will take time to learn how to live without her. However, she will always be with you…

          • Thaya
            Posted April 20, 2013 at 5:18 am | Permalink

            Hi, my mom died 5 years ago on this day and on the night she died i was 7 years old(im 12 now) i felt someone messing with my hair like she used to and when i moved to another country in i was (8 turning 9) i felt like someone was playing with my hair again .last year i was cleaning the floor when i smelt her favourite perfum i immediately felt calm i think its her help i want to know if she is fine (she had breast cancer for 8 years )

          • Posted April 10, 2014 at 4:23 pm | Permalink

            HI Thaya,

            How special you are that you are open to your mom’s subtle touch. When you feel or smell her, know that it is not in your mind. She is with you. Loving you as always. Watching over you as always.

            Your mom is just fine. She loves you with her whole heart and wants you to know that she will always be with you as long as you need her.

            My own mom died when I was an adult and after 30 years, she is often so clearly in my dreams that I wake up knowing we were doing things together. What? I can’t tell you. I just know I awake happy, knowing we were together.

            When it is your time to cross over, you will see her with open arms awaiting your return to your real home.

        • Joanna
          Posted May 6, 2013 at 5:34 pm | Permalink

          Hi, I know exactly what you’re going through, and I am in my 30′s. My mother just passed on Valentine’s Day of cancer as well. I feel like a lost little girl. She will always be my best friend and soul mate. Feelings of guilt, anger, etc. are all normal, so try to be strong and keep remembering that your mom does not want you to suffer, but to be happy again, because she loves you and wants you to go on with your life. It’s true, your mom may not have know that she was so close to dying because she wanted to keep fighting and stay with you; my mom did not expect to leave us yet, she wanted to stay with me so badly. She did not let go of hope until the last minute. Only did she know she would die a couple of weeks prior to it, and she made peace. As far as connecting with her, well I am frustrated because my grief is getting in the way. Relax, and you will feel her with you. I feel my mom a lot, as well as have had some signs. Once I heal a bit more and just calm my emotions, I know she will communicate more. Hang in there!

        • Posted June 24, 2013 at 4:16 pm | Permalink

          Hi Sophia,

          Sorry for this long delay in answering, but I’m techno-phobic and couldn’t figure out how to open all these comments. There are still plenty I have missed.

          My suggestion, Sophia, is to see if you can get some counseling through a kind family member, a church if you belong, maybe the school psychologist, or even online where other teenagers write in.

          What I can assure you is that your mom misses and loves you. She wants you to know that there is nothing to feel guilty about, nothing to be worried about, as long as you take care of yourself. Since she is not with you in the physical, only in the spirit world, which in her case means as often as you want, she is hoping that you trust someone to talk about your misery.

          You are not crazy. Also, it is normal to be angry, guilty AND so loving that it’s painful. Imagine that your mom and you have a great relationship and can talk daily. As if things were normal and you could return from school and talk to her while she fixed dinner. Set aside time before bed where you recount the day to her. Like you might if she were alive. She is alive, but you can’t see you. She is with you but you can’t feel her. All it takes if practice. It took me years but it was worth it.

          with love, Emmy

  2. Robert Rubin
    Posted August 1, 2011 at 3:17 am | Permalink

    My dearest Mommie died when she was only 63 years old. She had a difficult life, and I was only 28 when she passed away.

    Since then, many years since, she has appeared to me during difficult times in my own life, and now I know how much I love her. She was so kind and beautiful.

    I remember once years ago I was in such despair. I went into a KFC just to sit and cry. And then I saw her sitting across the table from me, maybe not really there, but certainly I felt her love and presence. She smiled at me and I could even smell her perfume. I felt safe again.

    Since then I have felt her loving presence many more times.

    God bless you, my dearest Mommie. I will love you forever. Forgive me for taking you so much for granted when you were in this world.

    There is nothing in this world like a mother’s love for her children, for it transcends even death.

    • Posted August 1, 2011 at 2:41 pm | Permalink

      Thank you for taking the time to post. If we are lucky enough to have a loving Mother or Dad, we are blessed indeed with someone to lean back on, someone to understand us or at least try to, and someone who will model behavior we hope to find in our adult life in another. Without that, we are left with this feeling of floating alone in the sea of life. The answer is always the same. To love with an open heart while learning to stay clear of those with pincers, big teeth or poisonous tentacles.

      By the way, you are right. Love transcends death. In fact I believe now after playing around in the world of the non-dead, that it is in our dead spirit life that we are modeled how to live in our physical body life.

      • Posted March 22, 2012 at 7:58 pm | Permalink

        On Sunday I was invited to antetd the special Mass and celebrations for six Missionary Priests and Brothers who have dedicated their lives to serving the poor particularly in Africa. They were all celebrating either their 25th or 50th anniversaries in their Mother House in Paris.It was very humbling to be there to share in the joy. The Priest next to me at table regaled me with stories of the Congo and of eating elephant and monkey which happily were not on the menu at the celebratory meal!I have found talking to the Missionary priests who have experienced so much hardship among people who have so little materially makes our own petty problems seem insignificant. A most uplifting day.

  3. Heidi Fiaher Balla
    Posted December 8, 2011 at 5:50 pm | Permalink

    My Mommma died 11-1-11, I wake up at night screaming for her. I find that I have no way of connecting with her. I hope she remembers how her grandson, CUrt was there for her. How I climbed fences to get Poppa awake because he turned his hearing aides off just to sleep. I want to know she didn’t die alone or cold. They told me she wasn’t alone…but I want her to know I tried and I am so alone, I just want to feel her again and know she is happy…I miss her so much, and others just go on as if I should just go on…

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 4:37 pm | Permalink

      Hi Heidi,
      Losing a parent, especially when you are young, is impossibly difficult.
      What you can’t see while in the body is that once you leave your body behind, you see everything. Your Momma knows that her grandson was with her. She knows that you climbed the fence to wake up Poppa. She experiences your love still.

      What you can’t feel is that she is still with you. Love doesn’t die. The next time you feel alone, deliberately speak to her. Ask her to be with you and she will be there.

      Don’t feel like she abandoned you because you aren’t aware of her presence. It is rather that in the physical, we are attuned to physical energy. Solid. In the spiritual, which is where she is now, no longer does she have a physical body. It’s more cloud-like. If you saw her, like I saw my mom, I reached up to put my arms around her and my hands came together without my mother in between, at least to my eyes and arms. She was still there. I just could not feel her in my physical world.

  4. amma
    Posted March 6, 2012 at 2:12 pm | Permalink

    My mom passesd 2011 last april. She was only 58. I miss her with all of my heart, especially today. i dream of her sometimes, its like she visits me once a month because i can feel when she is around. Since she died my instincts have become sharpend to bad omens, i cn sense when someone is about to die, i get really sad or depressed. i write to my mom and she always finds a way of snswering me or warning me. i know that i am devinely blessed and protected bt i just miss hr so so much

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 4:40 pm | Permalink

      HI Amma,

      You and your mom have a lovely relationship. It’s wonderful that you have been able to allow yourself to feel her energy. If you want to make her happy, you can allow yourself to take the love the two of you have together still, and replicate that with another person. You will magnify the love that you both deserve.

