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Dear Angels,
"I had a nine year on-again, off-again relationship with Kevin.   I loved him very much despite that our relationship was tumultuous to say the least. I finally left him when I was 29 because I didn't trust him anymore and he had moved to Florida. Now I'm getting ready to move to FL and out of the blue he contacted me. Neither he nor I ever married or had children.  He wants to help me because I've had health problems and he's now successful financially.

If he sincere?  Has he changed? Can I trust him? I need to feel safe. I'm very vulnerable right now and don't want to regret allowing him back into my life.  Thank you Angels."
 Carly, Tenafly, NJ

Dear Carly,
It's obvious you're excited about creating a new life for yourself in Florida. At the same time it looks as if you are not feeling very sure of yourself, not just with Kevin, but in general.  You seem to have a history of rejection or maybe creating situations that harmed you in one way or another.  It looks as if you've come out on the short end financially in a legal case as well.  Notice if you seem to trust in people before they have proved themselves trustworthy. 

Kevin would love to begin again with you. I'm not sure he knows how to love, but he knows how he likes to feel. They are two different things. He thinks you two could move forward from where you were when you were younger. He sees you as the prize of prizes and would love to do whatever it takes to continue your old relationship. When I ask if you will be happy, I get that the old "stuff" will arise and you will want to move on.

Here's the gist of your Angels' talk.  If you can connect with him as a friend but not move in with him, that would work. Once you move in, you will be emotionally trapped again. A better idea is for you to get your own place, "Please!", holler your Angels. If Kevin wants to help you or date you and you are interested, then go for it. Better to have a short-term roommate situation until you get "on your feet,"  than begin an old relationship which didn't work the first one, two, three, times. If your relationship goes great, and you feel emotionally loved and supported, then you can live together, later.

Watch your tendency to give away your power.  It's much easier to give it away than it is to take it back. 

Today is Thanksgiving.   I was feeling deeply grateful when I called my son and his family, whom I haven't seen in almost two years. It's not that they are so far away;  it's rather that I don't have the money to pay for the trip and my visit. They were not at home.  Feeling my sadness at being far apart, combined with the love that has never left my heart, I asked my Angels to help me, just like I do for you. I am writing this publicly in case there are those of you who experienced something similar.

Dear Suzy,
The intensity of love that overwhelms you now is uncomfortable but understandable.  You remember so clearly how it felt being in the center of your three children.  You felt like the Christmas tree with your children dancing around you.  It was a beautiful, if trying, time for you.  The love that you four shared is just as strong now as it ever was.  What's so difficult is you don't get to see your son and his family.  It's been too long for your heart to be apart and almost too painful to connect for a few days.

Suzy, notice that you have learned to hold in your personal feelings. It is what enables you to drop into the emotional depths of another and hold the space for them while they release.  Now is the time for you to do this for yourself.  It is time to honor yourself by embracing the intensity of your love.  Allow yourself to weep for the past, all the while knowing that what you created continues. Love is never lost. It only increases if you allow it.  Let your heart stay open to experience what you worked so hard for in all those years of being "Mom." 

Remember that the love of others, is actually the Love of the Divine.  Loving others with an open heart, is only built upon. No matter what happens, love remains, even in death. There might be adjustments that come about through behavioral kinks, but the underlying love continues.  You know this well from moving into the world of the "dead,"  where often, you strengthen the ongoing bond between people. 

Underneath your tears, allow yourself to appreciate this moment of love.  It knows no bounds.

