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Dear Angels,
" My husband and I have been together 9 years now.  At first we really liked each other and there was a lot of passion between us.  Three months after we started dating, I got pregnant, so we got married.  This is my second marriage. 

Recently I have felt like I am growing apart from him. He still loves me, and since I told him how I feel, he's pouring it on thick.  I know he loves me, and he is trying so hard, and I as well. There is just no emotional connection.  We have 3 kids now, so I feel like I am letting them down if I leave their daddy.  My question is, do I stay or go?"  Alyssa, Dallas, TX

Dear Alyssa,
Your Angels are showing me that you enjoy being the center of attention. You probably have lots of friends and love to be "out and about."  Your loving husband sees you as a prize and is hoping that you will settle down to what he sees as comfort that comes from a grounded, everyday life.  The challenge is that this life bores you to tears.

He is into security and everything that goes with a settled life. You are going nuts, and have all you can do to hold yourself together and not scream in frustration. When I ask, " What is the solution?" your Angels are showing me you're tired of being depressed. You want to let go and move on.  You feel as if you have tried everything and it doesn't work.

At the same time I am hearing that every relationship goes through bumpy times where life is boring or especially difficult. Look at your life honestly and ask yourself that old Dear Abby question,
"Am I better off with him or without him?"  When you figure that out, you'll have your answer.

Dear Angels,
"My mom, Penny, has ALS, Progressive Bulbar Palsy. This fatal disease is very aggressive and extremely debilitating with no cure and a short life prognosis. My mom is already experiencing severe symptoms of not being able to speak and difficulty swallowing. My mom is incredibly depressed and without hope. I worry every day as she lives six hours from me.  My sister and I want her to move to my sisters so she can be closer to family.

My mom has always had a negative outlook on life and I worry this news is going to make her more depressed and hopeless about everything. I am not ready to lose my mom and want her to be happy.  She just doesn't seem to want us around because she thinks we are smothering her and forcing her to do  something she doesn't want...I feel so sad and depressed and I don't know how to really help my mom or what to say.  I just love her and would do anything to help bring peace and joy into her life."  Holly, Los Angeles

Dear Holly,
I feel your pain over this tragedy happening to your mom and understand your concern.  If you are honest with yourself, you will realize you are relieved you live six hours away. It is easier to be compassionate from a distance than to watch the body deteriorate daily.

Your mom knows she is dying. She knows there is nothing any of you can do.  And she doesn't want to be in a place with you all fussing over her, making your own lives more difficult.  She will need shortly, if not already, 24 hour care. It is admirable your sister wants to take her home with her, but perhaps it is too big a job for an untrained person alone. 

What you can do is visit her while she is still alive. Tell her how much you love her. Recall out loud the good times you all had together, and do your best to let go of what didn't go well. If her tendency was to feel depressed in normal life, there is no reason to imagine she will change now when the life force energy is being squeezed out of her.  When you visit, you and your sister can bring old photos to share what good times you had with her as children. 

Hold the love and appreciation you feel for her and if you can, visit while she is still able to know you are there. She will begin to move into an altered state, a limbo-like state of neither here nor there, as she adjusts to the shutdown of her physical body.  Nature often provides an anesthesia that deadens everyday life while it opens us up to the next chapter of life, which we call death. 

The Angels share that we leave our bodies at our own speed of comfort.  As our new world of "death" is opens up, old friends and loved ones appear to ease our normal fears of transition. We are never alone.

Dear Angels,
"My ex and I split a year ago.  For most of our 15 years together we had a great relationship. Unfortunately, he had strong feelings for someone else and ended with me to start a new relationship with this lady whom he's still together with.

I am 99% sure that we will return to our old relationship. I feel it in my gut, heart and sixth sense. My ex knows how I feel about him.  We see each other as friends occasionally, email 4-5x a month, and when we meet up, nothing has changed. I feel his energy often, both when he is stressed and when he is thinking of me.