  5. Posted March 9, 2012 at 9:37 pm | Permalink

    i lost my mom on 5-5-11….i luvd her soo mch…i nevr made frnds bcoz she was my best frnd…i cant live widout her.,evry min,evry sec i miss her.,i want her back,..i want 2 knw z she alrite?

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 4:42 pm | Permalink

      Hi Oupma,

      If you really want to honor your mom, to show her how much you love her, and I know you do, please take the love you have for her and expand it. Allow yourself to love others with her heart AND yours. Imagine the enormity of love that as partners, you two will be able to create. You can change your world and all who are lucky enough to befriend you.

  6. deepa chopra
    Posted April 24, 2012 at 6:26 am | Permalink

    My Mother passed away 0n 18 th feb 2012 .I love her a lot and want to speak to her and feel her .I miss her and and want to connect pls tell me the way .I saw her once in my dream ,saying that she is fine was it my imagination or it was real ? I need my mothers guidancer ,there are so many things I want to ask .Please suggest

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 4:49 pm | Permalink

      Hi Deepa,
      I admire you for acknowledging you saw your deceased mother. Yes, it was her. Remember that she is not in the physical. Therefore, she appeared in a dream because that is what you could handle. If you saw her walking around you might be pretty darned shocked and not know what to do.

      Go ahead and formulate your question that you want answered by your loving mom. Do it before sleep. Put yourself in a bubble of Light because all the energy in the spiritual world is not loving and kind like your mom.

      Then go to sleep asking your question of her. Just hold it in your mind. Ask to awaken with the answer.

      It may take more than a few nights because you are both learning new behavior. She has to learn how to “break through” the barriers to the physical world in a way you can appreciate and understand. It is not easy but it will get easier since you are already in contact.

  7. Katey
    Posted May 16, 2012 at 11:25 am | Permalink

    I lost my Mom 10/24/11 and my sister in law I’m only 24 my Mom was only 52 and my sister inlaw was only 32 I’m too young to not have a Mom i don’t have a dad either i miss my Mom sooooooo much i wish i could hear her voice and feel her presents and see her. Its been 6 months and 2 weeks and 2 days :’(

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 4:54 pm | Permalink

      HI Katey,
      I understand the feeling. “Just show me you’re ok Mom,” I used to say. But that was way before I do what I do now.

      Read some of the comments before yours and you’ll see that most of us struggle with the same thing. It took me 30 years to connect with my mom, although she appeared to me one day when I was a lot younger and taking a nap. My resistance was down. I was relaxed and there she was.

      Connecting with the deceased is easy and then again,not so. We are used to physical signs. The dead communicate in a non-physical way most often, although if you read some of the comments above this one, you’ll see people do get different signs. I have smelled people’s cigarette smoke. That one’s not so great.

  8. Priya
    Posted June 19, 2012 at 10:56 pm | Permalink

    My mom passed away, while I was in the USA. I had seen her last 2 years back when I visited India. She was perfectly fine. The day she died in India, someone rang bell on my door when I opened no one was there. And after some time we received a call saying she is no more. She was perfectly alright. This was her first and massive heart attack. I was all shattered since I had not seen her for these many years. Though I went immediately , it was all weird for me. I could not believe that is her body. I was not in my senses to accept that this is the last time I am getting to see her. I was not aware about what was happening. And now feel it so badly, I want to see her. I want to feel ,hug and touch my mother and cry. I want to feel her love. But after that day I have this feeling that mom is here in my house. When I am leaving the house I feel like I am leaving my mom alone. how do I talk and hear her.. please someone answer me.. please .. I am all shattered.. i want to hold her just ones and cry and tell her how much i love her and how much i need her…please

    • Posted June 20, 2012 at 1:29 pm | Permalink

      Hi Priya,
      I don’t know where these comments were, but they showed up today, quite a while after Mother’s Day.
      You and your mother have a tight connection even though you moved away. I love that your bell rang
      for you to know that she was checking out. In my opinion, a quick exit is much better than a long,
      drawn out period of dying. Mom has moved on into the Light. She is happy to connect with you whenever
      you choose.

      Simply surround yourself in a bubble of Light before you go to sleep and call her in. She will come
      to meet you. It all just takes practice because we have a tendency to not pay attention to non-physical

      • Priya
        Posted April 11, 2014 at 11:57 am | Permalink

        Hi Emmy,

        My mom’s name is Aparna Ramnathkar. She died on 28th April 2012. Can you please check if she is doing ok, is she around me and if she has any concerns ? I would want my mom to come to me as my baby. Will it be possible ? I also want to know, if she misses me. I am taking care of all the responsibilities she had given me. I want to know, if I am missing on anything she wanted me to. Please I just want to know this. I love my mom a lot. I miss her and feel her presence. Thanks in advance.

  9. Posted July 5, 2012 at 3:22 pm | Permalink

    My apologies to all of you who have taken the time to post here about your beloved mother. My computer wasn’t working properly, or most likely, it is my fault. Either way I didn’t see these comments.

    For all of you, I want you to know that when you think you feel her, you do. When your mother is as loving as what you have all described, she is most likely with you. Love crosses the boundary between the world of the living and the world of the “dead.” In fact, no one is really dead. Your body withers and dies. Your spirit continues to grow and expand. You continue to build on all the good work you began in this life. And you continue to love those you have left behind, especially your dear children.

    When you feel your mom, know that it is because she is with you. Even if you think you might have made it all up, know that you have not. She is as real as always, just not in a physical body. She will communicate with you telepathically and gently. Often she will be apologetic and express a wish for forgiveness.

    You can help her heal her own spirit by being open to connecting with her in love. If her energy did not feel safe while she was in a body, perhaps you won’t want to connect with her now. It is completely up to you.

    My love to you all, Emmy

  10. Tshidi
    Posted July 18, 2012 at 6:59 am | Permalink

    My mom passed away on the 27/05/2012. she was only 55 and i am 33. I dreamt about her three times since her death but she was not talking, I only saw action of her being healed and out of hospital. I want to ask her so many things and for her to guide me and I cant seem to communicate with her. The other time i dreamt I was speaking with her over the phone but her replies to my questions were not clear.

    Please someone guide me on how do I communicate with her. I miss her deeply.

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 4:59 pm | Permalink

      Hi Tshidi,

      Keep an open mind, which you already have. What if you have been communicating with her and you just don’t realize it. Many times the “dead” tell me they have been doing their best to connect with us but we are often insistent on a physical sign. Not so easy, although I know someone whose heavy bureau was moved a couple of inches
      when no one was in the room that he could see at least. Things do happen.

      Although you are not understanding your mom’s communication, you are at least knowing she is with you. Keep connecting and one day you may be surprised. It took 30 years from the first time I saw my mom after she died until she would talk to me face to face.

      It is not an easy feat from their side to ours to be able to connect with you in a way you can understand. Imagine you speak one language and the deceased speak another. They can be as frustrated as you.

  11. Susan
    Posted July 20, 2012 at 1:20 pm | Permalink

    Mother died in April 2012 and I miss her so….I need to know for sure she is ok….I miss her so.

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 5:04 pm | Permalink

      Hi Susan,

      I think your mom is one of those who is hesitant to try to talk with you. She wants to but doesn’t understand, any more than you do.