Dear Angels,
"I am in my own way, but it is the only way I know.  I try doing things differnetly and then, after the fact, I realize that it is attitude (and not the good kind of attitude,) that has propelled the event or project.  It is a 'costume' that has kept me strong.  I wonder if I am no longer in touch with reality.  And if I let the costume fall off, who will I be, how wlll I stand, and where will I fit?  If you have an answer, thank you."  Barbara, Solana Beach, CA

Hi Barbara,
You appear to be so willing to look at your behavior and what you think of as your imperfections, that you are unable to move forward in your life.  You have a lopsided vision that seems to prevent you from seeing all your wonderful attributes. There is nothing you are missing.  You have everything you need to be successful emotionally and physically in the world, but you have given up.  If given up means surrendering to the Divine and asking for guidance with a strong, "Help Me!", then you're on the right track.  However, if it means you have asked for help to create your world the way you think it should be, then you may be disappointed. 

You are at a point of wanting to grow, telling yourself you are compassionate and able to accomplish, lovingly, what it is you want.  Unfortunately, there is a huge "but" here. The "but" is that your little kid within is so fearful that you will lose the little you have, that she draws bigger than life pictures in front of your dream-eyes, enabling you to see only your faults. She is crippling you emotionally from expanding your life.

You might ask yourself what it is you were told about yourself when you were a child?  Try to remember what got you into trouble. What were you punished for?  Also notice if instead of being open to opportunities, perhaps you are so guarded, that you shut yourself down before you can begin to bud.  Can it be that you learned to hold yourself tight-in so that you don't get blamed or brutalized, emotionally or physically?  

When I ask what I can share with you that can help you move forward in your mind, your Angels show me that you worry nonstop.  It is time to quiet your brain long enough to insist on a change.  "Let me see this differently!"  When you are able to let go, and let God, as the saying goes, your life will begin once again.

Maybe your costume party might be part of "the Shift!" Shift your attitude toward yourself, and watch your life unfold in a way that makes you smile.

Dear Angels,
"How do I find the strength I need, to make the changes I need to, in my life?"  Bev, Mesa, AZ.

Dear Bev,
When I ask your Angels to show me where you are with this, they show me that on one hand you have a positive attitude, and are open to creating the changes you think you are required for your life to run well.  You are obviously highly intelligent and determined to succeed.  On the other hand, you are only presenting the face of joy and positivity when internally, you feel discouraged, even depressed.  You are searching for the childhood foundation of loving acceptance that you don't feel you ever had.

What you show the world is the Muse of Comedy when you feel the Muse of Tragedy.  When you are able to remove your rose-colored glasses and see life as a series of mountains and valleys, realizing that it's in the valleys where we are forced to learn, then you can pack your bags and begin the trudge up the next mountain. 

Can it be that you are afraid to stay in your body because it has been so badly bruised?  If you feel like everything worthwhile has been taken away from you, then how do you stand up and begin the trudge? 

You begin again because that is the cycle of life, the cycle of Sisyphus.  Almost to the top pushing the world ahead of him, Sisyphus is knocked down by the huge rolling stone (wonder where they got that name?) of life. 

You, dear Bev, have the chutzpah and determination, to give it a go, again.

Dear Angels,
"What is the angels' advice/guidance on my love life?"  Laura, Jacksonville, FL

Dear Laura,
Your Angels are showing me that you don't feel very secure with men in general. You are a loving, gentle soul who feels quite childlike around men. You seem to have two opposing behaviors going on. One behavior is loving and gentle, but powerless. The other is, "...but I'm watching you!"  What shows up is a distrust accompanied by an anxiety left over from other unfortunate encounters.

It may be that you are so afraid of being rejected, that you withhold yourself.  What's positive here is you seem to be tired of this and want to come out of your reclusive state.  If you can talk yourself into moving into the mainstream again and participating in life with more enthusiasm, you have the opportunity to transform yourself.  You are ready to advance into a healthier and more fun portion of your life cycle that can involve a man, if you are willing.

Dear Angels,
"Will I meet someone new very soon?"  Maria, Ft. Lauderdale, FL

Dear Maria,
You are someone other people admire and whom they trust you intuitively.  You are probably the kind of person with whom your office mates and friends share their personal feelings.  That's because you are solid. You are traditional in your outlook;  i.e. you are moral and conduct yourself in a trustworthy and ethical manner, even in times when others lose their balance.