When will be return to our sexual, physical and mental relationship?  I ask my angels this every night."  Paula, UK

Dear Paula,
"You seem to be a competent woman of the world, as well as someone who is social and makes friends easily. You are a spiritual and lovely woman that others admire.  However, you have put your life on hold.  You seem not to be watching out for yourself, but have set your sites on your ex-husband. Look to see if you are living your life through a man who has chosen to remove himself from your company. 

Your challenge is to release your ex and to allow him to form a new life without you doing your best to pull him toward you. You appear to be afraid to create life on your own, although you are highly capable. Your ex does not dislike you.  Rather he just wanted the opportunity to be with other women. His choice was to be in integrity by being upfront and telling you the truth.

Your ex did not seem to be happy in what he perceived as the confinement of the marriage contract. He wanted to be with other women, to experience life with others and have fun differently than he could with just you.  

When I ask what he thinks you should do, the Angels show me that he thinks you should allow yourself to have fun with others as well.  He seems to feel it is time for you to pull yourself together and move on with your life. 

It wouldn't be the first time I am incorrect, Paula.  As my friend says, I just "take dictation" from the Angels.  It is up to you to do with this as you choose.

Dear Angels,
"My husband has not worked (on purpose) in over four months and lives off me  (he says he does not like this.)  Can you please tell me if I should end my marriage and move on with my life?"  Lydia, Hot Springs, Arkansas

Dear Lydia,
It looks as if you are feeling as if your husband is holding you back in some way. His unwillingness to work for the last four months is a huge issue for you.  He doesn't seem to be open to even looking for another job. The Angels are showing me that he is having a fine time and in no rush to return to the workplace. 

You seem to have everything you need and are more than comfortable. Can it be that your fear of changing your lifestyle from one of abundance to one of acceptance of what is, is more than you choose to face?  Look to see if your desire to control him, your desire to "crack the whip," so to speak, to get him back to work, is something he doesn't wish to be part of today?

Your Angels want to know if you are doing your best to pick up the financial slack? Look to see if you are expecting him to support your lifestyle, but are not so excited about creating it on your own.
I am noticing a little defiance on both sides.  He seems defiant in his unwillingness to have you be the boss; you seem defiant in your unwillingness to fill in for him while he relaxes.

Your husband seems to be enjoying playing for awhile. If that means you are the support, then maybe you might start looking, either for job for yourself, or a release from your marriage to find another man who is happy to support you financially and be the old-fashioned "man of the house." 

Dear Angels,
"I'm very worried about getting work and I fear I may not be able to stay in my apartment.  Is there anything coming soon?"  Marie, San Diego, CA

Dear Marie,
This is a more interesting quandary than my first reading presented. What I'm seeing is that you want a job, but not exactly. Maybe you are not giving the position itself the respect it deserves.  You are not speaking out for what you want, probably because you seem unable to follow what your heart is telling you.

You are a spiritual woman who has a sense of what you would like to do;  however, you are being held back by your own dishonesty about your capabilities. This doesn't mean that you cheat and lie to others. It is rather you do not seem to be able to acknowledge your own abilities in the everyday world, or your own spiritual worth.

Instead you seem to be looking at your worst memories of times when you failed. You are remembering all the things you heard about yourself, many of which were not true.  Instead of assimilating the respect that you deserve, you have taken in the criticism that came from a judgmental heart.  You are afraid to step out. To take a risk.  You have created a situation where you are backed up against the wall.

Funny how we do these things to ourselves. When there is no one to beat us up, we do it to ourselves.  You are not alone, Marie.  This is part of human nature, a specialty of third dimensional thought, which we are working to shed currently.  

If you allow yourself to begin to dream, to talk nicely to yourself, and to hold a picture of how you would like to live, job and all, you can create a positive change. In order to ford our personal River Grande, we create situations where there appears to be no choice. This is one of those. 

Allow yourself to ask for guidance from a place of peace, or even desperation will do because it allows us to surrender our personal will.  In this place of giving up, you will find that the apparent "end of the line," always forces us to look at things differently. I believe that we create these situations in our lives to move us forward onto our spiritual path. 