      What I do feel is that she wants to be with you so that you know it for certain but she is unaware of what to do. You’ll see when you cross over it is not that easy. Imagine talking in English here and then you have to speak Japanese. It can be done, but it is not so easy. Some people have an aptitude, and some just don’t.

      Personally, I would love to be a terrific painter, but honestly, I don’t know how. For the dead, it’s the same thing. We all have different attributes. If your mom was somewhat physic in life, or you were, it might be a little easier.

  12. Nakul
    Posted July 24, 2012 at 4:28 am | Permalink

    My Mom passed away on 18-07-12 due to blood cancer. She died in Mumbai and we had a day in hand as she was to be bought to my home town. I was trying to communicate with her through ouija board, in case i can find a way to get her back but nobody in family allowed me to do that. I am terribly scared and dont know what to do…. She was our lifeline without her we feel so handicap… Please Please Please guide me how do i communicate with her….???

    • Posted July 26, 2012 at 6:08 pm | Permalink

      HI Nakul

      I posted an answer for you for Monday, 07.30.12.Hopefully it will help. In the meantime, just pray for her, and stay away from the Ouija board.

  13. Posted July 24, 2012 at 11:44 am | Permalink

    Hi there, my mom died about 6 years ago and every dream I have about here is very weird. When she’s in my dreams I know she’s supposed to be dead but its as if she faked her whole death and came back and started a new life. She doesn’t tell me where she’s living or where she’s going. She doesn’t want me in her life. She always has a boyfriend and she gets mad if I wanna go visit with her. In my latest dream I was smoking marijuana with here. It was weird. I want to have contact with her.

    • Posted July 26, 2012 at 6:09 pm | Permalink

      Hi Danielle,
      I posted an answer for you that is up on my site under Alive After Life now. I’ll be interested to hear what you think.

  14. Devangi
    Posted August 1, 2012 at 5:20 am | Permalink

    my mom was everything for me since i have lost her, i have forget to live the life…….really miss u a lot mom…..wherever u r stay happy……

    • Posted August 3, 2012 at 9:39 am | Permalink

      HI Devangi,
      What you can’t see is that the woman you knew as your mom is still with you. She will be as long as you need her. And when it is your time to pass on, she will be there for you as always when you can once again be the friends that you have always been.

      It is your job in earth to take what she has shared with you and share it with others. Then she will recognize that she did the job she came in to do. You will help her heal her own heart.

  15. Sham Naarai
    Posted August 17, 2012 at 9:11 am | Permalink

    I lost my father while I was only 1year old.
    Now I am 56.
    I have never dreamt about him.
    I have his picture always around.
    Is it because I was too young that I do not dream about him?
    Then, is it because we are used to the presence of someone that we dream about the person after his/her death?
    I tried all the methods possible to contact him.
    I even hired aTantrik (occultist) to bring him from his cremation place to my room.
    I still do not have any sign of his presence.
    Is it all a myth or imaginary thing?
    I have to many doubts.
    Why is it that people who are murdered cannot avenge themselves or bring their killers to justice?
    Is it all fake and false?
    I am devastated by lack of hope.

    • Posted August 17, 2012 at 11:18 am | Permalink

      Hi Sham,
      Thank you for your thoughtful sharing. I am too busy today to give this the full attention it deserves. I need to be still and ask for guidance while I move into the space of “the answers” in order to give you what you need
      I will post something, probably on Alive After Life (my other blog) next week. I’ll let you know when I publish.

  16. priya
    Posted August 20, 2012 at 3:37 am | Permalink

    i’m 23 n i lost my mom recently she was of 48yrs . And she died of heart disease i am missing her badly. is she well wherever now she is now? whether she is wtih me or not? plz help me

    • Posted August 22, 2012 at 10:54 am | Permalink

      Hi Priya,
      I’m so sorry that you lost your mom. It is always a blow. However, this blog is not to connect you with your deceased. I’m happy to do this for you, but I do charge for sessions and it’s reasonable enough.
      If you are interested, please email me at two times that work for you and where you are in the world as well as your phone number and we’ll try to figure out a time together. Depending where you are in the world, I can call you if you are in the U.S. or we can Skype. For pricing, please check on

  17. vijji
    Posted August 29, 2012 at 10:12 pm | Permalink

    I lost my mom on Nov14,2011 in an accident.Im in Hyderabad doing my job,I didnt visit my family who are residing in my native place for long time.The next Monday is my engagement,and the before monday my mom died,very suddenly,I felt very very bad…I missed her a lot…I want to talk to her atleast once ,She came in my dreams many tyms & to my sister also,She said she is ok,She comes to my dream whenever i cry for her but for past 1month ,I could not see her…Im missing her badly,Does my mom realy came to my dreams previously or its just my imagination????I want to talk to her badly.My sister played spirit game ,She talked in that…Is that really my mom???Please clarify me????

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 5:11 pm | Permalink

      Hi Vijji,
      Two things: The first is that is your mom who has come to you in your dreams. Why your dreams? Because in everyday life you head is to busy to bother with subtle energy. You have to make time to be still, to be peaceful, to receive.

      As for playing spirit games, be careful. If you are talking about a Ouija board, be extra careful. Think of walking down a street on the wrong part of town at night, alone. Most probably it’s not safe, even if you are a big muscled guy. That’s what the Ouija board is like. Any disconnected energy from the “wrong side of the tracks” can jump in and you don’t know who it is. You can end up with a nasty entity around you who is determined to run your life, and not got the better.

  18. eddie chmielowicz
    Posted September 12, 2012 at 4:00 pm | Permalink

    I just want to know where my mom is now. She passed away May 5 2012 from cancer. I want to be able to talk to her and ask her things. I feel so empty sometimes and it would help me considerably if I just knew where she was and if I could talk to her.

  19. Posted September 13, 2012 at 10:03 am | Permalink

    HI Eddie,

    I think your mom is just fine. If you want to connect with her personally, I suggest a session either in person or by phone. Then we can focus on your concerns.

    • eddie chmielowicz
      Posted November 2, 2012 at 4:39 pm | Permalink

      How do I get something like that set up? My dad hates this kind of stuff. He doesn’t believe that you can contac the deceased in ay way. But I want to and he doesn’t have to be involved.

  20. jayamala
    Posted September 21, 2012 at 11:23 am | Permalink

    my mother passed away 21.7.2012 but i want to know where is my mother now my father is depressed thinking about her always can we view her or atleast in dream daily please tell some solution for us it is impossible to forget her and we just dont want to forget her please

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 5:19 pm | Permalink

      Hi Jayamala,

      Just because you can’t see her or feel her, doesn’t mean she is not around. On the other hand if she was like you and your dad, then it is possible she doesn’t know how to connect with you any more than you two do.

      My suggestion is to try writing to her. Before you do however, please protect yourself. I like to call in my angels and God Himself to make sure I am safe. I can’t stress the safety issue often enough.

      If you choose to write to her, get a clean spiral or book and write, “Dear Mom,” or whatever you called her. Doing this before sleep is best. Then write what you want to know. Make it simple. Ask questions initially like, “Are you ok? Are you happy? Are you with Uncle…?”

      Sign you unsent letter with love and your name.

      Without putting your pen down, begin again. Write “Dear Jayamala,” or whatever your mom called you. Just write what you hear. You will be sure you made it up, but you aren’t.