It can be that when interesting men show up in your life, they don't seem to have your solid faith and so you choose not to move forward in the relationship.  It looks as if you are afraid to let your true spiritual and creative self "out of the bag."  In the past, perhaps you thought you had found someone who appeared to be a loving partner in life, someone to whom you could entrust your heart, only to find that what you hoped for didn't exist. 

Now you are more carefully observing before you donate your heart to an unknown "cause." 
The challenge is that at times, it is difficult to maintain your balance. Are you going to meet someone soon?  Yes and no.

You will meet someone and perhaps move forward as a couple for awhile. However, you will only reach a certain point and then split because you are advancing spiritually so quickly. This relationship will give you the opportunity to release many of your old fears of being swallowed up by someone appearing to be more powerful in the world than you. You will find that you are able to stand up for yourself and maintain your strong  traditional baseline.

The trick will be to attract someone who is on the same path as you, not just physically, but spiritually as well. 

Dear Angels,
"What do you do with yourself once you're dead?"  Kate, San Diego

Dear Kate,
I love that you asked this pithy question for a couple of PP's answer.  This is my book, still in the works.  Let's see what the Angels have to say on this one. 

The Angels, while laughing at our 3rd dimensional innocence, are saying, "Dear ones, What do you do now?  That's it, but in some ways intensified and some ways easier.  Take away the physical and you have your 'dead' life."  Hmm.  What they're showing me is we come up against ourselves.  We get to see who we really are, without the fluff.  The abs are gone if you were lucky enough to have them.  The boob and nose job are no longer necessary. There are no worries that our the kids might  be so drugged out they'll flunk school and you'll never get rid of them, or that they will grow up with enlarged thumbs because they've been texting all day when they were supposed to be listening to the teacher. Basic stuff. You won't care. These little physical life challenges will no longer matter.

What will matter is your spiritual transformation.  Your willingness to forgive.  To forgive yourself.  To forgive others.  If you choose to grow spiritually, you will have an opportunity to observe all the things you did in this past physical lifetime and play out a new path, like watching a different movie with the same stars in a new scenario.   Perhaps you will notice that it's your choice in our "alive" life now, to release your resistance to what is; to change your attitude about the injustices of life; and to choose to be an inspiration to others.

You will have the opportunity to feel true Love once again.  This is the Love that we all search for in the living. It is pure Love of the Divinity, without judgment and with complete acceptance.

Clearly you will see how the people who brutalized you in this life, gave you an opportunity to grow spiritually. They gave you the opportunity to forgive the unforgivable, to see the Divine within them in spite of  their abominable behavior.  This is the salvation of the New Testament.

When you're dead, you aren't. You take along  everything you've learned in this life and everything you did not.  There is always one more chance, one more lifetime, to perfect the imperfections by seeing the Divine within all life. This is easier without a body. It is also why we reincarnate in the physical to bring our knowledge of the Oneness into a body equipped with an active ego.

Dear Angels,
"This question is for my son, Sam, as well as the others who are involved.

Sam, a fourth grader, has told me about situations at school that indicate his primary classroom teacher, Nancy, has, at times, treated him unfairly, singles him out, does not listen to him when he doesn't understand lessons and she seems too rigid in her expectations.  When this happens (which is not always,) it has created much distress for Sam.  If what Sam has told me over the weeks is true, what can I do, and Sam, to find a solution to this and do it in a manner that is for the highest good for all involved, including his teacher?  I don't want to start a war with the school or teacher.  I am just searching for answers that will hopefully benefit everyone in the long run.  Oh, and I have been told that Sam is an Indigo child."  Christy, Winterset, Iowa

Hi Christy,
I appreciate your attitude.  Let's see what comes up.  What I see is that you are a loving mother doing your best to blow off the non-essentials while keeping up with what matters.  Nancy, Sam's teacher has a lot to handle with so many kids and tries to bring out the best in all of them. The challenge, of course, is to keep all the balls in the air at once without even one dropping down and clobbering a child. Some times Nancy is able to maintain a positive control, and some times not. 