You are not here to give up, as in, "I can't go on."  You are someone who needs to rant and rail and let your anger out at the injustice of it all. You are much more powerful than you imagine.  Your Angels are behind you, helping you leap off the cliff.  Notice when you do, that they are holding the safety net for you as well.

Marie, you are deeply loved. You are here to take the risks you saw before you entered this body.. When you decided to make this trip into this life, you knew for a fact that no harm could befall you. It was all a movie in which you decided to play the lead.  Now create a different scene than what your fear holds.

The old way of approaching life will get you nowhere in your new life in the 4th and 5th dimensions.

Dear Angels,
"I always seem unhappy with myself and can't get over my guilt of hurting my family when I left.  Will I ever by happy?  I do believe in angels and know they are always with you, but am I supposed to be doing something else?"  Irene, Staffordshire, Eng.

Dear Irene,
Your Angels are showing me that you are ready to begin anew. You have an idea, maybe a desire, to change things in your life. Maybe to get a new job.  Although you believe in your Angels, it looks as if you feel as if you have not been able to connect with them in a way that feeds you.

Things have been moving along slowly in your life, probably because you lost your sense of yourself. It looks as if you did everything you could to make things work at home, but no matter what you did, no matter how you tried to reinvent yourself, the situation didn't rectify.  These things happen.  You may notice that many of us have friends instead of family for the exact same reason.

Your challenge is to pull yourself together by finding something small each day that makes you smile.  A quick walk outside.  A cup of coffee with a friend. A giggle over some silly thing that happened. Your challenge is to reinvent yourself, this time respecting you. There are some people who are impossible to please. There is no need to take yourself down the tubes at the same time. 

Your Angels are showing me you are beginning to come out from hiding. You are beginning to move forward. It is definitely time to release what doesn't work, and to begin again.  Imagine how you would really like to feel if everything was as you wished.  Then allow yourself to create a new life for yourself.  In this allowing, you will design a new and better situation for yourself.  Only you can imagine the joy you would like to feel. Then allow yourself to feel it.

It's time to put a new DVD in the slot. This time select a family film where you all love each other  and allow yourself space to grow, each exploring your own version of the world.

Dear Angels,
"Why am I stuck on this side of the hurdle this time when I know I have climbed much higher ones in the past? Is it really much bigger than I realize or am I just too weak now?  What am I still not getting and what am I doing so horribly wrong?  Christy, Cape May, NJ

Hi Christy,
I don't see you doing anything wrong. You have put your energy into a business that you had every reason to expect would be successful, and it's not. Nothing is happening.  You have done everything possible to move forward,  released any negativity that you felt hanging around you, and still have been unable to create the success you envision.  You might even feel a little victimized, as if the happy ending you were promised was sugar coated. You are experiencing the fallacy of "the secret."  It's not that it doesn't work, it's that it is accessible only through your fifth dimensional eyes.

The challenge is to begin again. We are all in a place of learning to let go of what doesn't work.  The Angels laugh when they ask, "Howcan we expect to create what we do want if we are holding onto what we do not want? "  We are being retrained to pay attention to our hearts and listen to what makes us spontaneously burst into song.  We are learning to trust in the Unseen.  You, Christy, know this.  The economics of life drag you back into the old third dimensional thinking.

The challenge is to be still and to ask for guidance.  Then trust that Someone is listening. In order to do this, we have to let go of what we think matters. We have to surrender  and mean it. Then the Universe can send us a slightly different package that will match our dreams.

Dear Angels,
"Can the angels tell me if I need to consider new or different avenues other than what I'm doing now in offering myself in service in my business?"  Carolyn, Tierra Santa, Ca

Dear Carolyn,
It looks as if you have been holding back from really pushing forward in your business, not because you are unable to do it, but rather from leftover childhood feelings of not being competent, or perhaps being criticized for your abilities or interests. 

What's clear is there is nothing wrong with what you do now. If you are uncomfortable with what you do, however, that can impede the flow of clientele.  It seems as if your fear of being yourself, is creating an impediment to moving forward. It's as if your pilot light is extinguished when it doesn't need to be. You are the only one in control.  Only you can light the fire within you to ignite your clients.  Your personal pilot light flickers on and off only from your fear of being yourself.