      Continue to practice and you will have a conversation going. Just be certain to protect yourself before and close after with thanks to both her and whomever you call in for protection.

  21. alex reid
    Posted September 22, 2012 at 4:42 am | Permalink

    my mum passed away march 2nd 2011. she died in the middle of the night due to a heart attack. i think. it doesnt help that we had a fight that night before we went to bed, and i didnt say goodnight i love you. i now have no family except my nan. who i barely see. and i live with a friend from school
    i miss her every single day. just wish that its all a dream. ive been so lonley without her. i just want to know if shes okay. and if she forgives me for the fights.
    all i want is a sign to know shes still here with me. i freak out when i think that shes faded away, which she probably has.. because its been so long. i just want to feel her love again. smell her perfume, get a motherly hug. thats all i want.please help. is there anyway i can get a sign? safely?

  22. Posted September 24, 2012 at 3:36 pm | Permalink

    I am sorry that I am unable to answer each of you individually. Please try to understand that your deceased are still with you if you allow them. When your loved one dies, they communicate telepathically. You are trained in our third dimensional way of time and space, of acknowledging the physical as real and nothing else.

    Please check my blog, also on my site. I will post guidance there for you shortly

  23. kris
    Posted September 25, 2012 at 12:09 pm | Permalink

    My mom passed away almost 3 years ago and i struggle everyday. My mom came out in a picture with me n may 2010 n i want to know if shes around me n if she was with me when my daughter was born. My daughter is named after her
    My son says he sees her why cant I?? How can i see my mom??

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 5:26 pm | Permalink

      HI Kris,

      Your mom was definitely with you when your daughter was born. She’s still with you. Once again, as I’ve said in all the comments before, the dead are with us unless we don’t want them to be.

      The challenge is we can’t see them in the physical.So how do we connect? With practice.

      Why can your son see your mom and you can’t? Because he doesn’t have as many blocks to his intuitive hits as you do.

      Practice talking to her, especially before sleep. It’s an art. Just the way you may sing beautifully and all I can do is squawk, this is the same thing. Some of us are better at it than others. I am getting better and sometimes it scares even me when someone walks through my bedroom in the middle of the night. It happens though.

      My suggestion is to keep practicing. Notice subtle changes. And maybe even read some of my hints in the other comments before you.

  24. Sandra Vasquez
    Posted September 27, 2012 at 6:50 pm | Permalink

    My mother passed away 11 years ago. She had an accident at work. I wanted to know things about her? How can I connect with her in spirit? I rarely dream about her.

  25. Sachin Samant
    Posted November 2, 2012 at 4:07 am | Permalink

    Hi, I lost my mother on August 30,2012 at 2.58pm. She was in proper senses when she died n I was accompanying her in hospital for almost 46 days , even at her last breathe. I found her nervous n angry on her death , hence I was and even today feel guilty n sad bcoz I couln’t save her. I want to know, how is she now n is she angry with me. I miss her a lot.

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 5:38 pm | Permalink

      HI Sachin,

      You did everything you could to help your mom pass over gently but she was not willing to let go. She was nervous because she did not allow herself to be comforted. She was angry because she couldn’t control her life or her death. There is nothing you could have done that you didn’t already do.

      Your mom didn’t want to leave behind her hard-won physical objects. She was only opening to who she really was and the possibilities. Perhaps she was angry because she saw that she missed out on important things for her happiness, when if she had lived longer, she might have enjoyed the accoutrements of life at its best.

  26. Nancy
    Posted November 13, 2012 at 8:32 pm | Permalink

    I have a lot of guilt over my mother – we had a love/hate relationship – I took care of her when she was living with me – she was depressed and did not want to live anymore – she hated old people and did not want to get old – she broke her neck and picked up infections in the hospital – she went into hospice and it was my decision to take out her feeding tube – she was 86 years old – I miss her so bad – we were very close even though we had problems – she was a good Mom and did everything for me – I miss her so bad – oh to just see or talk to her again – it has been 3 years and I still cry for her every day. My 10 yr. old son sometimes says she talks to him but I never hear anything or get any signs that she hears me.

    • Posted April 10, 2014 at 5:45 pm | Permalink

      Hi Nancy,

      You did everything you possible could to help your mom pass over as easily as possible. However, she was completely resistant, even angry. That is not your fault or your job to handle.

      Most likely you don’t see her because she was not the warm, fuzzy person who would mess with this kind of thing. Your son can see her because he’s still young and doesn’t have the same blocks to viewing the “walking dead” as we do. Children often see things in the non-physical world that adults have been trained to think don’t exist, so we don’t see them.

      My suggestion is to trust that your son sees mom and that she is okay. I think she has not moved into the light and is still hanging on because she has lots of unresolved issues.

      All you can do is forgive her and know that as always, she is in control. And, she’s okay.

  27. Tremayne
    Posted December 13, 2012 at 7:44 am | Permalink

    my mom past away on December 1,2012
    My mom past away from a bad asthma attack, i love my mom so much, i was able to talk with my mom about anything and she never judged me and always was at my side.
    my brother had a amazing dream about her, in his dream she was trying on the shoes that she would be wearing in her casket in which my brother had no idea of, she told him to tell my aunti that she likes them and they fits well,,prior to that my brother had no clue of the shoes and was able to describe them to my auntie,,my sister felt a pressence climb into her bed and rub the side of her face, now me i heard my mom call my name twice in a concerning voice but i made no contact, but honestly im scared, everyone say its only mom but im terrified, i wonder is that the reason why i really had very little contact but i truely want to have contact with mom though. Please help me, i am so scared to go to sleep and it been alittle over a week.

    • Posted January 5, 2013 at 6:31 pm | Permalink

      Hi Tremayne,

      I am sorry it took me so long to respond. I was deleting spams on my site’s comments and only now saw yours. Try not to worry about your mom. She is so close to you all that she is able to manifest herself enough for you to actually feel her. If that is frightening, then set the rules you want her to follow. Tell her in no uncertain terms that you would like to connect with her, but please do climb into my bed or touch me. It frightens me. Most likely she is doing her best to get your attention.

      Here’s how you can protect yourself. Before you fall asleep, deliberately put yourself in a bubble of light, the Light of the Divine. Then set the rules. Mom, I love you. I miss you so much, but I am frightened by this. If you want to know she is around, then give her a way to let you know. Sit in meditation or prayer with her for 10 min. Try every day , perhaps before sleep. Talk to her as if she is with you because she is.

      Once you take back control, you will feel more secure. It’s important for you to understand that no one dies. We just let go of our bodies. We continue. Your mom is as alive as when she was in her “mom” body. Now she is in spirit form. That is the only difference.

      Obviously you have a special mom who loves you all intensely. Allow her to come to you but set up your own rules of when she can come and what is comfortable for you.

      • tremayne
        Posted January 5, 2013 at 6:48 pm | Permalink

        Oh my god thank you so much….im not as scared as much but cant sleep in the house. I miss my mom soo much she was my best friend . I just need her to contact me…but once again thank u soo there a way u can contact me ..what is ur fee..please email me thank you.