Our Sam seems to be quite a dreamer.  He drifts off into never-never land when he gets bored or just chooses to wander off.  It's a common ailment for children, especially the very smart, who tend to get bored when everyone else is struggling to understand the subject.  While the other children are appearing to pay attention, Sam doesn't seem to be able to get started.  His dreamlike state can prevent him from taking action, from getting started with whatever the current project may be. Sam may have his own agenda and it doesn't pertain to Nancy's lesson plan. Then Nancy, exerts verbal control and Sam goes into himself.

Is this all normal?  The Angels are saying that Nancy is a perfectly fine teacher. Sam is just a bright kid and tends to leave his body by day dreaming.  Sam is learning that he has to return to his body long enough to get accomplished what is expected of him or he will be singled out. He is learning to be present, the lesson of lessons for us all.

What I'm hearing is that this is all normal. Sam is okay. Like the rest of us, he doesn't like being singled out and reprimanded.  Then again, we are not Nancy, with all those kids at different levels of  ability, all needing different things at different times.  The angels are saying that Sam is not talking about brutality, he just doesn't like to be controlled.  If you are concerned, make an appointment to speak with his teacher and get her input, firsthand.

Dear Angels,
"I was wondering if the angels are trying to tell me not to give up on me and my ex-boyfriend, Bruce.  Are we going to get back together?"  Tara, Vancouver, BC, Canada

Dear Tara,
Good heavens, Tara, no wonder you are confused. I see you as still resisting the split-up of the two of you.  You feel like this was not the right decision and you've had some trouble holding yourself together ever since.

Bruce appears to be an awesome guy who made you feel very special and loved. The problem for him was he saw you as too afraid to move beyond your life structure that makes you feel safe. He saw you wrapped up with your own concerns and needing to maintain control in your relationship to keep your balance. 

Your Angels are showing me that you have a definite connection but he never felt loved the way he wanted to be.  Perhaps he felt like he didn't have the money you needed to make you happy, or sexually, life was not the way he had hoped. 

What's confusing is that in many ways you two clicked.  It felt like this could be "it!"  However, Bruce felt he could never be the guy you wanted to design for yourself.  You had the opportunity to reconnect an old partnership from a past life, which was the initial attraction, but nothing much for today once everyday life settled in.

Getting back together?  Not unless you both change of your own volition.  

Dear Angels,
"I have recently moved back in with Jef, my ex-husband and my 13 year old daughter.  This is to help him out. (He lost his job.)  I feel like it will only be temporary, but I'm also feeling extremely scared that it might not be and I might go backward in my growth.  I'm wondering, 'What's up??? What's next for this ever-evolving croneish(sic) woman?'"  Linda, Dana Point, CA

Dear Linda,
You seem to be a loving and deeply caring woman with an ex who can be compassionate as well, but ineffectual.  Jef presents a great attitude to others but doesn't see eye to eye with you. I'm sure knew that, but I have to understand the cast of characters.  Your young daughter is smart but carries that "alone and separated" feeling that divorced kids have to live through. 

What the Angels are showing me is that when you were together, you did everything you could to bring balance to your relationship and your family life, but it didn't work. Now you are afraid you will get caught again.  You remember how hard you tried to keep everything together.  What you are afraid of is living together will bring out the worst in you both, and you will lose your balance in a big way.

Right now, you are working one day at a time in a relationship and situation where you know you cannot win. Eventually your ex will go back to his old unreasonable behavior, and maybe alcoholism. Can it be that he always had self-confidence problems and you fed into these?

 In either case, this seems a no-win for you.  You remember only too well how hard you tried to make everything right and gradually lost your balance by trying to save your world. Your Angels are saying it didn't work then. It won't work now. You will know when it is time to move on;  then do it before you are locked into an emotional pitfall.