Dear Angels,
" My husband and I have been together 9 years now. At first we really liked each other and there was a lot of passion between us. Three months after we started dating, I got pregnant, so we got married. This is my second marriage.
Recently I have felt like I am growing apart from him. He still loves me, and since I told him how I feel, he's pouring it on thick. I know he loves me, and he is trying so hard, and I as well. There is just no emotional connection. We have 3 kids now, so I feel like I am letting them down if I leave their daddy. My question is, do I stay or go?" Alyssa, Dallas, TX
Dear Alyssa,
Your Angels are showing me that you enjoy being the center of attention. You probably have lots of friends and love to be "out and about." Your loving husband sees you as a prize and is hoping that you will settle down to what he sees as comfort that comes from a grounded, everyday life. The challenge is that this life bores you to tears.
He is into security and everything that goes with a settled life. You are going nuts, and have all you can do to hold yourself together and not scream in frustration. When I ask, " What is the solution?" your Angels are showing me you're tired of being depressed. You want to let go and move on. You feel as if you have tried everything and it doesn't work.
At the same time I am hearing that every relationship goes through bumpy times where life is boring or especially difficult. Look at your life honestly and ask yourself that old Dear Abby question,
"Am I better off with him or without him?" When you figure that out, you'll have your answer.