  28. PANKAJ
    Posted January 1, 2013 at 9:09 pm | Permalink

    i lost my mom on 11.12.12. she was just 41 yrs and died due to kidney infection.pls guide me the way to be with her forever.

  29. nandia
    Posted January 7, 2013 at 9:26 pm | Permalink

    people all over the world always wish they could speak with their late ones when they die.When my husband died i search on how i could talk to my late husband,i found only one man luckily on the internet,because somebody testify on how he has helped her to communicate with her late mother.The woman dropped Doctor Jefferson email address on the site,so i contacted him.As God will have it i equally talk to my late husband,it was so real.I will equally drop his email address on this site

  30. Joy Vinod
    Posted January 18, 2013 at 12:08 pm | Permalink

    Hi everybody,
    My mom died when i was around 14 years old.Now i am around 24,suddenly she came upon my aunt body and started to speak with me.She said that she was really sad because she left me when i was small.I consoled her that i am fine.She warned me that something bad is going to happen in my life but she will take care,I was so happy that she came and talk to me.
    Mom is the only relationship which cares her children after death also.I love you ma.

    • Posted January 25, 2013 at 4:47 pm | Permalink

      And obviously your mom loves you too. How reassuring is that? Thanks for the Post.

  31. holyspiritum
    Posted January 23, 2013 at 1:18 am | Permalink

    i am only 17 and i loss my mum at 15/01/ workin with my dad (during school holiays) when he received a call from a friend.She told my dad that my mum gotta problem during her daily physical excercise.(atheletism).When i was young,I was doin atheletic and she followed me.about 6 years later i start to get bored with this sport so i shift to basketball an she continue for 2 more years.If i wasnt bored with it i should be with her at that moment :’(

  32. vinod
    Posted January 30, 2013 at 8:56 am | Permalink

    I lost my mom on 13-01-13.she fight with MDS(Bone merrow failour) two and half years. i was with her 24*7 from two and half years.she was very optimistic and do not wants to die.
    But what we can do? me and my father was with her till her last breathe.
    me and my father completely broken.we can’t think life without her.We want to say her…mom we love you ,we are very lonely without you,we want to say sorry for could not save you.Mom you are ok in god’s kingdom?,do you wants any thing or wants to tell any thing?Or you got salvation or reincarnation?
    Mom i love you so much, your “vinu” is very alone without you….

  33. ali
    Posted February 12, 2013 at 3:05 pm | Permalink

    I lost my Mom she was my best friend six years ago. I miss her. We believed in after life and I wait everyday to hear from her and because of that I have lost my love for everything else. I want to see or hear her just so I know she is with me and is happy for me to be happy. I have 3 children and I know they miss her too. How do I move on?

  34. Posted February 13, 2013 at 1:10 am | Permalink

    My mother died on 7th Jan ’13. We are three sisters and are missing her a lot. We want her back, we want her to talk with us. It is very very difficult for all three of us to live without her. We are living with out any enthusiasm left in life. We just want her back. We want her to talk to us, to guide us, to scold us, to hug us, we want to share our day to day experiences with her. Maaaaaaaa pls wapis aa jao. Yeh jeewan suna suna hai tum aao to kuch baat bane. Ma tumhare bina hamari har kushi adhuri hai. Ma thore dino main tum Nani ban jaogi, pls yeh kushi share karne ke liye aa jao Plssssssssssss. Nanhe ki shadi bhi karni hai. Pls ma apni aur hamari kushio ko aeise adhura chod ke mat jao. Aur agar tum hamare aas paas to ho pls iska ehsaas karao. Hum teeno is time life main bina kisi tarang ke bas jee rahe hai, tumhare bina hamara dil bilkul nahi lagta. Please aa jao. Ma tum to har kaam ko mumkin bana deti ho to fir kaise bhi karke wapis aa jao. Pls Mummy agar tum hame dekh sakti ho, sun sakti ho to pls kuch aeisa karo ki hum teeno tumhe dek sake, baat kar sake aur apna jeewan jee sake. Mummy hum teeno tumse bahut bahut bahut………… sara pyar karte hai. Tumhara Kaka Boiya.

  35. Posted February 17, 2013 at 6:02 pm | Permalink

    I watched my mother die, when I was 3 years old. She was holding me, when the first bullet hit her, she droped me. The second bullet hit her, it was in the face. My dad had mudered her, and then commented suicide. My brother, and I saw the whole thing. She deid on Feburary 18, 2004. It will be nine years ago, tommorow, and I wish I could connect with her. I wish she would send me a sign. Any suggestions?

  36. Natasha Veda Guerra
    Posted February 26, 2013 at 6:22 pm | Permalink

    My Ex boyfriend’s mother died on mother’s day last year of stage four overian cancer, her name is Sylvia Zamora. My ex boyfriend and I went through many stuggles when she got sick, I was always comforting him and making sure they were both okay. after she died he dumped me saying “he can do this to me or to him, he doesn have the strength ” . right before she died I brought her flowers (she loved them) and asked me about my ballet .. it was the best time I had with both of them. when she died the doctors tols us it was from a blood clot that severed her left heart chamber. I want to know if she’s okay, if she can see how much I loved her son .. if she felt like I helped enough, this still eats at me . thank you

    • Posted March 5, 2013 at 1:09 pm | Permalink

      Once again, I don’t have time to post on all of these comments. If you live in the States,
      Europe or Canada and speak English, I would be happy to arrange a time with you when you can ask your questions and we can connect with your mom.

      As for your lovely post Natasha,
      you had a touching relationship with Sylvia. She could see who you really are. She is in the Light and knew all along that you loved her son but that he didn’t have it in him to return the love you so deserved.

      She is still with you if you choose. There is nothing for her to forgive about you, she says. You were a comforting presence in a difficult time. You did more than enough, just by loving her son when he didn’t have it in him to return what you deserved.

  37. Daisy
    Posted March 6, 2013 at 6:53 am | Permalink


    Today,I woke up to my mom calling my name and telling my not to go back to sleep. I have had the experience before of hearing voices, but this time it was different. I was not scared but apprehensive because,I had just had surgery and was in my house alone. I searched the house and found no one. I’m having health problems, but don’t think this is why I was contacted (if that is what happened). I was the last person to see my mom alive. Is she trying to talk to me? I miss her so much, she was my mom and best friends. Any idea?
    Thanks, D

  38. Agnes
    Posted March 6, 2013 at 6:20 pm | Permalink

    Mom, I love you more than anything… I wish I would have talked to you the way I felt… I am sorry, I just did not want to hurt you. But now it hurts me. I would give anything for another hour together! Nobody will ever love me the way you did! And I think I loved you more than anyone I ever knew! Imadlak!

  39. Karen
    Posted March 10, 2013 at 12:33 pm | Permalink

    It is Mother’s Day here in the UK today.

    Mum, I still miss you so much. Not a day passes when I don’t think of you and wish that I could go back to those days when you were still alive. I always thought that somehow, because we were so close, you would find a way of contacting me, but if you have, I haven’t realised it. I long to know that you are safe and in God’s hands with Dad.

    My mum’s name was Mary – does she still know how much I love and miss her? Does she still love me? Will I see her again?