You seem to be a consciously guided spiritual woman with terrific creative abilities. Not only that, but you like to have fun.  If you can let yourself do what comes naturally and stop worrying about branching out to what makes you uncomfortable, you will do fine.  Any "fancy stuff" can come later if and when you feel safe within yourself.

Dear Angels,
"What is my life's purpose or what am I here to do?  I feel like I'm being 'nudged' to do something else altogether.  Thank you!"  Beth, Liberty, Missouri

Dear Beth,
What your Angels are showing me is that you are a spiritually aligned woman who is trudging along, not making much money and without the balance that you would like in your life.  You seem to have terrific ideas, but then are not able to carry them forward. 

Your challenge is to listen to what makes your heart sing.  Pay attention to what makes your little kid within grin. What makes her feel so special, so joyful and at the same time safe, that she knows she's on the right path.  When you are able to balance your ideas with the ability to go for what you might think is impossible, and at the same time, let your little kid soar, you will have it. In order to move into the "impossible," we need to imagine and expect our dream to happen, all the while moving forward to create it, while being open to asking and listening to our guidance. 

The way you will find this is to bring yourself back into your body; i.e. ground your energy.  It's wonderful to go up into the ethers and play around for ideas.  In order to materialize these ideas on earth, you have to be in a balanced emotional state so you can think clearly and then take action. Often we think that some magical path will open in the sky to create our extraordinary dream.  If you are able to do this, please let us all know.

What is clear is it is time for you to look within, and to change your life for the better. You have tried what appeared to be everything and your life did not evolve the way you had hoped. It is time to change your "hoped for" to hope, all the while holding a picture of what you really want but are afraid to acknowledge.  Why would you be afraid to acknowledge your dream?  Because if you acknowledge it, then you will feel like you have to "go for it." 

This question was answered by Ann Landers or Dear Abby,  years ago, when a woman in her mid thirties asked about becoming a doctor but was afraid she'd be too old when she finished her training.  Whichever one was asked, said something like, "You will be 45 when you are finished.  You will be 45 anyway. Wouldn't you rather be doing what you love?"

Dear Angels,
"Do you have any suggestions for reaching my client audience in a new or different way to attract more business?  I'd appreciate anything you can pass along!"  Linda, Riverside, CA

Hi Linda,
If nothing else, this Q&A with your Angels has taught me that you can ask the impossible for me to know personally, but somehow, something always comes through. So thank you Linda, and everyone else who asks.  You give me the opportunity to fine tune my Angel channel. 

I'm being shown that whatever you are doing, is a good fit for you.  You have a natural balance that inherently, we all search for.  You are not afraid to take action (the male energy,) but you also have the ability to back off and ask for help (the female energy,) and the certainty that comes from knowing we are not alone on this piece of turf;  that in fact there is something we can't see that is here to guide us (the spiritual energy.)

That being said, you are already ahead of most of the population.  You have something to offer.  If you're a coach, you have what it takes to guide others.

What I see is that you do "go for it," but you can't quite seem to move into the next cycle.
It appears as if had a domineering guy with his nose  in your business life who liked to poison your space. He sucked your energy until you felt as if you were no longer yourself.  You weren't. 

Now there is a new guy, who appears to be easy-going and helpful. In fact the exact opposite of what you had before. In order to attract new clients or bring in more business, you have to take back your fire. Pull yourself together and take charge of, and for, yourself.  Yes, you have been stung. Yes, it hurt.  And yes, you can more forward.

Something happened where you felt like the bottom fell out of your life.  Although it was painful and shocking, it simply brought the truth out for you in a way you couldn't miss.  Now it is time for you to move forward.  Time to exert your determination, your chutzpah and your brains, and put behind the past.  You have what it takes to succeed. You were simply misguided. Instead of listening to your inner truth, you listened to a body who thought his way was the correct way.  You know how to listen to your heart. It is who you are.