  40. kristy woodard
    Posted March 12, 2013 at 8:47 pm | Permalink

    I never grew up having that perfect relationship with my mother.I mean,we GOT ALONE GREAT,but I just WISH it would’ve been more.Everyday I wake up,I WISH that she would come back.Promising myself that I would make things BETTER for us.I grew up living with my Grandma since birth,SO that mother daughter bond was something that I WISHED to have with her.The day that she died was like a week away from her birthday.My sisters and I planned to do all different types of things with her to make the bond with our mom better. THEN we got a call to rush to the hospital,but bout time I got there it was TOO LATE.SHE WAS ALREADY GONE.It took me a LONG time to believe it.I BEAT myself everyday dropping tears that wouldn’t go away.Feeling AS IF,it was my fault.Its been about 4 YEARS later and I still can’t believe it.Everytime a person speak on a topic about parents and their dead love ones,I WOULD CRY,cause you only get ONE mother,and I lost mine.She’s ALWAYS in my heart and on my mind…And I will FOREVER and ALWAYS LOVE her!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!(TEARS)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  41. Bernadette
    Posted March 21, 2013 at 7:02 pm | Permalink

    Dear Emmy,

    I truly believe that we can connect to our loved ones that have passed. I have tried to connect to my mother who passed when I was 4 years old. I do not remember what she looked like, how she smelled, or the sound of her voice. I long to know her. I am told she loved me because she always wanted a little girl, and she prayed to St. Bernadette, and I was born, but she died before she could see me grow up. My question is, how do I connect to a person I do not know.

    If you have time to give me your opinion, I would appreciate it. Thank you. Bernadette

  42. Stan
    Posted March 26, 2013 at 10:34 pm | Permalink

    My mom died on December 7, 2007. She was only 63 years old when she died from a brain aneurysm. It makes me so sad that I don’t remember the sound of her voice. I don’t ever member her face without a picture. I would give anything to talk to her again. I feel lost without her. She was my inspiration.

    After she died my sisters would have dreams about her. They would have dreams of my mom telling them everything is going to be ok and that she is in a better place. I never had those dreams. Am I not connected to the spiritual word? Why don’t I have these dreams?

  43. Stan
    Posted March 26, 2013 at 10:35 pm | Permalink

    My mom died on December 7, 2007. She was only 63 years old when she died from a brain aneurysm. It makes me so sad that I don’t remember the sound of her voice. I don’t ever member her face without a picture. I would give anything to talk to her again. I feel lost without her. She was my inspiration

    After she died my sisters would have dreams about her. They would have dreams of my mom telling them everything is going to be ok and that she is in a better place. I never had those dreams. Am I not connected to the spiritual word? Why don’t I have these dreams?

  44. Ankur Johar
    Posted March 30, 2013 at 1:15 pm | Permalink


    I love my mom and she left me on 09-03-2013. I took her to the best hospital in delhi for treatment and she was recovering for which i was happy and was very much positive. Since she was in heart command center was showing positive sign in health, i discussed with doctor and decided to move her to normal ward and called my brother to help me. In meantime i took permisson from my mother to go and meet my gf in chd. but on the way to chd my brother called me and asked me to comeback as my mother is not well and doctors are not saying much. It took me a while to return to delhi and to the hosiptal, my mother condition detroiated and she was not able to speak and i was helpless and unaware that she is slowly moving away from me. I saw her collapsing on bed and then getting cardiac arrest and moving on ventillator for breathing. Doctors told me she is out of danger but due to anestheisa she is not position to speak and next day early morning i was called to inform she is no more. My whole world shattered she was like my GF i was so close to her then to anybody else in this world. I cant forgive myself for leaving her in between of her treatment and going away when she needed me the most. She only used to tell me what problem she is having and i used to talk with doctor for the treatment but for this particular day i was not present and she left me forever. I want to talk with her, i want to pamper her play with her make her happy there were so many plans she made with me in hosiptal. I want to fulfil alll of them but she is not there. Please ask her to talk with me atleast once i want to listen her voice… I am going crazzy day by day. I am missing her badly. Please help me in connecting with her. She was my darling mom /

    I used to record her phone call but after her demise those recording have also stopped working dont why. Why god is punishing me. I want to listen her voice . I want to be with her forever.

    I am the most unluckiest guy in this world, never got a chance to get love of my mother and when took her to hosital for best treatment she left me forever. I am with pain please help me.

  45. Kacey
    Posted May 7, 2013 at 5:15 am | Permalink

    My mom passed away on December 2, 2012 at the age of 53. They say she died from cardio myopathy, meaning her heart was too weak to pump the blood…but something doesn’t feel right. My brother and step father were there with her and it took then FOREVER to call for help. I have dreams of her asking for help. I just want to know she’s okay. I pray she did not suffer. How do I communicate with her?

  46. Kathrin W
    Posted May 12, 2013 at 2:06 pm | Permalink

    My mom dies giving birth to me, and she is my higher power I pray to her almost every night and throughout the day. But, their are sometimes, when I just wish their is more than just talking to her. I want to know if she is even around me?! Because it is Mother’s Day, that is why I am feeling more skeptical. But, she dies giving birth to me and that is a huge sacrifice that was made for me. She died January 20, 1996. And I would be so grateful for you to help me and see if my mom is with me.

    • Kathrin W
      Posted June 24, 2013 at 10:31 pm | Permalink

      Could you please respond to me, it would mean a lot.

  47. Katy
    Posted May 13, 2013 at 8:52 am | Permalink

    Hi. I lost my mom August 12 2005, I didn’t get to spend any time with my mother. All of my relatives tell me that she loved me so much.. But I never experienced a mother’s love. I want to contact her really bad. I tried talking to her but it never worked so please help me. I have been really lonely and I want to talk her badly because I can’t move on without talking to her. She cared about me so much and I feel like I don’t know anything about her. Please help me and tell me how to talk to her.

  48. laurel moxley
    Posted May 14, 2013 at 11:07 pm | Permalink

    Hi my mom passed away unexpectedly 7 months ago (10/11/2012) we were soo close we talked about any and everything she passed out the blue she wasn’t sick or anything we would talk about the paranormal often and she knew/knows I’m into that type of thing even though I’ve never had an experience I’m just wondering why she hasn’t given me any signs or visited me yet so know she’s ok since I never got to say goodbye I have dreams every once and awhile at first they were always me running away from her but the last couple I’ve had were me coming into a room and she’s there smiling and laughing like everythings normal when I no its not real in the dream part of me thinks its just my subconcious having a dream and part of me thinks that could be her visiting me I just wish I had something more to where I no for sure it was her.

  49. Roseline
    Posted May 29, 2013 at 3:36 am | Permalink

    After the death of my cousin I saw his spirit very clearly. I feel his presence around me, I see him in my dreams, he is always with me.This became possible because i contacted Who help me out to communicate with my him after his death,now i feel like he is not dead.I really appreciate his effort.

  50. Posted May 31, 2013 at 11:26 pm | Permalink

    My mother died in 10 April 2012 and till 4-5 months of her departure, amazing things had happened . As whispering in the ear, voice from my kitchen to ask some water. Even in dreams she always appear but now does not say anything and keep quite. But in the last two dreams when i went through my home and reached there at around 10pm after having dinner i laid down for five minutes and suddenly i dreamt and saw she was sitting on my left and laughing a lot on seeing my 5yr old son who was sitting on my write. But this took only 30 or 45 seconds as seems to me that she wants to realize me that she is there with us and happy to see me and my family there.

    in the last dream she appeared in the morning around 3-4 am she hugged me she was wearing cardigan which i felt when she hugged me i felt very nice and healed and she said (“THIK HUN MAIN”) i am ok. and as i was trying to say more some thing happened and she gone.

    can you try to talk to her and ask her sorry on my behalf whichever i did for her good or bad in her whole life please. As i did my best but in some aspects i was not fulfilled her desires towards her. Please say sorry to her and apologize…

    Vikram Singh (Anu)

    • Posted June 8, 2013 at 5:52 pm | Permalink

      Hi Vikram,

      You are fortunate to have such “real” experiences with your mom. Most of us are not open enough to experience these special moments with our deceased. Your mom is very loving and is so real for you because you welcome her and you have created an opening for her to appear. She is telling me that she adores you! She is filled with nothing but love for you.

      You may well remember things you did “wrong.” She knows that these experiences do not matter. She is simply here to love you as well as your whole family. You will recognize her when you cross over. She will be grinning with open arms.

  51. Posted June 4, 2013 at 6:11 pm | Permalink

    My mother died when I was 3 years old. She died right in front of me. My father killed her and then himself. I miss her and I want to get to know her. I am scared that I will connect with my father instaed and I don’t want to. I want to know my mom better. I love and miss her a lot.

  52. lillian
    Posted June 5, 2013 at 11:30 am | Permalink

    hi my mom die she was 84 am 50 she was my best friend I miss her so much i cry all day for her i want to see her can you help me … thank you …

    • Posted June 8, 2013 at 5:27 pm | Permalink

      Thank you for your comment Lillian. I am sorry that you are grieving so for your mom. You will reconnect with her when it is your time to pass one. She will be there with open arms for you, probably looking a lot better than when you saw her last. It is your opportunity and lesson to learn to live a fulfilling life without her physical presence. What you can do, if you choose, is put yourself in a bubble of light before you fall asleep and deliberately as to connect with her. I think she is already there for you. Also, Lillian, know that by holding on so tightly to her, you are blocking her movement forward in her life as well as your own.

  53. Posted June 15, 2013 at 12:09 pm | Permalink

    My Beloved Mom passed away 9-12-2012, I miss her so much, I would just love to be able to connect with her some way and I do feel and know that she’s in a better place, but throu my selfishness I would still love to keep her near,,If its any way that I could connect with her please let me know . Thank You.

    • Posted June 24, 2013 at 3:48 pm | Permalink

      HI Rose,
      Sorry for the long delay in responding. It’s easier to talk with your mom than me and I’m only here in San Diego!

      My suggestion for connecting with your mom are answered in the emails I responded to above. For me personally, it all took practice and more practice. It’s not that they are not here. It’s rather that we are looking for a physical reaction and they are in a non-physical world.

      Continue to practice connecting, especially right before sleep, being careful to protect yourself first the energy of God and whatever else you believe in.

      with love, Emmy

  54. Anu
    Posted June 17, 2013 at 3:12 am | Permalink


    My mom passed away a few months ago, but it seems like it was yesterday. Sometimes it feels like it’s not even real. I was there when she passed away and I felt her presence, or this tingling feeling, at times after she passed but know I don’t feel it anymore. I’ve tried to talk to her but I’m usually stopped by fear. Fear pops into my head and it just goes downhill from there, but I really want to talk to my mom. I just want to hear her and know that she is okay. That she loves me and that she knows that I love her. I just recently turned 17 so I’m not sure if I’m just too young to talk to her, but please let me know if you have any advice and if this is normal. Thank you.

    • Posted June 24, 2013 at 3:44 pm | Permalink

      Hi Anu,
      When people first cross over, it is common to feel or hear or even see them. After awhile, they begin to move into their own lives. You can still connect. My suggestion is that you set up a time, perhaps for 5 minutes before sleep. Then connect with God and I like the Angels, but whatever works for you. You MUST be protected. Deliberately before sleep then surround yourself in a bubble of Light and pray yourself to sleep, asking for your mom.

      You may know that you have connected in the morning or not. It took years for me to know for sure that my mom was with me and for me to see her. Even if you don’t feel her, just know that she is there. She’ll understand the transmission of love.

      As for normal, everything is normal. There is nothing to fear. Just be certain to protect yourself in the Light. Call in the beings of Light that you identity with and know that you are safe. Your mom already knows that you love her. She wants you to know that she loves you as well.

      With love, Emmy

  55. Anita
    Posted June 19, 2013 at 4:45 am | Permalink


    I lost my mother on this 4th of June. She was suffering from cancer. I haven’t given her real happiness in life but the only thing that I did was I tried my level best and took great care of her myself when she was daignosed with the disease.

    But today I can’t imagine my life without her. My sister and father look in better shape than I am and I can’t stop crying. I practically just dont do anything throughout the day and just want to sit or lie down in one position. I want to be with her desperately. I can’t be in life without her.

    My family, my husband around me doesn’t understand me and my feelings. I was closest to my mother and my mother used to feel her life is in me. I want to be with her. I just want to be with her. Is there a way I can talk to her.

    The steps that u have given in this post will this help me. Thank you.

    • Posted June 24, 2013 at 3:37 pm | Permalink

      Hi Anita,

      Your mom is still with you and will be as long as you need her. She has just passed so your grief is perfectly natural and perhaps necessary for all the times you didn’t feel close to her. You’re making up for what you think is your misbehavior, when in fact it wasn’t. It was just you being you. You growing up. You trying out life.

      When you say your mother “used to feel her life is in me,” it says to me that she lived through you. She didn’t feel her worth without you. We mothers can over-attach to our kids which isn’t healthy either.

      My suggestion is if you continue not to function normally, that you find yourself some grief counseling. Depending on what is available to you financially, I would suggest your insurance coverage, your church if you have one, online for local groups in your area or even by phone, and perhaps even where they seem to have groups for everything.

      We are each responsible for our own life, no matter what we think, your mom included. You did what you could to smooth her passage and perhaps that is enough.

      Otherwise, try the steps I suggested in the post. Talking with the deceased is not like talking with your girlfriend on the phone, at least not at first. Initially, you can be unaware of the connection. My suggestion is that you set aside 20 min a day where you connect with your Angels, or God Himself and then ask to connect. The response may be very subtle and it can take a long time before you know for sure that you have connected. Keep it up thought and you will.

      with love, Emmy

  56. walter
    Posted June 21, 2013 at 5:50 am | Permalink

    I found out my biological father passed away last year and it had been almost 2 years. Finding this out from a half brother on my moms side I contacted my half brother from

    my fathers side.Finding this out my wife mde a way for me toreconnect with my birth mother
    and I traveled to texas to spend two weeks with her and my mamaw.This year she passed away 4 days after mothers day 2013.If it would have been one more day it would have been a year to the day I had arrived there to see her again for the first tim. e. My mother had a troubled life through the middle but turned her life around the last time I saw her I was 7 years old in Texas dept. of social services so getting there we were both excited, I got to spend three weeks with her and she adored me and the same for me.I spent my whole life regretting being taken away from her and my dad and wanted to find her. I found her 4 years ago and only got to spend 3 weeks with her but it was the best 3 weeks of my life.We had always stayed in contact

    • Posted June 24, 2013 at 3:14 pm | Permalink

      How nice for you Walter, that after all these years you got to be with your mother. I’m sure it made it easier for her to pass on as well, knowing you were okay after so long. You seem to be a very caring guy. with love, Emmy

  57. walter
    Posted June 24, 2013 at 7:43 pm | Permalink

    I had to tell my mother goodbye over the phone and it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do.I was under the impression that they had taken her off of life support and didnt know if she was there or not because her heart had stopped but she didnt pass on till 4:15 am the next morning. I sent my older brother a text saying she was in a better place and she was not in any pain, In that moment I felt a sense of warmth and true happiness and I believe my mom came to me. I told my mom I was sorry I couldnt be there with her and I loved her but since I have been back from her memorial service I have been very sad and lost how can I connect with my mom again I would like to see her and talk? I have always been able to predict things through dreams before they happened and been able to read a persons soul so to speak by seeing a person, in other words when I can deyermin their intentions. So in some ways I have some special senses, how can I contact my mom how can I open up those senses to allow this. I MISS MY MOM and those 3 weeks were not enough!

    • Posted June 27, 2013 at 7:27 pm | Permalink

      Hi Walter,
      You are already connecting with your mom. She knows you love her just as she loves you. Love continues because it is the connector of all life,in or out of a body.

      What holds us back from knowing is we are so used to looking for physical signs that we miss the subtlety of life. This is true for many things that are available for us that we barely notice. For me it reminds me of friends whom I liked but didn’t know well. When they move away or pass on, one day I feel their energy, or I see the two of us doing something from the past, or I hear their favorite song and it brings them right back into my today experience. I believe the dead are like this.

      What I want to share with you is I believe nothing dies. Zip. We are all energy. You can’t get rid of energy. It only morphs. It changes shape and then we don’t recognize it. Connecting with the deceased is easy once you get past your linear-mind barrier. It is simply old programming which used to be needed to keep us in place. It is no longer needed. You have a higher consciousness today than you did 500 years ago.

      Just play with your mom when you sense her. Talk to her. Imagine her cooking your favorite meal. Her hand stroking your head and you’ll feel her energy. It takes practice, but it’s worth the trouble. You will no longer miss those who have passed on because you’ll know you’ve been with them.

  58. Amma
    Posted June 25, 2013 at 12:54 am | Permalink

    My mom passed 2011 last April. She was only 58. I miss her with all of my heart. I dream of her sometimes, its like she visits me once a month because i can feel when she is around. Since she died my instincts have become sharpened to bad omens, i can sense when someone is about to die, i get really sad or depressed. i write to my mom and she always finds a way of answering me or warning me. i know that i am divinely blessed and protected but i just miss her so so much. I always wonder if she still remembers us and if she is okay. The thing that makes me most sad is that she was suffering in silence when she was alive. She never thought she could talk to us, i am sure she felt so alone. She was a self sacrificing mother and I will always love her.

    • Posted June 25, 2013 at 9:47 pm | Permalink

      Hi Amma,
      Your mom chose to suffer in silence. It was how she was trained and what she did. You can be assured now that she is safe and no longer suffering.
      She also knows how much you love her as she loves you. Love continues.

      The challenge is to hold the love for your mom and at the same time let her go. You are already working together as a team, which you may find
      useful in life. You may be called on to help others pass on.

      with love,Emmy

  59. Anita
    Posted June 25, 2013 at 9:04 am | Permalink

    Thanks Emmy.

    You are right. She lived through me and was over attached to me. But it’s very very very hard to believe that she is physically not with me and that she will never be. Even when she was unwell & my doctor had left us with no further treatment i used to think that it will pass and she will get well. I used to think it can never be my mom.
    I still remember her small small things and get lost in my thoughts. I still remember things she liked to do & wanted to do & still remember calling her for guidance and query in life and things.
    I read somewhere that you should not try and reach the one who has gone and let their soul stay in peace cause if you try and talk to them then their soul will be troubled. If that is the case, I don’t want to be selfish and talk to her, though that’s the only thing my selfish and disturbed mind wants to do. I am sure she is happy wherever she is cause she was a great human being.
    So I am confused now. If I am disturbing her soul then i do not want to do this or else that’s the first thing I want to do.
    Please help.

    • Posted June 25, 2013 at 9:43 pm | Permalink

      Hi Anita,
      Personally, I don’t believe that it is not okay to talk with your deceased. What I notice for me is that sometimes I know for certain that whomever I want to connect with is there. Other times I am not so sure. Also, some times their energy appears immediately (I get shivers up my legs. Sometimes all over,) and sometimes their energy comes in slowly, as if they are far away.

      What I do notice is that if someone has died within a year or so, they seem to drop in fairly easily. If the deceased didn’t believe that you went anywhere, like my Dad, they wouldn’t expect to reconnect. It took me years to connect with Dad . He was an atheist, so stopping by to connect would not have been in his repertoire of things to do.I always knew he loved me though.

      I think being “dead” is like being alive. You have a control. If I don’t want to talk to you, I won’t. Many times the dead, who were not always nice people in a body, withdraw when someone wants to connect. They pull back somehow. For me, these are the people who tend to be in ghost form instead of spirit form. Ghosts, who are much more frequent than I ever imagined, seem to retain their personalities, including if they were pretty annoying in life. Those in spirit form are the opposite, like your mom.She will just be her sweet self. You are not disturbing her but rather encouraging her to keep your connection close.

      In death as in life, my belief is that we are each responsible for our behavior. You cannot disturb another soul unless they allow it.

      with love, Emmy

  60. DeeDee
    Posted April 9, 2014 at 7:34 am | Permalink

    I would like 2 know if she’s happy!! Thank you for your time

  61. Cate frasi
    Posted April 9, 2014 at 2:55 pm | Permalink

    I lost my mum on 4 th sept 2008 and I have never accepted it. She lost all her abilities to communicate with us. I was with her at the end and was beside myself . I constantly wish to dream about her but it never happens. She was so lovely and I took her for granted x

  62. Demetrius
    Posted April 15, 2014 at 7:07 am | Permalink

    My Mom Amanda M. Jones-Hall had emergency open heart surgery, and made her transition on January 17th, 2014. The low oxygen and blood too her brain left her in a coma states. Dr’s stated there was no sign of a normal life. My mother always said she didn’t want too live like that. So as a family request that she be taking off life support. Is she happy that we were attentive to her request???? I also donated her corneas and skin for research is she pleased????? Finally, is she happy!! I want her too know I Love her and miss her so much. All I do is cry, if I know these things have pleased her I would be so very happy.

  63. neve
    Posted April 17, 2014 at 11:21 am | Permalink

    my mom commited suicide on june 21th 2010 when i was 18. no one knows the reason and i wanna know why. we have always not got well together but now i feel like she is guiding me and am agreeing and realizing to the things i argued with her before …. i feel terrible as she chose to leave me ..was i a terrible daughter? its been 4 years and i cry thinking about her every night am an only child and my dad is having a pretty hard time as doing many things that my mom will be proud of if she was she watching over me ? does she love me ? am confused with a lots of things in life and there is no one here to guide me… am lost please help me

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